Tu amor no puede cambiar a un hombre hasta que él mismo decida hacerlo

¿Alguna vez has hecho todo lo posible por alejar a alguien de la oscuridad y llevarlo a la luz?

Have you ever put all of your efforts into melting a guy’s cold heart? To prove to him that it’s time for him to change his ways and that he can do better?

Have you ever been with a man with whom you knew you weren’t compatible?

Deep down, you were aware that the two of you had no future together and that this relationship wasn’t going anywhere.

Tal vez era un fobia al compromiso. O luchaba contra una adicción que se apoderaba de su vida.

Tal vez te engañó una y otra vez. O abusó de ti.

Pero en lugar de huir tan rápido como pudiste en cuanto viste todo esto, te lo tomaste como un reto.

Viste que tenía cierto potencial y asumiste como misión inspirarle para que se convirtiera en la mejor versión posible de sí mismo.

En lugar de alejarte de esta relación, seguiste volviendo con él, a pesar de lo que se interpusiera entre vosotros.

Seguías esperando que las cosas fueran diferentes, si te esforzabas lo suficiente.

And you kept believing that he’d eventually change, even though he never did. Have you ever tried healing someone who simply couldn’t be fixed?

Guardar someone who didn’t want to be saved? Tried to change someone who didn’t think he should change?

If you have, let me tell you the harsh truth—you’ve been doing all of it in vain because this is mission impossible.

You’ve done nothing but wasted your energy and years of your life on someone who never did and never will appreciate all of your efforts or sacrifices.

Sé que esperas que este hombre empiece a tratarte como te mereces en cuanto se dé cuenta de lo mucho que te importa.

That he’ll finally open his heart to you once he sees that you are worthy of his love.

But he won’t. He’ll always remain the same piece of shit he’s always been and the only thing you can do is save yourself before he destroys you even more.

I know you are optimistic and you think that the depth of your love will show this guy the right path but it simply can’t be done.

You hope that eventually he’ll realize how much harm he has been causing both of you and that he’ll finally become the man you deserve him to be.

Sí, el amor es poderoso y puede mover montañas.

But sadly, your love isn’t omnipotent and sometimes, it isn’t enough, as much as you want it to be.

It can’t enlighten the one who prefers to remain in the darkness.

It can’t repair a broken man overnight. It can’t fix his insecurities and it can’t chase away his fears.

Sé que piensas que amas a este hombre lo suficiente como para que quiera cambiar por ti. Pero las cosas no funcionan así.

Because he shouldn’t need to have the desire to change for your sake. He should be the one to make that decision and he should do it for himself.

You are naive if you believe that you’ll succeed in changing the essence of this guy’s personality.

¿Y sabes por qué? Porque you can’t change someone until he decides to do it himselfpor mucho que lo intentes.

You shouldn’t even be trying to do this. After all, he is a grown-ass man and it shouldn’t be your job to teach him life values.

No es tu responsabilidad lidiar con sus gilipolleces y moldearle para que sea mejor persona.

You are not his mother and you shouldn’t be trying to raise him. You are not his guardian angel and you shouldn’t be the one to lead him through life.

Don’t get me wrong—I am not saying you shouldn’t be supportive. I am not telling you not to give him a hand if he shows the desire to improve himself.

I am not telling you that you shouldn’t believe in him and that you shouldn’t push him forward if he shows initiative to become the man he should be.

Sólo ten en cuenta que ese chico con el que estás tratando ahora mismo no es el hombre que necesitas, aunque creas que lo quieres a tu lado.

He is obviously not relationship material and he isn’t someone who can be your life partner.

Necesita un hombre de verdad who’ll be mature enough to know what he wants from life. A man who’ll be strong enough to fight his own demons.

And this guy obviously isn’t. And that is his problem—not yours.