Esto es lo que realmente ha ganado al perderle

Mientras estabas con él, pensabas que el mundo entero estaba al alcance de tu mano. Pensaste que lo que tenías con él era lo máximo porque hizo todo lo posible para que te enamoraras de él.

Unfortunately, after his “Mr. Darcy” period, instead of rising to new heights together, your whole world fell apart.

The truth is, you never really had him in the first place. You had an illusion of him and that’s it. You fell for a side of him that wasn’t truly his.

You fell for the guy he chose to show you, but he wasn’t that guy. He was totally the opposite of a good guy. He was toxic and you had no idea.

El problema con formar parte de una relación tóxica is that you don’t even realize  that you’re in one.

¿Recuerdas el cuento de la rana y el agua hirviendo?

Pues bien, la rana no tenía ni idea de que el agua estaba cada vez más caliente hasta que fue demasiado tarde.

The same thing might’ve happened to you—you might have stayed in a toxic relationship till there was nothing left of you anymore.

Por suerte, saltaste del agua hirviendo justo a tiempo para salvarte.

Al principio, después de perderle, sentías como si hubieras perdido todo lo que te era familiar. Parecía que el suelo bajo tus pies había desaparecido y que sólo era cuestión de tiempo que cayeras al agujero. Pero la realidad era muy distinta.

Yes, by losing him, you lost a few things as well. Luckily, none of those things was a good thing. It’s nothing you should cry for.

Tu ansiedad te abandonó junto a él.

Los dos tardaron demasiado en recoger sus cosas e irse, pero fue un gran alivio cuando aquellos invitados abandonaron su casa.

Solías temblar ante la más mínima cosa que hacías porque no dejabas de anticipar su reacción.

Todo lo que hacías iba seguido del miedo a que no lo aprobara, a que no lo entendiera y a que te metiera en problemas.

For a long time, you were the girl that didn’t care for anyone’s opinion, but he made you feel insecure and scared, and for each and every thing you did or thought of doing, you felt like you needed his approval.

You needed him to go along with your ideas otherwise you’d live in hell with him withdrawing his attention and love from you. When you let him go, you let your anxiety go as well.

Después de perderlo, perdiste la sensación de tener a alguien y no ser amada.

After he’d emotionally punish you for anything and everything, you’d just sit there, next to the man you love, and you’d feel like the loneliest person in the world.

If you’d just have stretched your arm, you could’ve touched him, but what was the use of it? After the episodes he’d put you through, he seemed more like your headsman than the man that loves and cares for you.

Después de perderlo, te libraste de la tortura de tenerlo sentado a tu lado estando a una milla de distancia. 

If it was really a loss, I’d say it was a good loss.

You might think now that you’re missing a lot since he’s gone, but all the things that you’re left without now are the things that were actually not good for you.

Even if those things might have felt good, they were used for one sole purpose—for a toxic man to make you stay with him.

If you’d free yourself from the idea that you need him, you’d see that you’re doing really fine. If you’d just open your eyes, you’d see that you gained a lot more than you lost.

Ganaste tu libertad al perderle.

There isn’t a thing in this world holding you back now. There isn’t a thing or a person that might stop you. Y

ou are not going to hear a big fat ‘NO’ from anybody because nobody has that power over you, anymore. You finally took your freedom back in your hands—the only place where it really belongs.

Usted ganó su love de perderlo.

You might think he’s your love, but he isn’t and he wasn’t. You need to let go of that idea and only then you’ll see where true love lies.

Encuentras el amor por las mañanas, cuando te despiertas y ya no tienes miedo. Encuentras el amor leyendo ese libro o sonriendo a un desconocido cualquiera.

You find love in your family and your friends that you get to see now since he’s no longer there to give you a hard time for making space in your heart for anybody else but him.

Encontraste la felicidad después de perderlo.

You might not see it yet, but you are happier now. The wrinkles that you have around your eyes are not from frowning or crying, but from those happy moments you’re living now.

You are a different person—you resemble the girl that you were before he made you change.

Recuperaste la confianza después de perderlo.

You might think that you were confident because you had him sitting with you at the table or because you never had to walk into a room full of people alone, but that’s not what confidence is about.

You might have been confident when he was around, but the moment he left you alone, you’d start panicking and screaming inside.

You’d feel like there is a part of you missing and that you can’t do anything on your own. Luckily, that changed as well.

Ahora puedes entrar en una habitación llena de gente y sentirte segura de ti misma. Ahora puedes verte en el espejo y sentirte guapa.

No hay nadie que te diga lo contrario. Ahora puedes tener esa entrevista de trabajo y ver si consigues el puesto porque no hay nadie que te lo impida haciéndote sentir incompetente.

Now, you get to become whoever you want because there is nobody to tell you you can’t.

Recuperaste tu vida después de perderlo.

Aunque dejó una cicatriz en tu corazón y puede que lloraras al cerrar la última página de tu libro con él.

Ahora hay espacio para cosas nuevas. Todavía puedes escribir otro libro y esta vez asegúrate de que tenga un final feliz.