13 señales de advertencia de un marido irrespetuoso que no debes ignorar
No te voy a mentir: ningún matrimonio es todo arco iris y unicornios, y no es nada fácil.
What nobody tells you at the beginning is not to expect a fairy tale and that in marriage, you’ll have to compromise on some things you would never usually put up with.
However, there is one thing you shouldn’t even think about tolerating and that is having a disrespectful husband.
You need to understand that there cannot exist love where there isn’t respect and that you can never build a relación sana with someone who doesn’t value you as a person or who belittles you in any way possible.
Nevertheless, sometimes you are the only one who doesn’t see the reality of your own marriage; the only one who doesn’t realize the truth and who fails to see that your husband doesn’t treat you right.
Por eso estamos aquí para ayudarte dándote estas 13 señales reveladoras de que tienes un marido irrespetuoso.
1. He isn’t honest
Una de las cosas más importantes en un matrimonio es la honestidad total.
Tu pareja matrimonial debe ser tu compañera de equipo y no hay lugar para las mentiras en tu relación, incluso cuando la verdad es dura y severa.
Don’t get me wrong—the two of you have the right to your own privacy but in case your husband is hiding something from you, no matter how small that is, especially if it is something related to your marriage, it is a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you enough.
He doesn’t want to share all the parts of his life with you and he is doing that for a reason. This is definitely a sign of disrespect and you should be aware of that.
2. Te compara con otras mujeres
A man who compares you to other women doesn’t respect and this is one of the clear signs your husband isn’t in love with you.
It doesn’t matter whether this woman is his ex or someone from his surroundings—he should never make you feel like you should compete for his attention against some other female.
Tu marido debe tener ojos sólo para ti y mirar a otras chicas y especialmente comentar su aspecto en tu presencia nunca es aceptable.
De ese modo, no hace más que menospreciarte y hacerte sentir mal. Y eso definitivamente no es señal de una relación sana y feliz, sino de un marido irrespetuoso.
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3. Nunca te cubre las espaldas
Un buen matrimonio es también una amistad. Es un juramento de que tú y tu pareja os apoyaréis mutuamente, pase lo que pase.
Sin embargo, esto no es algo que tu irrespetuoso marido haga nunca. No importa si tienes razón o no, él nunca se pone de tu parte.
Instead, he thinks that others are always right and that you are wrong. He thinks that you are not smart enough to handle some difficult problems and he doesn’t find you reliable.
If you see that your husband does something like this, you should know that you have a serious problem and that things can get worse if you don’t do something about it.
4. He doesn’t take care of your needs
Cuando te casas, lo primero que tienes que olvidar es el egoísmo.
You can’t look out for your needs only while not giving a damn about your partner’s well-being. However, this is exactly what your disrespectful husband has been doing.
The most important thing is that he is fed, clothed and satisfied. And you? Well, he doesn’t even ask if you are okay or if you are too tired to prepare dinner after an exhausting day at work.
He just thinks of himself and his needs and doesn’t feel bad if you don’t feel good. Your relationship is not like it used to be and you shouldn’t tolerate este tipo de comportamiento.
5. Nunca está dispuesto a transigir
If you feel that your husband makes all the important decisions in your marriage by himself and that he doesn’t ask you for your opinion, you should know that something is not right with your relationship.
If he constantly makes things go his way, no matter what you have to say, it means that he doesn’t respect you.
And you should definitely do something about it because you don’t deserve that kind of treatment. No woman does.
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6. He doesn’t listen to you
If your husband doesn’t listen to what you have to say, even if you are telling him something quite important, it means that he doesn’t respect you.
Sólo quiere que dejes de hablar porque le pareces aburrida. Cuando una pareja llega a una etapa como esta, definitivamente deben encontrar una solución al problema porque esto no es una relación sana.
7. Usted no es su prioridad
Si tu marido te aparta de su vida y pasa más tiempo con sus amigos, significa que no te respeta.
He enjoys spending time with other people more than with you and you can’t make a deeper bond with him.
Además, cuando los dos pasáis algún tiempo juntos, siempre os peleáis, lo que también es una señal de falta de respeto.
8. Te critica
Si ves que tu marido te critica por tu aspecto o por los kilos de más que has ganado, es señal de un marido irrespetuoso.
If you don’t see a smile on his face when he says something like that and if he doesn’t kiss you afterward, it is a sign that he has done that deliberately.
Quiere que te sientas mal y no le da vergüenza mostrártelo abiertamente.
9. Nunca quiere ayudarte
No matter whether you are just doing household chores or working on some difficult project for work, your partner won’t be there to help you.
I am not saying that he has to have expertise in the field you are working in but he can help you by making you a cup of coffee or tea when you feel like you can’t do anymore and when you are tired.
If your husband doesn’t want to do that and he lets you do all the hard things alone, it means that he doesn’t respect you enough.
Y un hombre así nunca será el que te haga feliz y plena.
10. Intenta cambiarte
El respeto casi siempre va unido a la aceptación. Cuando alguien te respeta, respeta y acepta a la persona que eres, con todos tus defectos e imperfecciones, sin intentar modificarte.
Don’t get me wrong—it is a great thing if you have a partner who inspires you to become better but that doesn’t mean that he is entitled to change the essence of who you are.
Sin embargo, esto es exactamente lo que está haciendo su marido.
Quiere que encajes en sus estándares imaginarios y hace todo lo que está en su mano para moldearte a su manera, sin tener en cuenta tu personalidad ni tu individualidad.
Si este es el caso de tu matrimonio, entonces está más que claro que estás tratando con un marido irrespetuoso que intenta controlar todos los aspectos de tu vida y de tu personalidad.
11. He doesn’t care if you are in the mood for sex
Remember one thing—even when you are in a relationship or married, sex always has to be consensual. You are allowed to have personal boundaries that no one can or should cross.
That means that you have the right not to be in the mood for sex of any kind if you don’t feel like it. And it means that your partner has to respect that at all times.
Sin embargo, tu irrespetuoso marido hace cualquier cosa menos eso. En lugar de eso, te presiona para que te acuestes con él incluso cuando le dices claramente que no tienes ganas de sexo.
Also, when the two of you do sleep together, this man is only concerned with his needs—he never puts any effort in to satisfy you and he often treats you as nothing more than a sexual object.
12. He acts as if he’s above you
Si usted y su marido tienen hijos, a menudo se siente como si fuera uno de los niños en lugar de ser un socio igualitario de su matrimonio.
Lo único que hace tu marido es darte órdenes y gritarte todo el tiempo, actuando como si estuvieras subordinada a él en todos los sentidos.
Este hombre rara vez te trata como a una compañera. Cuestiona cada decisión que tomas y, en consecuencia, te hace dudar de tu propia capacidad de juicio.
It is more than obvious that he thinks of himself as smarter and more capable than you. At the same time, you are good for nothing and your opinions shouldn’t be taken into consideration.
Even when he isn’t telling you this directly, it is more than clear that he doesn’t value you and doesn’t give you the place that belongs to you in this marriage.
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13. Te trata como a su criada
When you come to think about it, you can’t remember the last time your husband did any chores around the house.
Incluso cuando hace algo, como limpiar la mesa, lo hace después de que se lo pidas.
Además, actúa como si te ayudara haciendo una simple tarea, como si no viviera en este hogar.
This man obviously considers cooking and cleaning to be women’s duties and he doesn’t think of lifting finger to at least make things easier for you.
What you need to understand is that you are not this guy’s maid, servant, or cook, nor are you your children’s full-time nanny.
This is your life, not your job, and you can’t be expected to work 24/7 while he doesn’t show any interest whatsoever in sharing household responsibilities.
