No salgas con él si esperas cambiarlo

Has conocido a un chico, pero no sabes qué pensar de él ni de tu posible relación con él.

Let’s get one thing straight—you don’t have any doubts about your feelings for this man. You like him very much and you are even falling in love with him hard.

This guy gives you butterflies you haven’t felt in a long time and you feel like you can’t keep your hands off him. But you also know that this is more than passion and atracción física.

Sí, este hombre te atrae sexualmente, pero hay algo más entre vosotros dos. También te atrae su cerebro y ha provocado diferentes emociones en tu interior.

Therefore, you’ve caught yourself picturing a serious relationship with this guy and planning a life with him.

Pero, por otro lado, también estás preocupada. Aunque sientes algo muy fuerte por ese chico, eres consciente de las cosas que te rodean y puedes ver tu relación con él de forma realista.

You know that you and this man are quite different and you can see some of his personality traits and behavior patterns that you don’t like.

Although you know that you both have your flaws and you don’t expect to have a perfect boyfriend because you don’t think of yourself as perfect either, there are still some things about this guy that you don’t know if you can accept or if you’ll ever be able to accept.

You are simply afraid that the two of you won’t get along and that you are not compatible, as much as you don’t want that to be.

A veces piensas que sólo debes escuchar a tu corazón y que debes ignorar estos pensamientos y simplemente dejarte llevar por la corriente.

Aunque siempre estoy del lado del amor y aunque también te aconsejo que escuches a tu corazón, tengo que decirte que también tengas en cuenta estos pensamientos que pasan por tu cabeza y que reconsideres todo sobre este chico y tu posible relación.

The truth is that, in general, people don’t change. Even when they do, they do it for their own reasons and only because they think it’s the right thing to do. I know many women hope to change the man by their side but the harsh truth is that they rarely succeed in doing so.

So please, don’t be one of those women because you’ll fail and you’ll only end up hurt. Don’t try to change this man because that will only bring dissatisfaction to your relationship and it will make both of you feel miserable.

You will be disappointed for not succeeding and because sooner or later, you’ll see that you are fighting with the windmills. On the other hand, it is probable that tiene fuertes sentimientos hacia ti y puede que se esfuerce por adaptarse a tus normas y cambiar su forma de ser.

But he will lose his true self in the process of trying to make you happy. And ironically, this won’t make either of you happy. Instead, it will just ruin both of you individually and it will ruin any chance of you two having a successful relationship.

En lugar de intentar cambiarle, decide si puedes aceptarle tal y como es. Porque si amas de verdad a un hombre, aceptarás todos sus defectos e imperfecciones junto con sus lados buenos.

Con ello, no sólo le estás demostrando tu amor, sino también que respetas su integridad y le respetas como hombre y como persona. Sólo así le darás la oportunidad de ser él mismo a tu lado, y eso le hará sentir mejor. haz que se enamore de ti como un loco.

I am not saying that you should put up with all the bullshit he puts you through. On the contrary, I am just telling you to make up your mind before involving yourself in anything serious. I am telling you to reach your decision without planning on changing him in the future or without realizing you can’t accept him after all.