El entrenador del amor explica la razón por la que los chicos te hacen ghosting

It’s frustrating to invest yourself in someone only for them to disappear like nothing happened. You think you have this amazing energy going on, everything seems great, and then…poof! It’s all gone!

We’ve all been there, preguntándome si dijimos o hicimos algo que los ahuyentara.

Una vez tuve una cita con un chico, nos seguimos mandando mensajes después de la cita e incluso me dijo que le hacía ilusión volver a salir conmigo. La química era una locura.

Esto duró un par de días y una noche de repente me dejó colgada. Pensé que tal vez se había quedado dormido, pero no, recibí su respuesta tres días después. ¡¡Tres días después!! ¿Te lo puedes imaginar?

Dado que muchas mujeres se enfrentan a este problema, un coach del amor ha decidido por fin tranquilizarnos y explicarnos el porqué de esta situación. 

Ultimate test of women’s reaction

Entrenador del amor, Brody Boyd publicó un TikTok acerca de por qué los chicos desaparecen de repente durante la fase de citas. Al parecer, fantasmearon para ver nuestra reacción.

Brody dice:

“He won’t text you back or he’ll disappear or go missing to see how you respond. I’m not saying this is great and in fact he could be doing this unconsciously or he could be doing it consciously, but when a guy ‘goes missing’ or pulls away in that way often it is a test.”

Explica además que lo hacen porque they want to find out what’s your personality like. If you get pissed off immediately and send him a bunch of texts, he’ll think you’re desperate. 

La cuestión es men don’t want a woman who’s needy so by attacking him you can only push him further away and lose him forever. On the other hand, if you keep your cool, don’t bother asking him why he’s not responding, that’s a plus. 

Brody says if you continue with your life, this will send a strong message that you know your value and won’t accept this behavior. So he’ll think you have standards and want someone more available. 

Women didn’t like what this love coach had to say and didn’t hesitate to write that in the comments. Many said that this is not a test but a huge red flag, and some wrote that acting this way is childish and women don’t have time for playing games. 

Una mujer escribió:

“Why do people feel the need to play games anyway! Too old for the BS! Life is already difficult enough to try work out what’s really going on.”

Otro añadió:

“He can do that for sure. But once my text or call goes unanswered he won’t receive a reply when he decides to come back.

Honestly, I agree and love this energy in the comments. But if you really like him, it can be hard to simply move on with your life. So, what do you do when you just can’t let it go?

Do this when he doesn’t text you back

El entrenador del amor siguió con otro vídeo para darle consejos sobre cómo actuar si se encuentra en esta situación.

Dijo que lo mejor que puedes hacer es olvidarte de él y haz lo que tengas que hacer para no contestar. Como dice Brody:

“Make sure to give him the space and realize that most likely he’s probably not gonna reach back out and the only thing that will probably cause him to reach back out is you not acting needy, not acting desperate, not sending something that you’ll later regret.”

También explicó que esto te animaría a no encariñarte fácilmente y molestarte sin motivo para poder centrarte en otras cosas.

Then if he eventually texts you back it will only be a pleasant surprise because you weren’t expecting it in the first place. So basically, ¡sin ataduras!

Trust me, I know how hard following this advice can be! It’s like you’re waiting for someone that might never come. However, redirigir tu energía y centrarte en otra cosa es realmente útil.

Whenever I had the urge to take my phone and text him I would tell myself that I shouldn’t chase anyone, and neither should you, girl! Doing something to take my mind off him always does wonders.

Just don’t overthink it! Go out with your girls, and even start dating other people if you want. In that way, you’ll focus on something else that can also bring you joy and satisfaction. Maybe you even find someone who’s more available and ready to give you the attention you need. 

En cualquier caso, haz lo que te haga feliz, y if you’re not in the mood for games, move on and don’t waste your time!