Verdaderas diferencias entre estar enamorado y amar a alguien

Yo solía confundir estos dos términos, como imagino que la mayoría de ustedes también. Es muy fácil confundirlos. No sólo como términos, sino también como sentimientos.

Perdí tanto tiempo llorando por unos hombres que, para empezar, nunca fueron adecuados para mí.

I truly believed that by losing them, I lost love. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

It wasn’t until I met my persona para siempre que realmente entendí la diferencia entre estar enamorado y amar a alguien.

Nada de lo que he sentido antes puede siquiera acercarse a lo que siento ahora.

You see, ‘being in love’ is a form of an addiction we feel towards someone. We are so carried away by them that they are all we can think about.

Queremos estar cerca de ellos siempre que podamos.

‘Loving somebody’ is what we have when reality kicks in when our hormones stop going wild. It’s not an addiction; it’s reality.

It’s about mutual happiness and growth. It’s about complimenting each other’s lives. It’s the best thing in the world.

To make everything clearer, let’s look at the 6 differences between being in love and loving someone:

Enamorarse ocurre sin querer, pero amar a alguien es una elección.

Falling in love is beyond our control. It’s about chemistry, lust and infatuation. It’s about idealizing the other person and putting them on a pedestal.

Loving somebody is what comes after all the infatuation, chemistry and lust. It’s an emotional connection we form.

It’s not about looking at your partner as a form of perfection. It’s knowing that they are flawed and loving them anyway.

It’s about choosing to stay even when the sunshiny days pass.

Estar enamorado es cuestión de conveniencia mientras que amar a alguien es darle prioridad

Being in love is needing somebody to fulfill your needs. It’s being there when it’s convenient.

Loving, on the other hand, is selfless. It’s not just about taking; it’s about giving, too.

It’s about making time for someone. It’s about enjoying the sole fact that your better half is present. It’s about making them feel important.

Estar enamorado puede ser necesitado mientras que amar a alguien nunca lo es

It’s in our human nature to have all kind of expectations from people. It’s the same when we are in love. We expect a person to behave in a certain manner.

Por ejemplo, queremos que nos llamen o envíen mensajes de texto las 24 horas del día. Puede que esperemos grandes gestos románticos y constantes muestras de afecto.

However, the reality might be different. That’s why our expectativas incumplidas son los motivos más comunes de ruptura.

Loving someone is about compatibility. It’s about mutual understanding. It’s about not having to hear from each other 24/7 but still knowing that you are loved.

Loving somebody is all about trust while being in love doesn’t have to be

Being in love can also be full of uncertainties. We don’t have to feel safe or completely trust the other person to fall in love with them. We just fall and hope that they will catch us.

Pero el verdadero amor se basa en la confianza. No hay lugar para la incertidumbre o los celos. Nos sentimos sanos y salvos en su abrazo, y queremos que ellos sientan lo mismo por nosotros.

Estar enamorado es poseer, mientras que amar a alguien es liberarlo.

Estar enamorado a menudo nos da la idea equivocada de que le debemos algo a otra persona. Que nos pertenece.

Nos aferramos a ellos con demasiada fuerza porque son los principales artífices de nuestra felicidad.

That’s why sometimes we sabotage our own chances for finding true love. We force the feelings. We suffocate our partners by wanting them too close.

Loving someone is about giving them the freedom to love you back. It’s not about trying too hard to keep them in your life.

It’s about loving them no matter whether they are by your side or not.

True love should flow, and you should never have to beg for anyone’s attention, affection or presence in your life. It’s about working as a team and growing together.

Being in love doesn’t have to last while love can be eternal

Being in love can last for a shorter or a longer period of time, but it has its end. It’s based on infatuation, lust, brain chemicals that give us that addicting feeling of desire.

Love doesn’t wear off. It doesn’t decrease. It doesn’t fade. El amor permanece no matter what. It’s constant even though the honeymoon phase of the relationship is ancient history.

In the end, it’s important to remember that under no circumstances, being in love and loving someone excludes self-love.

Al contrario, le da la bienvenida. Sólo cuando te amas, te aceptas y te aprecias de verdad, eres capaz de transmitir esos mismos sentimientos puros a otra persona.