11 sinais reveladores de que ele não está mais apaixonado

We all crave that romantic, passionate love that burns our lips and lifts our soul. But what to do when we find ourselves caught up in doubt about our man’s feelings?

Afastamo-nos ou continuar a lutar? Teremos a certeza de que ele já não nos ama?

Para responder, pelo menos, a algumas dessas perguntas, reunimos sinais que podem ajudá-la a perceber se ele a ama e se vale a pena lutar por ele.

1. You can’t remember the last time you heard, “I love you”

It’s been ages since you heard him express his feelings toward you. You can’t even remember the last time he said he loved you after you said it first.

All you can remember are uncomfortable silences, looks off into the distance and him changing the subject. Trying to force the love, or the words to express it, doesn’t work.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t force yourself to roll those words off your tongue if you don’t feel them. This is the first and biggest sign that he’s no longer in love.

2. Ele já não se ri contigo

Costumavam divertir-se juntos, rir juntos, passar tempo juntos. Mas agora ele ri-se sozinho, com o telemóvel na mão.

Ele ri-se dos seus programas de televisão, ensurdecendo-nos com o silêncio que permanece depois de parar de rir.

And when you gather enough strength to ask him to share it with you, he simply replies with, “You wouldn’t get it.” But you can still clearly remember the times when you just had to look at each other and you would start laughing.

Aqueles momentos em que estavam a pensar, com os corações a bater e a rir em sincronia, mas parece que ele já não se lembra deles.

3. A conversa sobre o futuro desvanece-se

No início, vocês só falavam do futuro.

Futuras férias, viagens e filmes que iriam ver juntos, e como seria a vossa casa um dia.

It’s natural for guys to talk about the future when they’re excited to share it with someone. But now, you can’t even remember the last time he mentioned a future for you two.

That could be because he doesn’t see you as a part of it anymore.

4. A relação parece uma rotina

There’s no more passion and excitement in his eyes. He doesn’t wait up for you when you’re working long hours. He doesn’t welcome you home.

Em vez disso, ele vê televisão, mal se apercebe da sua presença.

Quando ele te beija, a sua mente está a milhas de distância.

When he holds you, he doesn’t hold you as tight as he used to. Instead, his arms are just there, wrapped around you, cold as ice.

Everything he does, he does it like a machine, with no emotions, simply doing them because he’s used to doing them, not because he enjoys them.

5. You don’t communicate as much as you once did

He no longer talks about his life, how he’s doing at work, how his day was and he isn’t interested in yours.

Your communication is only about chores around the house, the chores you’re obliged to do together and even communication feels like a chore, something you have to do, instead of something you want to do.

6. He doesn’t seem to care about the little things anymore

Ele costumava reparar quando mudavas o penteado, quando usavas um vestido novo.

Fazia-te o jantar, levava-te o café para a cama e dava-te um beijo na testa sempre que passava por ti.

He was funnily annoyed by the way you eat cookies like Cookie Monster and when you make faces when eating Indian food. But now, he couldn’t care less.

No matter what you do, the way you do it and how hard you try, he just doesn’t seem to notice at all.

7. Tenta evitar a intimidade

Ele já não vos beija nem vos abraça. Quando vão dormir, cada um fica no seu lado da cama.

When you try to make love to him, he suddenly remembers he has something to do, or he’s tired or busy.

A falta de sexo é normalmente o maior problema numa relação e um sinal de que algo está errado.

If you notice that your sex life is lacking, but your man refuses to talk about possible causes, that’s because he already knows why.

8. Começou a desligar o telemóvel

We all crave some rest from our phone after a long day at work, but most of us will just silence it. But if he starts turning his off, and you’re not able to get in touch with him, that’s a sign he just doesn’t want to talk to you.

On the other hand, if he starts taking his phone wherever he goes, including when taking out the trash, that could be a sign that he’s hiding something or someone from you.

Either way, that’s a sign of a doomed relationship.

9. You’re the only one trying

Uma relação precisa de duas pessoas para ser bem sucedida. São necessárias duas pessoas que se esforcem, que se amem, para que o projeto prospere.

But if you’re the only one trying, if you’re the only one loving, what’s the point?

You’re only postponing the inevitable. Unless he’s ready to sit down with you and discuss the issues you have and what to do to solve them, there’s no point in fighting for something that’s long gone.

Otherwise, you’re only suffering more, hoping that if you try a little bit harder, it will work out.

But until he puts in a little bit of effort too, there’s no way that relationship can work out.

10. You’re exhausted after spending time together

Os seus nervos estão constantemente à flor da pele, pensando no que dizer a seguir, no que fazer. Pensar em como o abordar, esperando que ele não fuja.

Coisas que costumavam ser naturais para vocês os dois parecem agora tão assustadoras.

Depois da separação, sente-se exausta de tentar fazer a coisa certa, de calcular todos os passos que vai dar. E acredita em mim, ele sente o mesmo.

11. He doesn’t care about spending time with you

No man enjoys his woman out there partying without him, without letting him know where she’s going or at least making sure he knows she’s okay.

But if he doesn’t show any interest in where you’re going or for how long, that’s because he doesn’t really care.

He enjoys spending time without you, probably hoping that you will meet someone else because he’s already made up his mind about this.