6 benefici scientificamente provati del tenersi per mano e 10 cose che dicono sul vostro rapporto di coppia

Negli incontri moderni, sembra che alcune abitudini che in passato erano riservate alle coppie si siano estinte.

It’s as if little things which bring two people together have gone out of style and most just proceed to sleeping together, without any physical preparation.

One of those habits is hand holding. A few years ago, it was unimaginable for a couple to walk next to each other without holding their partner’s hand in theirs or without hugging each other.

Tuttavia, questa dimostrazione pubblica di affetto è raramente vista al giorno d'oggi.

In fact, most couples aren’t certain about the future of their relationship, don’t want to label things, or are seeing other people so they probably don’t want to be classified as boyfriend and girlfriend by anyone they encounter.

Così, invece di lavorare sul loro legame ogni minuto che trascorrono insieme, lasciano l'intimità solo per la camera da letto e passano la maggior parte del tempo al di fuori di essa comportandosi come perfetti estranei.

Surprisingly, the same goes for couples who have been together for ages: They don’t run away from exclusivity, but instead, are convinced that they’re too old or too mature for PDA and that holding hands is inappropriate for their age.

Well, if this is something you can relate to, what you probably don’t know is how powerful hand holding actually is and how it can reveal a lot about your relationship.

And you’re likely not familiar with all of its scientifically proven benefits for your mental, emotional, and physical health – not to mention your romance.

That is why we’re here – to open your eyes and tell you everything you need to know about this ancient couples’ ritual that has stuck around up to today. To reveal to you the magic of holding hands.

10 Tipi di tenersi per mano

1. Mignoli intrecciati

Remember when we were kids and when pinky promise meant literally everything? You could have sworn to your dearest ones, but not until you’d interlock your pinky fingers would the other person believe you.

In realtà non è cambiato molto nell'età adulta, anche se forse non ne siete consapevoli.

When you and your partner’s pinky fingers are loosely intertwined, this move still conveys a strong message of trust and bond.

They’re showing you that they’re there for you and not going anywhere. That you can rely on them, no matter what, and that you can trust them with your life.

At first sight, this type of hand hold doesn’t appear to be so significant, but actually, it is quite romantic and cute, especially for new couples.

When you’re just getting to know someone, you’re testing how far you can go and you’re waiting for their feedback.

Sebbene questa stretta di mano sia utilizzata anche da persone che hanno una relazione a lungo termine, in realtà è più tipica di chi sta cercando di stabilire un primo legame.

You don’t want to firmly grip your loved one just yet, but you want to tell them and the rest of the world they’re yours.

2. Tocco flirtante accidentale

How many times have your hands accidentally touched someone else’s in a flirty way? For example, you’re sitting or just passing by one another and somehow, your hands end up touching theirs?

Lasciate che vi dica che non c'è nulla di casuale. Si tratta infatti di uno dei segnali del linguaggio del corpo di una forte chimica tra due persone.

Voi e l'oggetto del vostro affetto siete così intensamente attratti l'uno dall'altro che non siete nemmeno consapevoli del vostro desiderio di contatto fisico.

Tuttavia, i vostri corpi lo sono sicuramente e si attraggono come calamite.

If this is happening for the first time with your friend, a coworker, or someone you have no romantic connection with whatsoever, it’s about time to reexamine your feelings and see whether there is something more going on between you two.

On the other hand, if this is someone you’re into, congratulations, because this simple act is a clear sign that they feel the same way about you, and a green light for you to make a move and do something about your emotions.

At first, this kind of touch can seem awkward and it’s possible that both of you may instinctively step back, afraid of what you just felt. Nevertheless, after a while, it becomes your trademark-something you two do every time you meet.

Even though this accidental touch is not an actual hand-hold, it’s still quite powerful. It tells the other person everything you’re scared or overly shy to verbalize – that you like them and want to bond with them in the future.

3. Tutte le dita strettamente intrecciate

This type of hand hold is usually reserved for couples only. It is a clear message for the entire world, that says, “This person is mine and I have no intention of letting them go.”

Inoltre, questo è anche un segno che il vostro partner è più che orgoglioso di avervi come suo partner.

They want the entire world to know that you’re the only one they love, they have your back, and you two are a couple.

When someone holds your hand in this manner, trust me on one thing: They’re not fooling around. They’re not playing you; they want something serious with you.

4. Mani avvolte l'una intorno all'altra

In questo caso, l'altra persona sta sicuramente cercando di acquisire un legame più profondo con voi. Quando si lascia andare a un contatto completo con la pelle, ha il desiderio che voi due diventiate una cosa sola.

You’re now a team and nothing and nobody can stand in your way. You’re stronger together and you’ll never let each other down.

This type of hand hold shows that the other person cares for you deeply. They wouldn’t abandon you during hard times and are there to protect you from everything bad life might throw at you.

They’re actually using their body language to reassure you that you’re safe around them because they’ll be your shield against every storm.

Sono pronti a diventare il vostro angelo custode e il vostro salvatore, cosa estremamente preziosa e rara.

5. Presa stretta

There are two possible meanings behind a tight grip; it depends on the situation you’re currently in.

First and foremost, this can be seen as a sign of your partner’s desire for dominance.

If they’re pushing your hand down, they probably want to indicate that you’re beneath them and the submissive one in this relationship.

It might be that they’re insecure about you and your feelings towards them, so they’re trying to reassure you, themselves, and the rest of the world that you’re theirs.

To put things simply, they’re subconsciously trying to mark their territory and claim possession.

D'altra parte, nei momenti di dolore fisico o emotivo, questa stretta può anche essere un segnale che qualcuno è lì per voi.

They’re showing you the strength of their compassion and empathy and are making sure you know they don’t have any intention of leaving you hanging.

So, how exactly can you recognize your loved one’s intentions when they hold your hand with a tight grip? Well, it all depends on how this hand hold makes you feel.

Do you feel safe and sound and like nothing can harm you? Or do you feel like they’re trying to put you down and hold you back with this gesture?

Either way, what’s important is to follow your intuition and to listen to your heart (pay attention to your physical heart rate) because that is where you’ll find all the answers you need.

6. Impugnatura leggera

All'opposto di questa presa stretta c'è una presa più leggera. In questo caso le mani si trovano nella stessa identica posizione del tipo precedente, ma la differenza sta nell'intensità della presa.

This type of hand holding is usually reserved for public places and it’s a kind of a background activity: You two are talking with somebody or are doing something else, but still want to touch each other.

Even though the light grip doesn’t appear to be a sign of strong connection, it is actually quite significant.

It shows that no matter who you’re with, where you are, and how busy you are, you always need each other’s touch and presence.

7. Mani a cucchiaio

I’m sure you’re familiar with the term spooning. It is a cuddling or posizione di riposo in cui voi e la vostra persona amata giacevate l'uno accanto all'altro, schiena contro schiena, fianco a fianco.

Well, there is something called hands spooning as well. It is a situation in which your partner’s hand literally spoons yours (or the other way around).

If you’re wondering what this symbolizes, let me tell you that is actually a form of cuddling in public.

Your partner clearly wants to hold you in their arms, hug you, and be as close to you as possible, but you’re not in private so this is the next best thing to do.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s never appropriate to be all over each other outside the bedroom.

So, if you have the desire to cuddle, just engage in this hand spooning and all of a sudden, you’ll feel much more connected to your significant other.

8. Tenere le dita

When your partner is holding all or most of your fingers in their hand, they’re probably trying to make a point or get some sense into you.

Vogliono dirvi qualcosa o darvi una notizia che potrebbe non piacervi, ma stanno cercando il modo migliore per farlo.

Tuttavia, nonostante questa stretta di mano sia delicata e premurosa, è anche qualcosa a cui bisogna fare attenzione.

Maybe they’re trying to persuade into accepting or agreeing on something you normally wouldn’t, as this is the type of hand holding manipulators often use to change their victim’s mind and convince them of something they want you to believe.

9. Presa del polso

Si tratta di un'altra tecnica di controllo che il partner potrebbe utilizzare e che può essere vista come un rimorchio alla violenza fisica.

It is quite possible that this is your partner’s way of regaining control over you and telling you they’re in charge.

However, it’s completely different if this wrist grip takes place during sex.

Here, dominant and submissive positions can just be a part of role playing and don’t have to necessarily relate much to real life.

10. Tenersi per mano sopra la spalla

Tra tutti i tipi di presa per mano, questo è il più protettivo.

It’s usually the man putting his arm over the woman’s shoulder and their hands end up interlocked somewhere on her body.

La stretta di mano sopra la spalla dimostra il possesso e l'orgoglio della persona che si ha accanto.

Significato di "No Hand Holding

Let’s be honest. Even though this form of touch is not the only measurement of a happy love life, when you see a couple holding hands, you immediately know that they’re an item and assume they care for each other.

Tuttavia, la vostra relazione potrebbe offrire uno scenario completamente diverso.

In today’s dating world, it’s not uncommon for a romantic couple to not show any PDA. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with this if you both agree on it.

However, a problem occurs if you need your partner’s touch while they couldn’t care less about providing it to you outside the bedroom.

You can’t help but wonder what the problem is and why they refuse to hold hands with you.

I won’t lie to you. This can be a red flag you should pay more attention to.

First and foremost, it is quite weird that your significant other doesn’t have the need to touch you. Their body and skin don’t crave for your presence and that’s something to be worried about.

There’s a possibility that they don’t care enough for you or are emotionally unavailable. Maybe they’re scared of letting their guard down or need more time to completely relax in front of you.

Se questo è un caso che vi riguarda, la cosa migliore da fare è cercare di avviare un contatto fisico, senza aspettare che sia lui a fare la prima mossa.

Then observe their reaction carefully: Are they relieved that you took their hand so they didn’t have to do it, or did they back out?

Another reason behind this behavior might be the fact that they’re not one hundred percent faithful.

È possibile che il vostro partner vi stia nascondendo al mondo perché vuole dare l'impressione di essere single, in modo da poterci provare con altre persone?

Potresti essere tu quella con cui tradisce il coniuge, senza che tu ne sia consapevole, e quindi devono assicurarsi che nessuno pensi che voi due siate una coppia?

Either way, the best thing in this situation is to be honest and tell your significant other what’s bothering you.

Maybe you’re just making a fuss about nothing and they’re not even aware that you two have different cravings when it comes to physical touch outside the sheets.

La scienza dietro il profondo potere del tenersi per mano

Ultimamente, gli scienziati hanno esplorato il fenomeno della sincronizzazione interpersonale, in cui le persone hanno l'abitudine di rispecchiare i propri cari.

Pavel Goldstein, un ricercatore sul dolore, ha condotto un esperimento che ha coinvolto 32 coppie con l'obiettivo di esplorare i reali benefici del contatto fisico, tra cui la stretta di mano.

Pavel Goldstein investigated the changes that occur in brain waves of these couples when they’re just near each other and especially when they touch one another.

E i risultati affermano in modo definitivo che il potere del tocco empatico è enorme.

Tra tutte le forme di contatto fisico, secondo la direttrice del Touch Research Institute, la dottoressa Tiffany Field, la stretta di mano è la più benefica.

Nel suo nuovo studio, la dottoressa Tiffany Field ci ricorda che la nostra pelle ricopre tutto il corpo, ma è anche un organo sensibile che necessita di una stimolazione costante.

6 benefici scientificamente provati della stretta di mano

1. Ormone dell'amore

I ricercatori hanno dimostrato che il tocco umano attiva le onde cerebrali responsabili della sensazione di felicità.

In poche parole, ogni volta che ci si tiene per mano, il cervello rilascia ossitocina (l'ormone dell'amore), che svolge un ruolo importante in tutte le interazioni e relazioni sociali, comprese quelle sentimentali.

In fact, every physical touch by your loved ones – and not just hand holding – releases oxytocin, lowers your blood pressure, makes you feel loved, wanted, and better in general.

2. Riduce gli ormoni dello stress

Un altro beneficio per la salute della stretta di mano è il fatto che abbassa i livelli di ormoni dello stress nel corpo.

Quando ci si tiene per mano, le onde cerebrali che rilasciano lo stress nel corpo si calmano molto e, così, l'ansia diventa molto più sopportabile.

3. Aumenta l'intimità

Uno dei benefici più importanti, scientificamente provati, di questo tipo di sincronizzazione interpersonale è senza dubbio il legame tra voi e il vostro partner romantico quando vi tenete per mano.

Molti pensano che l'intimità sia riservata solo alla camera da letto e quando sentono le parole "tocco fisico" pensano che si riferisca solo al sesso.

However, intimacy is much more than this. It’s built through every tiny aspect of your relationship.

A volte basta che voi e il vostro partner vi guardiate profondamente negli occhi e vi teniate per mano, senza bisogno di baciarvi o coccolarvi in qualche altro modo, perché il vostro legame si approfondisca.

Hand holding brings you closer to each other and it makes your relationship way stronger. It builds trust and helps you two unite in ways you couldn’t even dream of.

4. Gestione del dolore

When little babies are in pain, one of the best therapies has proven to be a simple act of their mother’s physical touch. Well, that doesn’t change much as we grow older.

Il dolore è ancora altamente gestibile con il tocco umano, in quanto riduce l'attività delle onde cerebrali che rilasciano segnali di dolore.

Even if hand holding doesn’t make you feel physically better, it will definitely make you feel more at ease.

You know that you aren’t alone and have someone next to you, who won’t abandon you in the hardest of times.

5. Aiuta a superare la paura

A famous holding hands quote says: “Holding hands is a promise that, just for a moment, the two of you don’t have to face the world alone.”

Pertanto, è chiaro: la stretta di mano scaccia la paura e le insicurezze.

It helps you feel safe and like you’re home. Just a simple touch by another human being can change your entire perspective on things.

Sometimes, you might feel helpless and just someone else’s presence – let alone their hand in yours – gives you hope that everything will be alright and turn out for the best.

When you’re holding hands with someone you love, you feel more powerful and stronger. You two are united and fearless, and there is nothing you can’t accomplish together.

6. Buono per la salute

Conoscendo la scienza che sta dietro al potere del tenersi per mano, è più che evidente che questa forma di sincronizzazione interpersonale è benefica per la salute in più di un modo.

Oltre a rilasciare ossitocina, che fa sentire più felici e contenti, questo semplice tocco ha anche un buon effetto sulle onde cerebrali, diminuisce la pressione sanguigna e la frequenza cardiaca e ha un impatto positivo sul benessere mentale ed emotivo.

So, what exactly are you waiting for? Grab your husband or wife’s hand and start practicing it regularly!