Si intentas arreglarlo, acabarás haciéndote daño a ti misma

Sé que crees que eres lo suficientemente fuerte como para arreglarlo. Sé que crees que tienes suficiente energía para luchar.

I know you think you have enough love for both of you. But your strength will weaken, your energy will wear off and your love will be exhausted because it can’t survive without reciprocity.

Te estás aferrando a algo que tenías y que ya no existe. Te estás aferrando a la imagen del hombre que solía ser.

Esperas poder volver a ser como antes, que él vuelva a ser el mismo hombre amable y cariñoso que era. Pero ese hombre ya no está ahí. Ahora estás con alguien a quien ya no reconoces.

Se volvió distante. Desinteresado. Casi nunca tiene tiempo para ti e incluso cuando lo tiene, es sólo una sombra del hombre que una vez conociste.

Cuando hablas con él, sigue haciendo promesas que nunca cumple. Necesita tiempo para enderezar su vida.

He is going through a rough patch right now and that’s why he treats you poorly. He will be el hombre que te mereces si le das un poco de tiempo.

But when you look at it, you have been waiting for forever and nothing has changed. You shouldn’t be the one paying the high price for his problems.

You shouldn’t suffer because he is miserable. You bend over backward to please him but it’s never enough.

Está tan acostumbrado a su papel de víctima que a estas alturas de vuestra relación siempre se le malinterpreta y siempre eres tú la culpable.

Pero sigues aguantando. Sigues dándole trozos de ti para que se sienta mejor.

You are putting his happiness before your own. What you don’t realize is that you can’t fix somebody who doesn’t want to be saved.

Y si te quedas y tratas de arreglarlo, nada te cortará tan profundo como esos pedazos suyos destrozados. Nada te hará más daño.

His brokenness and his dissatisfaction with his life don’t have anything to do with you, even if he makes you feel like that sometimes. You have this feeling that it’s your responsibility to help him but you can’t help a hopeless case.

You can’t do his job for him. Change comes only to those who welcome it into their lives. And he is clearly used to things being the way they are.

Lo único que deberías hacer es quererle hasta que se arregle. That’s what people in normal and healthy relationships do.

They support each other and they stay through thick and thin. That’s why you shouldn’t look at his problems like they are your own.

You shouldn’t fight battles that are not yours. You shouldn’t let him use you in that way.

Don’t you realize that somebody else in his shoes would thank God he has you? To have somebody who cares so much.

Somebody supportive. Somebody who stays no matter what. But he is not that somebody. He is taking your efforts for granted and he doesn’t appreciate you nearly as much as he should.

Que intentes arreglarle a él, que intentes arreglaros a los dos, probablemente esté empeorando las cosas. Sólo te estás moviendo en círculos de algo insano, de algo unilateral y totalmente codependiente.

Te descuidaste. Antepusiste sus necesidades a las tuyas y olvidaste que mereces que te quieran con la misma intensidad.

Te mereces a alguien que te apoye tanto como tú a él. Alguien que esté a tu lado cuando lo estés pasando mal.

Alguien con quien compartir tus risas y tus victorias. Alguien que te deje entrar por completo.

Someone who will know how to give as much as he takes. You don’t have that now.

Si te quedas y luchas un poco más, sólo te destruirá emocionalmente. Te quitará tanto que no tendrás nada que darte a ti misma.

You are probably already at your limit. His state of mind doesn’t give him the right to treat you badly.

You shouldn’t put up with everything just because you love so deeply.

Love shouldn’t consist only of sacrifice. Love should be something you are both involved in, something mutual.

Deberías ser capaz de ver sus esfuerzos, su inversión, su determinación por mejorar las cosas para ambos. If you are the only one trying, the only one fixing things, it is not love, it’s torture.

Don’t stay somewhere where you are not appreciated. Don’t be afraid to turn over a new leaf in a completely new book.

You deserve to be somebody’s everything. You deserve to be seen, listened to, and cared for. Mereces que te traten con respeto.

Te mereces el calor que aporta una relación satisfactoria. Mereces que te quieran.

Don’t waste away your days trying to fix someone or something that is broken beyond repair. You will only end up hurting yourself.