Will Smith parla in prima persona del salvataggio del suo matrimonio con Jada: 4 cose che la coppia ci ha insegnato
Will Smith’s new memoir, simply called Will, brings fans new, surprising facts about the star’s life. Smith bravely and honestly talks about depression, suicide, substance abuse, family, his romantic relationship with his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, and much more.
La coppia ha parlato pubblicamente del loro matrimonio non convenzionale e dei problemi che hanno affrontato in passato, e ora Will rivela tutti i segreti.
But the memoir doesn’t just give the world an insight into his personal life. If you dig a little deeper, you’ll see that he also gives us some valuable lessons about relationships.
1. Ognuno ha i suoi alti e bassi
You’re looking at one of the most glamorous Hollywood couples of our era. They have it all: a loving family, good looks, fame, money… Literally everything anyone could ever wish for.
Ma hanno una vita perfetta? La loro relazione è impeccabile?
Certamente no! At the end of the day, they’re mortals, just like you and me.
Nel corso degli anni, la loro storia d'amore ha avuto la sua parte di alti e bassi. Ma il loro amore ha sconfitto tutto.
2. La gelosia furiosa non porta da nessuna parte
In his memoir, the Prince of Bel-Air opens up about his wife’s close friendship with the deceased hip-hop icon Tupac Shakur.
Even though it was never confirmed that the two were engaged in a romantic relationship, the whole world knows what Jada and ‘Pac had was special.
E Will stesso lo ammette. Infatti, he talks about his “raging jealousy” over this friendship.
“In the beginning of our relationship, my mind was tortured by their connection. He was ‘PAC! and I was me … though they were never intimate, their love for each other is legendary.”
“[Tupac] was like Harry. [He] triggered the perception of myself as a coward… I hated that I wasn’t what he was in the world, and I suffered a raging jealousy: I wanted Jada to look at me like that.”
So I guess even Will Smith has had moments of insecurity. But did it get him anywhere? Was it worth it? According to him – definitely not.
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3. La vostra felicità è una vostra responsabilità
“We realized that it was a fantasy illusion that we could make each other happy. We agreed that she had to make herself happy, and I had to make myself happy. Then we were going to present ourselves back to the relationship already happy—versus demanding that the other person fill our empty cup.”
Ecco cosa ha risposto Will quando gli è stato chiesto come lui e Jada hanno risolto la più grande crisi del loro matrimonio nel 2011.
The Smiths certainly do have the courage to spill the hard truth. You can’t expect your partner to magically make you happy, especially if you’re miserable when you’re on your own.
I know this is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s the only way towards a healthy relationship. And it’s definitely a lesson worth remembering.
4. La perfezione relazionale è relativa
Let’s get back to the pair’s unconventional relationship. For years, there’s been a buzz surrounding their matrimonio aperto.
A settembre, Will ha finalmente confermato le voci. Nella sua intervista a GQ, il Aladino La stella ha detto:
“What is the perfect way to interact as a couple? And for the large part of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not thinking of monogamy as the only relational perfection.”
“We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way. And marriage for us can’t be a prison. And I don’t suggest our road for anybody… But the experiences that the freedoms that we’ve given one another and the unconditional support, to me, is the highest definition of love.”
Cosa vi dice questo? Beh, di fare qualsiasi cosa vi renda felici. Every relationship dynamic is different, and it’s you and your partner’s job to find out what works best for you.
Forget about social conventions. Forget about your upbringing and everything you’ve been told is right. Follow your gut and find your own relational perfection!
