13 sinais de que você está num relacionamento possessivo
As relações possessivas variam consoante a gravidade da possessividade. Embora por vezes possa ser um ciúme ligeiro, pode chegar a um nível em que se torna tóxico.
Nevertheless, no possessive relationship is healthy. Every possessive relationship starts off like a fairy tale, where you have met someone who cares deeply about you so you’re not ready to look for signs that something is wrong, because it just feels good to be wanted.
But if you feel like you’re trapped in a relationship or the feeling of being stalked simply creeps up on you, maybe it’s time to look for the signs that your partner is the possessive type.
He’s controlling
Ele tem a necessidade de a controlar wherever you go, as well as when and with whom. If he’s not involved in the decision making, he’s text-bombing you until he is.
He has ways of manipulating you into following his requests, which ultimately leads to cutting you off from your friends and family, until he’s the only one you have.
Partilhar é cuidar, mas não para ele quando se trata de si.
Ele exige saber as suas palavras-passe
“Come on, what’s the big deal? What are you hiding anyway?”
Social media accounts are something private that we share with our significant other when we feel like it, when we trust them in a way that they don’t have the need to check up on us, because they trust us too.
But demanding to know someone’s passwords is neither healthy nor lovable.
Pegajoso
When we fall in love, it’s natural that we want to spend every single moment with that person. We want to know how they feel, how they think and how they breathe.
É tão bom, mas com o passar do tempo, aprendemos a viver separados, mas ainda assim juntos.
Se ele se recusar a fazê-lo, se continuar a querer passar cada segundo do seu tempo livre consigo, tem um problema.
Pedir-lhe-á que troque os seus amigos por ele e que abandone os seus passatempos, só porque quer estar consigo.
Ele persegue-te
This is not something any of us is really ready to admit. He’s my boyfriend, there’s no way he can stalk me.
But if you find him reading your messages, snooping around your phone and browsing history, logging into your accounts or popping up unexpectedly at your workplace or the bar where you’re with your friends, he’s a stalker.
That’s not cute behavior, that’s hella creepy.
Obedece aos seus desejos
If he wants to go somewhere, you go there. Compromise is a word he’s not familiar with, neither does he want to get to know it.
It’s all about him, because he knows what’s best for you anyway. If you don’t make his wishes come true, all hell breaks loose.
Alterações de humor
He’s so happy you’re finally with him, but the moment you mention a male colleague or a childhood friend, his mood changes.
Mesmo as coisas mais pequenas deixá-lo aborrecido ou zangado. He’s happiest when you’re only with him and talk only about him.
Acusações constantes
He’s constantly accusing you of flirting with other men, no matter whether you did or not. If you talk to a man, you’re flirting.
If you look at a man, you no longer love him. If you want to go out with your friends, you’re just looking for a way to cheat on him.
You’re always to blame, no matter what you do and how hard you try to prove your love to him.
He doesn’t respect your personal space
If you’re in a relationship, why do you need space in the first place?
A sua ideia da mulher perfeita é a mulher que lhe é completamente submissa, aquela que ele pode controlar e sobre a qual sabe tudo.
If you ask for some time alone, he gets offended, because it must mean you’re tired of him and you’re obviously hiding something. But, let’s be honest.
Everybody needs some ‘me’ time.
Bombardeamento constante de mensagens
If you’re separated from him, at work or with your friends and family, he’s message-bombing you constantly.
Ele precisa de saber onde estás, o que estás a fazer, quanto tempo vais estar fora.
You can’t have a minute’s peace without him nagging and demanding your attention.
He’s extremely paranoid
He’s always afraid that you will leave him, that you’re looking at other men and cheating on him.
He needs to know why you’re talking to your friends, why your colleague calls after work, why you’re texting with your friends, if he is not enough, etc.
He’s always in a panic, in fear that his controlling is not strong enough and you will leave, and he’s in fear of losing his favorite toy.
Ele tem a necessidade de controlar o que vestes
Esse vestido é demasiado apertado, essa saia é demasiado curta, esses sapatos têm um ar de galdéria.
He’s trying to fit you into the mold of the perfect woman he has in his mind, regardless of how you feel about it and how hurtful it could be for you.
Tenta separá-lo dos seus amigos
Ele precisa de passar todos os momentos do seu dia consigo e quer que esteja disponível para ele no momento em que ele telefonar.
That’s why he will slowly start turning you against your friends, talking about how he doesn’t like them, how they’re toxic for you and how you don’t need them.
And it’s easier for him to manipulate you once you’re all alone and you lose your support system.
It’s all because he ‘loves you’
Justificar a manipulação e possessividade tóxica with love is his favorite thing. He tried to cut you off from your friends, because he knows what’s best for you.
He doesn’t want you to talk to other men, because he knows what they’re after. He wants you isolated, because the world is cruel and he can protect you.
O ciúme não é amor. Comportamento possessivo não é amor. Lembra-te disso. Nenhum homem é digno da vossa liberdade.
