13 regole che insegnerò a mia figlia a vivere

Molto tempo fa mi sono ripromesso di scrivere un libro di lettera orgogliosa a mia figlia where I’ll gather all my life’s wisdom, and tell her all the things I wish someone wrote to me, so here I am keeping that promise. 

You don’t need a man to be happy

Il mondo cercherà di dirvi che avete bisogno di qualcuno per sentirvi completi.

They’ll try to make you feel less of a person if you don’t have a guy next to you. They tell you that your happiness and life success depends on whether a man wants you.

I’ll tell you that’s just BS. You don’t need a man to be happy.

I gave birth to you as a whole human being—you are more than enough on your own.

Siete voi i responsabili della vostra felicità

Your happiness is not dependent on boys’ attention or how others see you.

You’re the only one that has power over your feelings, over your life, and over your happiness. So, please, choose to be happy.

Scegliete di sorridere e di ridere e di ballare e di mordere le labbra e di lasciare i capelli ricci e di guardare l'intera stagione di un programma in un giorno.

Scegliere di allontanarsi dalle relazioni tossiche e dalle persone tossiche. Forse non sarò sempre presente per rendervi felici, ma vi insegnerò a rendervi felici.

Le persone sono rotte e potrebbero non darvi l'amore che meritate, amatele comunque

Don’t shut yourself down. Don’t push people away. Don’t be like that.

Dare amore incondizionatamente. Perché quando si dà amore senza aspettarsi nulla in cambio, solo allora si può dire di aver amato veramente.

You won’t lack love because I’ll teach you to love yourself regardless whether people do it or not.

Il mondo intero è tuo

Sentitevi liberi di conquistarlo. Qualunque cosa vogliate diventare, io vi copro le spalle.

Volete essere una ballerina, un astronauta, un veterinario, un medico o forse un cantante?

Volete fare un'immersione dalla scogliera, volete comprare un motore, volete fare le valigie e viaggiare per il mondo?

It’s your decision and I’ll teach you that the impossible is just an option.

La bellezza è lì dove si sceglie di vederla

You don’t have to show extra skin to be noticed and to be beautiful.

Il rossetto rosso è bellissimo e si può indossare. I pantaloni della tuta sono bellissimi, così come le felpe con cappuccio.

You can pull off that crop top. You can be prettier in sneakers than those girls that can’t walk in high heels but decide to wear them anyway.

I capelli ricci sono fantastici, i capelli lisci sono meravigliosi.

Chubby men can be attractive as well as those tall and ‘gym body’ guys as well.

It’s the inner beauty that matters. It’s how things make you feel that matter, not what others say is beautiful. I’ll teach you to choose your own beauty.

Camminare a testa alta

Don’t let anything or anybody bring your down.

Don’t let anyone tell you you are not worthy.

You’ll meet a thousand bullies throughout your whole life—kindergarten, high school, workplace, at the bus station, on your loan interview—you name it.

Quello che vi dicono conta solo se ci credete.

I’ll teach you not to bend your head because of them but instead, to prove them wrong.

Invece di ferire le persone, fate in modo che sentano di essere importanti

I’ll teach you not to be the bully.

I’ll teach you that no matter how bad a day you had, not to take it out on others.

Be the light at the end of the tunnel for others because your kind words might change someone’s life.

Don’t build walls—build roads to other people’s hearts. You never know when you’ll need the same.

It’s OK to cry

I’ll teach you not to hide your tears.

I’ll teach you not to bottle up your feelings nor to allow them to suffocate you because it’s OK to cry and it’s OK to feel.

Forget about being tough and not letting anybody come close to you. Instead of growing thick around yourself, I’ll teach you come affrontare i colpi di fulmine.

La maggior parte degli uomini sono idioti, ma troverete quello che vi amerà come meritate.

You’ll come to realize this yourself—men sometimes have no idea what to do with themselves let alone with you. They’re messy and they might even make a mess out of your life.

Ma there will be someone who’ll love you il modo in cui vi meritate.

There will be somebody who will choose you and who’ll keep choosing you for the rest of his life—accept nothing less and don’t rush things. Things always fall into place eventually.

Your productivity doesn’t determine your success

I’ll teach you that it’s fine to stay home when you’re feeling down.

There will be days when you don’t feel like eating—it’s impossible to be productive on those days. It doesn’t mean you weren’t born for big things.

There will be days where you’ll give 150% of yourself and sometimes your battery will be on saver mode, but don’t ever doubt that you won’t make anything big of your life.

Credo in voi e so che lo farete.

Se volete qualcosa, cercatela con tutto il cuore.

Credo che quando si desidera veramente qualcosa, l'intero universo ci aiuti a ottenerla.

Don’t ever believe you are unworthy or that there are things you can’t achieve.

There isn’t a single border you can’t cross, there isn’t a single human being you can’t get to, and there isn’t single weather in which you can’t survive. So just go for it!

Don’t dim your voice.

Never dim your voice—not to your mother, not to your boyfriend, friends, teachers, or bosses.

If what you’re saying is making sense, don’t let them convince you that you’re wrong.

Instead, find a way to prove to them that you’re right.

You’re allowed to fall, as long as you get up

I’ll teach you that life is full of ups and downs and that you can’t be high all the time but the great thing is that you can’t be low all the time either.

You’re allowed to have bruised knees. You’re allowed to fall off your bike, get fired, and have only $4.99 in your bank account.

Your projects will fail, there will be flights you’ll miss and people you’ll let go too easily.

It will only be forgiven if you don’t give up and you find a way to be a better version of yourself each and every day. Because, my darling, you have only one life and I’ll do my best to teach you to live it to the fullest.

Whether you’re going to do it or not, later on, will be up to you and only you.