Ti darò la stessa quantità di impegno che tu dai a me

Da sempre, Io ero quello che si preoccupava e amava di più in tutte le mie relazioni, comprese quelle sentimentali.

Sono stata quella che ha continuato a dare tutta se stessa a ogni uomo della mia vita e quella che non si è mai trattenuta.

Sono stata quella che ha amato ogni uomo della mia vita con tutto il cuore, senza mai pensare alle conseguenze o se quel certo uomo meritasse il mio amore.

I was the one who was always putting in more effort than the other side. And the one who always ended up begging for someone’s love and affection.

Di conseguenza, ero sempre io quella che finiva per essere ferita. Quella che veniva sempre lasciata indietro e quella che aveva sempre il cuore spezzato.

And it’s time for that to end.

It’s about time for me to stop being a fool who gives her entire self to people who don’t deserve her. It’s about time for me to stop putting other people’s needs in front of my own.

Era ora che smettessi di trascurare e sacrificare me stessa per il bene degli altri.

About time for me to stop putting myself last and to stop prioritizing men who don’t deserve me.

And that is why I’m writing this to the man I will love next and to the man who will hopefully love me. To the man who will enter my life and who will knock me off my feet.

Yes, I’ve been hurt in the past. The truth is that I’ve been through a lot but I’ve also learned a lot.

And I am not here to tell you that I’ll be carrying my bagaglio emotivo nella nostra relazione.

No, you won’t be paying for someone else’s mistakes. I won’t be a heartless bitch and I will never treat you like crap just because others from my past did the same to me.

You know, with time, I’ve understood some things.

I am not a little girl anymore. I know very well what I want from life and I have some strong deal-breakers. And I know even better what I don’t want.

This is not me telling you that I will ask you for much. I don’t need you to pamper me.

I don’t need you to disregard your life for my sake and I don’t expect to become the center of your universe.

I don’t need you to chase me, while I play hard to get. I don’t need you to buy me expensive gifts or to spoil me in any other way.

I don’t expect you to obey me or to blindly follow my lead. I don’t want you to love me any more than I love you.

Voglio solo che tu mi tratti con rispetto e apprezzamento. Voglio solo che tu prenda sul serio me e la nostra relazione.

Voglio solo che entrambi investiamo la stessa quantità di tempo ed energia. Voglio che entrambi abbiamo il desiderio di far funzionare le cose.

So please, don’t expect me to treat you any differently than the way you treat me. Don’t expect me to give you my entire self if you don’t choose to do the same.

Don’t expect me to act like I am beneath you in any sense. Don’t expect me to put up with you emotionally abusing or manipulating me.

Don’t expect me to stay by your side if you decide to cheat on me or if you willingly put me at the bottom of your priority list.

Don’t expect me to chase you because that is the last thing I want to do.

Don’t expect me to beg for your love. Don’t expect me to compete for your attention with anyone else.

Don’t expect me to be the only one who’ll make sacrifices for the sake of our relationship while you are never ready to make a compromise.

Don’t expect me to put up with you being a self-centered egomaniac.

And finally, don’t expect me to love you while you don’t give a damn about me.

Ricordate, l'unico modo per noi due di avere una relazione sana e matura è quello di essere in partnership paritaria.