Non seguite mai questi 13 esempi di cattivi consigli relazionali

The saying ‘the road to hell is paved with good intentions’ is not there without a good reason. People share relationship advice by having your best interests at heart.

Tuttavia, questi consigli possono portarvi sulla strada sbagliata e rovinare ancora di più la vostra vita sentimentale.

Questi sono alcuni esempi di cattivi consigli relazionali che non dovreste mai seguire:

1. “Do your best to avoid conflict in a relationship.”

Questo è un consiglio davvero orribile. Non parlando delle cose che vi preoccupano, non fate altro che accumulare tutti i problemi grandi e piccoli dentro di voi. Diventate una bomba a orologeria e inevitabilmente esploderete.

But if you had argued, discussed and solved your problems right away, your problems wouldn’t be as big or as devastating for your relationship.

Good communication is the key to a successful relationship. Don’t be afraid to say out loud when something is bothering you. Confronting your problems can make your relationship grow stronger.

2. “Your relationship should look like a romantic movie.”

It’s true that most of us want that movie kind of romance, with grand gestures and emotional displays. But in reality, if someone was to exaggerate in that way, we would probably think they had a screw loose somewhere inside.

There is a reason why romance in the movies is so amazing and it’s called acting. In real life, we should be more realistic and notice romance in its more natural and realistic forms.

A goodnight text, a cuddly Sunday afternoon, someone who makes you feel better when you are sick, someone who lights up around you, someone who hugs hard… isn’t that all the romance you need?

3. “You have every right to check their phone, social media, etc., because you are in a relationship.”

A relationship doesn’t give you ownership papers and people are not things to be treated as such. Snooping through someone’s phone, social media, etc., means invading their privacy.

It shows that you don’t respect someone’s personal space and what’s even more concerning is that you don’t trust the person you are with. If that is the case, you should rethink your relationship.

4. “You expect too much from your partner/relationship, so lower your standards.”

Don’t let anybody tell you that there is something wrong with having standards. You have to demand respect, loyalty, and love in your relationship.

Ci devono essere alcune qualità che volete che il vostro partner abbia e non c'è niente di male a scegliere di uscire con qualcuno che le possiede.

Siete voi a dover essere aperti e onesti riguardo ai vostri desideri e alle vostre esigenze in merito al vostro partner e alla vostra relazione.

You alone can be the judge of whether they are realistic or not; nobody else should tell you what’s good enough for you.

5. “Never go to bed angry.”

This is one of the most common phrases and pieces of advice you can hear. However, it’s definitely not good advice.

Some problems can’t be solved instantly. Sometimes it’s better to sleep on it, let your emotions calm down and talk about everything in the morning or sometime the next day.

6. “They will change because they love you.”

Se qualcuno non vi tratta come dovrebbe, se vi concede solo le briciole, se non è disposto a fare uno sforzo per tenere insieme la vostra relazione, è probabile che they won’t change.

People only change when they feel the need to change and there is nothing anyone can do about it. You can’t stay in a bad thing and hope that your love will be enough to change someone.

7. “Stop being so self-sufficient, it’s intimidating.”

You can often hear that men are intimidated by strong, self-sufficient women who can stand on their own two feet. The truth is some are and others aren’t, it depends and you can’t generalize.

It’s all about the way you choose to look at things. Instead of looking at your strength as something that makes you hard to love, look at it as a more than welcome filter.

It will keep those who are not good for you away and keep the one who is for your close. He won’t be intimidated by anything, he will welcome and applaud your self-sufficiency.

8. “Get married! It’s time!”

Yes, it’s the 21st century and we still keep hearing this nonsense. It’s like there is a time limit for marriage and if you don’t get hitched by that certain time, you have accomplished nothing in your life.

That’s so wrong on so many levels. People shouldn’t get married because they’ve been together for a long time or because they reached a time limit that’s socially acceptable.

Le persone dovrebbero sposarsi a loro tempo, per le loro ragioni e solo se credono nel matrimonio. Tutti gli altri commenti sono superflui.

9. “Your partner must earn at least as much as you do or more.”

This is not just unrealistic, it’s unnecessary. You and your partner should contribute as much as you can into your household and it doesn’t matter who earns more money.

Looking at your relationship from a financial side is materialistic and has nothing to do with feelings. Discard this advice. Love can’t and shouldn’t be measured in dollars.

L'unica cosa che dovreste aspettarvi dal vostro partner è che sia un gran lavoratore e che non sia una sanguisuga che dipende interamente da voi dal punto di vista economico.

10. “If only your partner was more like mine.”

Un amico che dice una cosa del genere non è tuo amico. Sta sminuendo voi e la vostra relazione per sentirsi meglio.

Nessuna persona è uguale all'altra, nessuna relazione è uguale all'altra e quindi non vanno mai paragonate.

Everybody has a different definition of happiness in a relationship; don’t allow yours to feel less just because it’s not similar to somebody else’s.

11. “Love will find you.”

Sure, love comes along in its own time. But it definitely won’t find us while we are hiding in the comfort of our own home. It won’t knock on our door.

Se vogliamo che l'amore ci trovi, dobbiamo farci vedere. Dobbiamo dare al destino una piccola spinta. Dobbiamo essere proattivi. Uscire, seguire nuovi percorsi e interessi e creare opportunità per incontrare nuove persone.

12. “Love will fade away with time.”

It’s really an awful and scary thought that love fades with time. We often hear that said and we often see that in real life; however, things don’t have to play it out that way.

Se due persone provano un sentimento profondo l'una per l'altra, troveranno un modo per mantenere vivo l'amore. Lavoreranno quotidianamente sulla loro relazione e si ricorderanno l'un l'altro che ci sono e che ci tengono.

Ci sono tanti esempi di coppie sposate da trent'anni o più che ci dimostrano che il vero amore non svanisce mai.

13. “Love can’t exist without jealousy.”

Sure it can. Two people who built their relationship on trust won’t make room for jealousy. A small amount of jealousy can appear regardless of the trust but those cases are rare and have more to do with the self-confidence of the person who is jealous than with the entire relationship.

However, extremely jealous behavior is no sign of love. It’s a sign of someone who is so unsure of themselves that they become controlling. That kind of jealousy can become really damaging.

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