5 modi per individuare le persone egoiste e 5 modi per affrontarle

Avete mai avuto a che fare con una persona egoista? Se lo avete fatto, sapete che una cosa del genere può essere un vero incubo.

That is why we’re here to give you a guide on how to identify these types of people and how to handle them most successfully.

Come riconoscere le persone egoiste?

Le persone egoiste sono ovunque intorno a voi, anche se la maggior parte di loro nasconde questo tratto tossico in modo subdolo. Tuttavia, ci sono alcune caratteristiche che accomunano quasi tutte le persone egoiste ed eccone 5.

They’re overly caring

Quando si incontra per la prima volta una persona tossica, di solito il suo sogno diventa realtà.

These people are everything you’ve always wanted in a friend or a romantic partner, and at first, you are more than happy for meeting them. And the same goes with selfish people, as well.

At first sight, a selfish person is too good to be true. They’re caring, loving, and friendly, and before you know it, somehow they crawl into your life and become a part of it.

Naturalmente, non tutte le persone gentili si rivelano stronzi egoisti. Tuttavia, quando qualcuno è tossico In questo modo, mostrano la loro vera natura non appena vedono che hanno bloccato il vostro amore e il vostro affetto.

They’re possessive

There is one thing all selfish people have in common without exception – they’re all possessive.

They are needy, have trouble understanding that you have other people in your life besides them, and want all of their victim’s attention.

Once they see that they’ve managed to get you, they consider you their prey and aren’t prepared to share you with anyone else.

They know that you are suited for selfish and toxic people who drain all of your energy, and they don’t plan on allowing someone else to start taking advantage of you.

This is especially difficult in a romantic relationship because, at first, you are flattered by the fact that your partner is so crazy about you and doesn’t want to lose you.

Con il tempo, però, si capisce il motivo del loro comportamento e ci si rende conto che ha ben poco a che fare con il vero amore.

Non ricambiano mai i vostri sforzi

Una persona egoista non metterà mai lo stesso sforzo that you do in your relationship. No matter what, you’ll always be the one giving more and trying more.

Next to them, you’ll constantly feel emotionally neglected and be wanting more of their love and attention.

La cosa peggiore è che, nonostante questo, una persona egoista riuscirà in qualche modo a rendersi vittima.

Useranno i loro modi subdoli per convincervi a impegnarvi ancora di più per conquistare il loro pieno affetto e farvi ricambiare l'amore che meritate.

Mancano di empatia

Anche prima che qualcuno vi mostri i suoi veri colori, potete individuare il suo egoismo attraverso il suo comportamento nei confronti di altre persone e persino degli animali.

These kinds of people have a complete absence of empathy – they can never feel sorry nor happy for someone else.

Selfish people don’t know how to walk in other people’s shoes. They don’t know how to feel others’ misery or joy because they only care about themselves.

So, if you notice that someone close to you isn’t showing any sign of compassion when you guys see a stray animal or when something bad happens in the world, it is a surefire sign they don’t think about anyone besides themselves.

They’re manipulative

Remember one thing: selfish people don’t love you – they aren’t capable of truly loving nessuno! Amano solo se stessi.

These people are afraid of losing you for everything you’re giving them and for the way you make them feel. They’re actually terrified of the possibility of being alone without anyone to use.

That is exactly why they’ll do everything in their power to keep you around and never let you go.

Useranno la manipolazione emotiva, il ricatto e tutto ciò che possono contro di voi, in modo che vi sentiate in colpa ogni volta che pensate di abbandonarli.

Come gestire le persone egoiste?

Spotting selfish people is a piece of cake if you know what signs you should look out for. However, handling them when they’ve already crawled in your life is much more difficult. But it can be done and here is how.

Accept that you’re involved with someone selfish

Innanzitutto, dovete accettare il fatto che tutti coloro che vi circondano, comprese le persone più care, possono avere questo tratto tossico.

I know it’s hard to accept that the closest member of your family – your il vostro partner di vita o il vostro migliore amico – is selfish, but sometimes, you simply have to look the truth in the eyes sooner rather than later.

Invece di ignorare i segnali, pensando di far sparire miracolosamente il problema, affrontatelo e fate tutto il possibile per aiutarvi.

Ricordate che ogni relazione con una persona tossica è emotivamente drenante e vi danneggia a lungo termine.

Iniziare ad amare di più se stessi

When you’re involved with someone toxic, you have to be aware that this person always puts themselves first, no matter what. And it’s about time you start doing that, too.

Yeah, I know it’s easy for me to tell you to love yourself more, but that is exactly what you need to do. Why do you continue putting someone else’s needs in front of your own, when this person will never stop treating you like their last resort?

You’re not a bad person for prioritizing yourself over someone who doesn’t give a damn about your well-being. Instead of trying to save this selfish person who obviously enjoys their toxicity, do your best to save yourself from them.

Dare loro un assaggio della loro medicina

Sadly, sometimes, the only way to deal with the selfish type is to treat them the same way they’re treating you. This means that you have to show them how it feels to be around someone selfish who only cares about themselves.

It’s time you pay this awful person back for everything they’ve been doing to you.

È ora di iniziare a cancellare i piani all'ultimo minuto, quando salta fuori qualcosa di più conveniente, è ora di trattarli come l'ultima risorsa, è ora di smettere di fregarsene dei loro sentimenti e di iniziare a pensare a se stessi.

It’s high time you stand up for yourself and show them that you aren’t anyone’s toy.

By simply doing this and nothing else, you’ll probably chase this selfish person out of your life.

These people can’t stand being around someone they don’t have any advantage over, so it is likely they’ll flee the moment they see they can’t keep on playing with you.

But don’t become like them

Tuttavia, l'importante è non permettere a se stessi di diventare uguali a questa persona.

Don’t let them drag you into their toxicity and darkness, and don’t lose faith in all humanity just because you’ve had one lousy experience!

Allentare i legami

If it happens that you treating this selfish person the way they’ve been treating you doesn’t give you any results and doesn’t chase them away, it’s time for your detachment.

Naturalmente, l'ideale per voi sarebbe andare senza contatto , but if this is something you don’t have the strength to do overnight, at least try loosening your ties with this person.

Passate meno tempo possibile con loro, smettete di fargli favori e provate a cambiare ambiente.

With time, you’ll become strong enough to kick this person out of your life or they’ll walk away by themselves. Either way, you win!