7 señales de que eres monógamo en serie
Un monógamo en serie es alguien que salta de una relación inmediatamente a otra.
They cannot stand to be alone and yet they have an issue with commitment that they’re not willing to admit.
It’s different from being promiscuous because they don’t mindlessly change their partners only for the sake of sex.
They prefer to be in a traditional type of relationship but unfortunately they don’t take time to reflect on their previous relationships and so keep making the same mistakes over and over again.
They don’t try to work on their insecurities and problems but believe that engaging in a relationship with a new person will solve their problems.
¿Te suena familiar? ¿Te has sorprendido alguna vez haciendo lo mismo, saltando de una relación a otra sólo para descubrir que la siguiente persona era un rebote?
Aquí tienes 7 señales de que podrías ser un monógamo en serie:
1. Inicia relaciones de forma rápida y sencilla
Parece que las cosas de las relaciones te vienen fácilmente. No tienes problemas para encontrar una persona con la que salir y sueles comprometerte demasiado pronto.
No te lo piensas dos veces a la hora de llamarles novio o novia.
Once you’re with them – you want to know everything. They become the center of your universe. You enjoy getting to know them and they don’t seem to mind that either.
2. You can’t remember the last time you were single for more than a few months
Every time your relationship ends, you don’t give yourself time to grieve and reflect on the things that led to the breakup.
Instead, you find yourself looking for someone new to take your mind off your previous relationship. Even if you don’t recognize that pattern immediately, looking back at the past you can see it clearly.
What was the longest period you’ve been single? Think about it.
3. You don’t really like the idea of dating
The whole concept of dating isn’t something you like. You want to be exclusive with one person and don’t like the idea of going on dates with more than one person.
Being committed and close to one person is the only thing you’re interested in. The problem is – it doesn’t last.
4. Poco después de cada ruptura, siempre encuentras a alguien que te gusta y terminas en una relación
A las personas que están acostumbradas a estar en pareja y les encanta comprometer su vida con otra persona les cuesta mucho estar solteras.
You’ve just happened to find another great person you like and decided to give it a go. Why not?
5. You’re romantic and idealistic
El problema es que realmente crees que las cosas serán diferentes con personas diferentes. Muchas personas adorables, románticas y muy idealistas tienen el mismo problema.
They’re obsessed with love, but fail to acknowledge practical problems in a relationship or get disappointed easily.
It’s not that being with different people won’t be different and better, it’s just that for the relationship to work out you need to work on yourself first.
In other words, you need to reflect on everything that wasn’t good in your previous relationship and learn from this before you enter another one. You need to be responsible and self-critical.
6. You love being in a relationship, but you’re always scared to take the next big step
We’ve already mentioned the fact that you like being in a relationship, but something about making things very serious (for example getting married) doesn’t sit well with you.
You get nervous and start questioning your relationship – and this often comes from taking all of the steps too fast without giving yourself time to think and possibly heal.
7. Sometimes when you look back at your exes – you can’t understand why you liked them
When you look back at your history of exes, sometimes you wonder what the hell you saw in those guys? They’re all so different and looking from your current perspective you can’t recall why you liked them.
Casi parece que nunca estuviste enamorado de ellos. ¿Podría ser cierto?
Don’t be afraid to be single
If you recognize yourself in any of these signs – don’t be disappointed. This isn’t something you have no control over.
Lo que tienes que hacer es admitir tus errores e intentar ser más consciente. Antes de iniciar una nueva relación, pregúntate si estás preparado.
La madurez viene de la autorreflexión, y de la madurez viene el amor real y duradero.
