Esta es la forma de responder cuando él te abandona en el último minuto si te importa conservarlo
I totally get it, you’re all excited for your date with him, but then, a couple of hours before, he texts saying something unexpected came up and he can’t make it.
Naturally, you’re furious and want to let him have it!
Realmente quieres mantenerte fresco and pretend you’re okay with him canceling, but you simply CAN’T.
Here’s the deal: how you respond to him bailing on is un factor decisivo para el futuro de su relación. Este texto afectará a su voluntad de querer volver a verte.
A relationship coach from the west coast of Canada, Amy North, shares advice about…
¿Cómo deberías responder a su abandono?
“The message you send will have a huge impact on whether or not he wants to see you again in the future.”
Luego continúa con un ejemplo en el que tenías planes para una cita con tu novio y un Unas horas antes, tu mejor amigo te llama para pedirte ayuda. She’s in the middle of nowhere with her car being broken down.
Tienes que ir y echarle una mano but that means you’ll have to cancel your date. Imagine if your boyfriend replies with:
“Not a problem, you’re a good friend. Let’s catch up this weekend when you’re free. Drive safe! :)”
When you get this you’re melting and wishing to spend time with him. But if he replies like:
“Are you kidding me? That’s cool.”
You’ll think he’s a selfish jerk and maybe you’ll never wanna see him again.
Lo que ocurre con este tipo de respuesta es que it’s hard to interpret what it means: is he rude or surprised? ¿Pillaste alguna vibración pasivo-agresiva en su texto?
Así que asegúrate de que cuando le respondas
“The text you’re sending is crystal clear and positive.”
After you’re being reasonable and calm, he’ll want to see you again and even feel bad for canceling tu cita.
No importa cómo te sientas sobre él siendo desconsiderado, debes evitar mostrarte indignado o pasivo-agresivo. Tómate tu tiempo, cálmate y envíale un mensaje con cuidado y consideración.
“Compose a nice text message and let him know it’s fine that he can’t make it tonight.”
However hard it may be as you’re feeling let down and disappointed, this is very important.
El truco está en enseñárselo:
So if he’s unable to meet you, no es un gran problema para ti. Tienes otras cosas que hacer.
Your reaction, also, shows something else: you’re a grounded and rational person and you’re flexible when things don’t go as planned.
Nadie quiere estar con una chica que pierde los estribos rápidamente.
Cuando elimines la amenaza de enfadarte con él por abandonarte, se sentirá aliviado y querrá volver a verte.
Amy then shares what is…
El mensaje exacto que debe enviarle
Este texto debe contener tres elementos:
So basically, you’re communicating that you’re ok, that you’ll be busy for a couple of days and you send him good wishes. If you’ve been wondering what is the point of the second element here’s her take:
“Even if you have nothing going on over the next few days, it’s crucial that you say otherwise. Giving an impression that your life is fully exciting is important because it’ll make you seem interesting and make him want to be a part of your fun lifestyle.”
That way you’ll not look desperate as you’ve been sitting and waiting for him to show up.
Tu actitud fría haz que actúe rápido para evitar la posibilidad de perderte. Se preocupará de que alguien aparezca en tu vida y te deslumbre.
Hay que hacerse el duro, gurl!
Make sure to go out and have fun, so next time you see him, you’ll have a lot to talk about.
Sugiere una regla general es esperar al menos 48 horas después de que cancele.
Tu mensaje debería ser algo parecido a esto:
“Hey, that’s OK. I understand you’re busy. I have a lot going on these next few days. But if you want to catch up this weekend, I’m available. I hope you have a good night.”
Even when you don’t plan on seeing him ever again be kind and positive. Or if he tends to cancel often make sure to tell him about frustrations you’re going through pero mantén un tono tranquilo.
En el YouTube vídeoEn cuanto a las respuestas de texto, hay otros consejos y plantillas que pueden ser útiles en estas situaciones.
Anótalo, mantén la calma y juega bien la próxima vez.
