La forma correcta de conquistar su corazón, según su lenguaje amoroso
Seguro que ya ha oído hablar de los cinco lenguajes del amor: cinco formas distintas de dar y recibir amor.
Cada uno de nosotros tiene un lenguaje amoroso primario, el que más nos hace sentir queridos, deseados y apreciados.
When you care for someone deeply, even if you don’t speak the same love language, it becomes crucial to you for this person to understand how much they mean to you and you’re searching for the best path toward their heart.
Well, that’s why we’re here to assist you by giving you the right way to win your partner’s heart, according to his primary love language.
1. Palabras de afirmación
Es un chico que necesita tu aprobación constante. Aunque no lo admita, le gustará oír cómo le felicitas y alabas sus logros.
So, when you’re trying to win him over, don’t play typical modern dating games.
Don’t wait to express your feelings to him, don’t hold back on ‘I love yous’ and don’t even think of putting him down to make him chase you.
He is not like any other men you’ve met and all of this behavior will only push him away from you.
If you don’t verbalize your emotions enough and if you stay silent about how much he means to you, he’ll feel desatendida emocionalmente y no deseados.
Por lo tanto, si de verdad quieres meterte en su piel, sé el viento bajo sus alas.
Apóyale en todo lo que intente hacer y demuéstrale que crees en él, incluso cuando pierda la fe en sus propias capacidades.
Muéstrale que sus logros son importantes y que sabes que puede conseguirlo.
Respond to his texts, brag to other people about your relationship in front of him, write him love letters, compliment him in front of others, don’t compare him to other guys and make sure he knows how much he means to you at all times.
When it comes to the bedroom, don’t forget to praise his skills here either.
If he does something you don’t like, be careful about criticizing him and carefully choose your words when you’re about to complain about his performance.
Recuerda que este chico tiene un ego bastante frágil y la mejor forma de llegar a su corazón es reforzar su autoestima.
Make sure he knows he is the only man you’d ever be with and that he sees how much you respect him and everything he does.
2. Actos de servicio
Contrary to the previous guy, the man whose love language is acts of service doesn’t give much of a damn about what you say.
He won’t fall for your words and you can go on and on about how much you love him but if he doesn’t feel your love, you won’t have a lot of luck getting into his heart.
Cuando quiera ganar su corazón y su mentetus acciones deben corresponder a tus palabras.
He is someone you have to be extra careful with because it’s over for you if he catches you giving him false promises.
Por supuesto, lo primero que debes hacer es estar a su lado cuando te necesite.
Give him a hand when he is going through hard times and I promise you that he’ll appreciate it forever.
However, what makes this type different from every other man you’ve ever dated are the little things he puts his focus on and sees as a test of your feelings.
Te guardará rencor por algo que esperaba que hicieras por él, aunque probablemente a ti te pareciera lo más irrelevante del mundo.
Para un hombre como él, era algo importante. Y si usted está tratando de ganar su corazón, usted tiene que empezar a prestar especial atención a ellos también.
It’s actually pretty simple; you have to SHOW this man that you care.
No, he doesn’t need you to be his slave and do chores for him—he just wants to see that his well-being and comfort are important to you.
Make him coffee, cook his favorite meal, do a simple errand on his behalf, help him clean his apartment, put his favorite music in your car, make him a bubble bath…
Créeme, cada uno de estos gestos significará mucho para él.
3. Recibir regalos
When they hear about the love language called ‘receiving gifts’, most people think it’s reserved for just gold-diggers and that it is closely connected to everything materialistic.
A primera vista, suponen que la única forma de conseguir que estas personas te quieran es haciéndoles regalos caros, llevándoles a cenas elegantes y, básicamente, comprando su amor.
Therefore, they assume you can forget about dating someone with this love language unless you’re filthy rich.
Well, the truth is quite different because receiving gifts actually doesn’t have anything to do with money or anything materialistic.
It’s just that these people enjoy knowing the fact that their significant other thought of them at a given moment and remembered to buy or make them a gift.
Of course, this present doesn’t have to be expensive. In fact, it can be a little something that shows the guy you care for was on your mind.
La mejor manera de demostrar tus emociones a un hombre como él es, en realidad, hacerle algo tú misma.
Le encantará que te esfuerces en sorprenderle y le hagas sonreír.
What they hate are ‘random’ presents without any deeper meaning.
Don’t get him some shower gel or something similar that shows that you didn’t want to appear empty-handed but
invirtió cero pensamiento en la elección de su regalo.
En lugar de eso, céntrate en cosas personalizadas. Regálale algo que tenga significado y que le recuerde siempre a ti.
Además, le dejarás boquiabierto si prestas más atención a lo que dice.
¿Recuerdas esa camisa que estaba mirando escaparates hace unos meses? Pues bien, su cumpleaños es la oportunidad perfecta para que lo reciba.
¿Recuerdas que no paraba de hablar, por ejemplo, de su juguete favorito cuando era niño? ¿Por qué no comprarle ese mismo juguete ahora?
In fact, you don’t have to wait for a special occasion to buy or make something for this man.
En cambio, se emocionará aún más si ve que le quieres igual todos los días.
4. Tiempo de calidad
A primera vista, podrías pensar que este hombre está demasiado necesitado.
After all, he acts like he wants to spend every minute of his free time with you and you’re afraid that the two of you will get bored of each other if you keep going at this pace.
Well, let me tell you a little secret—he doesn’t care about the amount of time he spends with you as much as he is interested in its quality.
No, no es el tipo posesivo—he just wants to have your undivided attention whenever you two are together.
Besides, the fact that he can’t get enough of you is a good sign. It means that he’s crazy about you and that you’re already halfway there in winning him over completely.
Therefore, whenever you’re with him, put all your focus on whatever he’s telling you.
Demuéstrale que sabes escuchar y que cada palabra que sale de su boca importa.
Stay away from social media and your phone in general. Don’t think about bringing your friends along because he wants to have some privacy with you.
Put an effort into planning your dates and don’t always go to the same coffee shop, as comfortable as you might feel there. Instead, suggest some new activities you know he would like.
Sorpréndele reservando una escapada romántica de fin de semana y planificando todo el viaje juntos.
Recójale después del trabajo y llévele a un balneario o a pasar unas horas en la naturaleza.
No importa lo ocupados que estéis los dos, encontrad tiempo para él y aseguraos de que está bien empleado.
5. Tacto físico
When you hear that a guy’s ‘love language’ is connected with physical touch, the first thing you have in mind is that he is a player who only wants to get into your pants.
You think he doesn’t care about anything besides getting laid and that’s the last type of man you want.
Besides, if getting physical is the only way he can feel the depth of another person’s feelings, there must be something seriously wrong with him.
After all, you don’t plan on proving your love to him by letting him take you home.
Even though these thoughts you’ve been having are nothing unusual, I have to tell you that men whose love language is physical touch are not sex maniacs who have only one thing on their minds. Instead, they crave intimacy on more than one superficial level.
Therefore, he won’t think that you love him only when you sleep with him as there are many other ways in which you can show him your feelings outside of the bedroom.
Start with a PDA—he sees it as a confirmation of your intentions. Don’t kiss him just when you two greet or when you’re about to have some action; do it out of nowhere.
Hug him tightly every time you have a chance to. Grab his hand or touch him when no one sees it, just to show him that you’re there and that you’re not going anywhere.
Most importantly—abrazar antes, durante y después del coito.
