No te conformes con un chico que no está preparado para ser un hombre

You’ve always been someone who’s followed your heart, especially when it came to love and romantic relations. Even when your mind was telling you that something was a bad idea and when you clearly saw that a certain guy was not good for you, you would still let your emotions guide you and they were always stronger than your reason.

But when you come to think of it and when you look at your life so far from this point of view, you see that you’ve made some wrong choices.

Hubo momentos en que tu corazón te guió a algunas decisiones equivocadas y a algunos hombres equivocados.

La mayoría de estos hombres eran emocionalmente inmaduro and they didn’t know what they wanted from life.

Yes, at first, they were attractive and interesting. They were fun to be around and they made you feel good. They made you feel like there was no tomorrow and like you shouldn’t have a care on your mind.

Pero ninguno de estos chicos tenía lo que realmente hacía falta. Ninguno de ellos tenía madera de novio y ninguno estaba preparado para construir una vida contigo. La mayoría de ellos simplemente vivían el momento, sin pensar en el futuro.

And although living your life day by day was fun at the time because you didn’t burden yourself with future plans, when you come to think of it, this type of guy rarely brought you something good in the long run.

Está claro que todos estos chicos eran niños en lugar de hombres.

En weren’t ready to commit y rara vez estaban dispuestos a asumir la responsabilidad de sus palabras y acciones.

Yes, you would fall in love in love with them hard but when those initial butterflies would fade away, you would immediately see that these boys couldn’t offer you what you were looking for.
Viste que merecías más. Y yo estoy aquí para decirte que tenías razón.

After all, you are not some immature girl who doesn’t know what she wants. Instead, you are a grown ass, independent woman who has a clear vision of the future and who needs a real man to accompany her through life.

You don’t need a boy who needs you to save him and to lead him through life.

You don’t need a mama’s boy que quiere que seas su padre, un hombre que se sentirá intimidado y amenazado por estar contigo.

En su lugar, necesitas un hombre que te deje ser independiente y que te permita tener una vida propia. Someone who won’t feel the need to complete you but who will want you two to be equals in your relationship.

Necesitas un hombre que confíe en ti, pero también un hombre en el que tú puedas confiar—a man who will be your equal partner through life and someone who will be your rock, your home and your safe haven. I am not telling you that you need to find someone who will secure you financially, but you don’t need a lazy boy who never thinks of the future and who doesn’t know what he wants to achieve in life.

Definitivamente necesitas un hombre ambicioso que tenga metas en la vida y que pueda apoyarte en tus logros. Necesitas a alguien que sepa lo que quiere y que no tenga miedo de conseguirlo.

You don’t need a boy who is scared of commitment and of real relationship. You don’t need someone who will back out on you when things get serious or someone who will run away the second things get rough and when you need him the most.

En su lugar, you need a man who is ready to share his life with someone and who knows when it’s time to take responsibility for some things. Necesitas un hombre maduro que no tenga miedo de todo lo que la vida trae consigo.

Y sobre todo, you need a man who won’t be intimidated by your strength and power. You don’t need someone to hold you back to make himself feel better and to make himself look like a bigger man because that is exactly what boys do. You don’t need someone who will use you for his own insecurities and to boost his fragile ego.

En cambio, necesitas a alguien que siempre te empuje hacia adelante sin intentar cambiarte. Necesitas a alguien que te acepte en tu grandeza y que te inspire a ser aún más grande y mejor, porque eso es exactamente lo que hará un hombre de verdad.