11 señales reveladoras de que ya no está enamorado

We all crave that romantic, passionate love that burns our lips and lifts our soul. But what to do when we find ourselves caught up in doubt about our man’s feelings?

¿Nos alejamos o ¿seguir luchando? ¿Estamos seguros de que ya no nos quiere?

Para responder al menos a algunas de esas preguntas, hemos reunido señales que podrían ayudarte a saber si te quiere y si merece la pena luchar por él.

1. You can’t remember the last time you heard, “I love you”

It’s been ages since you heard him express his feelings toward you. You can’t even remember the last time he said he loved you after you said it first.

All you can remember are uncomfortable silences, looks off into the distance and him changing the subject. Trying to force the love, or the words to express it, doesn’t work.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t force yourself to roll those words off your tongue if you don’t feel them. This is the first and biggest sign that he’s no longer in love.

2. Ya no se ríe contigo

Antes os divertíais juntos, reíais juntos, pasabais tiempo juntos. Pero ahora se ríe solo, con el teléfono en la mano.

Se ríe de sus programas de televisión, ensordeciéndote con el silencio que queda cuando deja de reír.

And when you gather enough strength to ask him to share it with you, he simply replies with, “You wouldn’t get it.” But you can still clearly remember the times when you just had to look at each other and you would start laughing.

Esos momentos en los que pensabais, latía el corazón y reíais en sincronía, pero parece que él ya no los recuerda.

3. Las conversaciones sobre el futuro se desvanecen

Al principio, sólo parecíais hablar del futuro.

Futuras vacaciones, viajes y películas que iban a ver juntos, y cómo sería su casa algún día.

It’s natural for guys to talk about the future when they’re excited to share it with someone. But now, you can’t even remember the last time he mentioned a future for you two.

That could be because he doesn’t see you as a part of it anymore.

4. La relación parece una rutina

There’s no more passion and excitement in his eyes. He doesn’t wait up for you when you’re working long hours. He doesn’t welcome you home.

En lugar de eso, mira la televisión, apenas consciente de tu presencia.

Cuando te besa, su mente está a kilómetros de distancia.

When he holds you, he doesn’t hold you as tight as he used to. Instead, his arms are just there, wrapped around you, cold as ice.

Everything he does, he does it like a machine, with no emotions, simply doing them because he’s used to doing them, not because he enjoys them.

5. You don’t communicate as much as you once did

He no longer talks about his life, how he’s doing at work, how his day was and he isn’t interested in yours.

Your communication is only about chores around the house, the chores you’re obliged to do together and even communication feels like a chore, something you have to do, instead of something you want to do.

6. He doesn’t seem to care about the little things anymore

Se daba cuenta cuando cambiabas de peinado, cuando te ponías un vestido nuevo.

Te preparaba cenas, te llevaba el café a la cama y te besaba en la frente cada vez que se cruzaba contigo.

He was funnily annoyed by the way you eat cookies like Cookie Monster and when you make faces when eating Indian food. But now, he couldn’t care less.

No matter what you do, the way you do it and how hard you try, he just doesn’t seem to notice at all.

7. Intenta evitar la intimidad

Ya no te besa ni te abraza. Cuando os vais a dormir, cada uno está en su lado de la cama.

When you try to make love to him, he suddenly remembers he has something to do, or he’s tired or busy.

La falta de sexo suele ser el mayor problema en una relación y una señal de que algo va mal.

If you notice that your sex life is lacking, but your man refuses to talk about possible causes, that’s because he already knows why.

8. Empezó a apagar el teléfono

We all crave some rest from our phone after a long day at work, but most of us will just silence it. But if he starts turning his off, and you’re not able to get in touch with him, that’s a sign he just doesn’t want to talk to you.

On the other hand, if he starts taking his phone wherever he goes, including when taking out the trash, that could be a sign that he’s hiding something or someone from you.

Either way, that’s a sign of a doomed relationship.

9. You’re the only one trying

Para que una relación tenga éxito hacen falta dos personas. Hacen falta dos personas que se esfuercen, que pongan amor, para que prospere.

But if you’re the only one trying, if you’re the only one loving, what’s the point?

You’re only postponing the inevitable. Unless he’s ready to sit down with you and discuss the issues you have and what to do to solve them, there’s no point in fighting for something that’s long gone.

Otherwise, you’re only suffering more, hoping that if you try a little bit harder, it will work out.

But until he puts in a little bit of effort too, there’s no way that relationship can work out.

10. You’re exhausted after spending time together

Los nervios están a flor de piel, pensando qué decir a continuación, qué hacer. Pensando en cómo acercarte a él, esperando que no huya.

Cosas que solían ser naturales para ustedes dos ahora se sienten tan aterradoras.

Después de separarte, te sientes agotado de intentar hacer lo correcto, de calcular cada uno de tus movimientos. Y créeme, él siente lo mismo.

11. He doesn’t care about spending time with you

No man enjoys his woman out there partying without him, without letting him know where she’s going or at least making sure he knows she’s okay.

But if he doesn’t show any interest in where you’re going or for how long, that’s because he doesn’t really care.

He enjoys spending time without you, probably hoping that you will meet someone else because he’s already made up his mind about this.