Ele é apenas um amigo: 20 sinais claros que provam o contrário
Girls, let’s just be honest and admit that we have all found ourselves in a ‘ele é apenas um amigo, ou ele está interessado em mim??’ situation at least once in our lives.
Human nature is just not that simple and despite the fact we sometimes think we know everything, we can’t possibly know what goes around in other people’s heads.
Therefore, it’s pretty impossible to read someone’s mind and to know for sure how a man feels about you… Se ele a vê apenas como uma amiga ou ele tem sentimentos românticos por si.
Is He Just A Friend? 20 Surefire Signs He’s Falling Hard For You
Por vezes, um amor bonito pode nascer de uma amizade vulgar, ou pode ser apenas stuck in a ‘friend zone’, which you can’t get out of, no matter how hard you try.
You get stuck in a place where you can’t express your true feelings because you know that person sees you just as a friend and you don’t want to risk losing that friendship.
Eis alguns sinais reveladores que lhe dirão com certeza se vale a pena arriscar e avançar. Ele vê-a apenas como uma amiga ou talvez algo mais do que isso?
1. A magia do contacto visual intenso
It’s okay when friends establish eye contact when talking about something important because that’s the strongest and clearest sign of trust between two people. However, if you catch your guy glancing at you when you’re not looking, that’s a sign of something else.
A friend will never do that. Or, at least, they won’t do that too often. Intenso contacto visual é a ação mais íntima entre as pessoas.
Sometimes, when we like a person, we can’t help but stare at them. We do it unintentionally, and it feels like we can’t even control it.
O resultado final é que se o seu amigo do sexo masculino keeps glancing at you, he’s hiding something. In other words, it’s a very bom sinal that he’s hiding his affection for you.
If he’s a rapaz tímido, he’ll probably quickly look away every time you try to catch him in the act… He sneaks those glances, and every time you try to catch his eyes, he breaks contacto visual porque ele gosta de si mas é demasiado tímido ou com medo da sua reação.
Even if you try to look him in the eyes after that to see if your eyes will meet, he’ll know what you’re doing and will immediately block eye contact.
2. Presta atenção aos seguintes sinais de linguagem corporal!
Se o teu amigo gosta de tiA primeira coisa a que deve prestar atenção é à sua linguagem corporal. Isso revelará definitivamente os seus sentimentos.
The truth is, when we’re around a person we have strong sentimentos românticos for, we can’t completely control our behavior. Por causa de a forte tensão floating in the air, we simply can’t restrain our movements and behavior.
Acredita em mim, ele pode estar a esconder os seus sentimentos por ti, mas seu linguagem corporal definitely won’t be able to support him in doing so for too long. Por isso, observe o seu comportamento e, se encontrar algum destes sinais de linguagem corporal que o teu amigo gosta de ti, it’ll be the clearest confirmation of your doubts.
- Brincar com o cabelo dele
This is a very subtle sign your friend likes you romantically, but it’s also a strong one. His secret makes him nervous, which gives him that itchy feeling, and he’ll start touching his hair without even being aware of it.
- Manter a postura aberta
If a guy likes you, he’ll have an open posture. That means he’ll keep his arms and legs uncrossed. It’s a good sign he trusts you and enjoys your company.
- The way he hugs you is… ?
Ok, acho que todos nós sabemos a diferença entre diferentes tipos de abraços, such as a friendly and a romantic hug. The first one doesn’t last long, and there are no sparks flying around…
E uma romântica é exatamente o oposto. Sente-se a química e as faíscas enlouquecem à sua volta. Por isso, se o seu amigo aponta abaixo dos ombros quando ele abraça-o, it’s a huge sign he has fallen for you. So, girl, soon you’ll be looking for one of those cute nomes de contacto para um namorado.
- The ‘above the mouth’ smile
Have you noticed that his smile is different when you’re around? That he smiles with you like he doesn’t with anyone else? Well, it’s obvious that simply being in your presence makes him happy.
- Espelhar a sua linguagem corporal
This also happens unintentionally. It’s like our body’s reaction to our emotions.
When we’re into someone, we tend to copy their behavior, speech, and body gestures. So, if he tries to copy the way you sit or talk, it’s a grande sinal he’s trying to convey the message that ele gosta de si.
3. He can’t resist physical contact
When you constantly hang out with a person you like but are friends with, you won’t be able to resist touching that person or any kind of physical contact. As with the body language signs above, this is also something we can’t affect or control.
Claro que sim, contacto físico é perfeitamente normal em amizades íntimas. No entanto, existem também alguns limites.
Once it becomes more frequent and different from ‘regular’ touching, it becomes a fogo seguro sinal dos desejos profundos que essa pessoa tem para consigo.
Teasing with an elbow, trying to hold hands (especially in public), stroking the hair… All of these can be huge signs o teu amigo homem quer algo mais do que apenas amizade.
4. Ele conhece todos os teus gostos e desgostos
If he wants to get to know you on a deeper level… If he tries to get to know everything about you, the things you enjoy most, and the things you hate…
It’s perfectly clear that he’s trying to take your ‘relationship’ to the next level.
Claro que os bons amigos se lembram de coisas como o tipo de café de que gostamos. Melhores amigos know your secrets, desires, and some of your flaws… But, that’s it.
O seu amigo quer saber muito mais do que isso porque gosta de si. Ele quer saber os segredos e desejos mais profundos do seu coração porque você é importante para ele. In fact, you’re probably way more important to him than you think.
5. Ele está sempre por perto
Sempre que estás com os teus outros amigos, ele arranja maneira de se sentar ou ficar ao teu lado. Ele está sempre a tentar ter qualquer tipo de conversa consigo e por vezes he calls you ‘babe’.
Ele até se ri das suas piadas que podem não ter tanta piada como pensa.
E quando vê que estás prestes a parar de falar, faz novas perguntas, só para te manter, só para te ouvir, para te conhecer melhor e para passar mais tempo contigo.
It’s like ele adora-o e tudo sobre ti. E todos estes são grandes sinais de que ele realmente gosta. A sua presença faz-lhe ganhar o dia, e essa vontade de estar perto de si deve-se a ele está a apaixonar-se por si.
6. O comportamento dele muda quando estão sozinhos
If you’ve noticed that his behavior changes every time you two are alone, it’s probably because he’s a shy guy and doesn’t know how to approach you in a group of people.
When you’re alone, he’ll try hard para impressionar porque essa atmosfera íntima torna-o mais descontraído e confortável.
It also might be because he isn’t sure how you feel about him and what your reaction will be if he tries anything in public. Of course, if you’re already in a romantic relationship, that may also be a reason for his change in behavior whenever you are alone.
7. A tua opinião é a mais importante para ele
O facto é que o respeito tem de ser a base de todas as relações. Isso inclui as amizades também. And if your friend respects you, they’ll also respect your opinion.
However, that doesn’t mean they’ll always accept it. They’ll take it into consideration, but in the end, they’ll always act and do what they think is right.
Se a o homem gosta de si, he’ll respect your opinion above everyone else’s, and he’ll always try to act on it. In other words, if your friend always comes to you when he needs some advice or a suggestion, it’s because your opinion matters to him… It’s because you matter to him and ele tem sentimentos fortes por si.
8. O sentido de humor é a sua arma de sedução!
He wraps this one up pretty well, and it’ll be hard for you to recognize whether he wants to win you over with his sentido de humor or if he’s simply being funny and trying to make you laugh as friends do.
Once he gets more comfortable (after receiving positive feedback from your side), he will start flirting with you, but he’ll keep presenting it as joking and teasing.
He will tickle you or stroke your cheek, and he’ll make it look like it’s all out of ‘pure friendship love’ — as if!
That’s just him testing you to see if you feel the way he feels and if you want something more than just a friendship because he clearly does.
9. Ele esforça-se tanto para te impressionar
Como é que sabes se ele é apenas um amigo ou se tem sentimentos românticos por ti? If it’s the latter, he’ll try to impress you every single day. With most guys, it’s as simple as that.
You can call it flirting or whatever you want, but it’s a legit and pretty big sign ele sente-se atraído por si. He’s trying to win you over, and he’s doing everything in his power to do so.
His efforts to impress you aren’t something even a melhor amigo faria. Ele tem um objetivo muito claro em mente: fazer com que se apaixone por ele.
10. He’s reaching out more frequently
In friendships, communication is usually frequent and equal. However, that won’t be the case in a woman-man friendship where one side has stronger feelings than what you would usually have for a friend.
Isto leva-nos à seguinte conclusão: se o seu amigo está sempre a mandar-te mensagens no redes sociais and calling you first, if he’s always the one who initiates communication, if he sends you a bom dia mensagem assim que ele abre os olhos de manhã, significa que está ansioso por passar mais tempo consigo.
The reason is pretty clear… He’s become viciado em si. Ele sente a tua falta a cada segundo e quer falar consigo. Ele quer saber onde estás e o que estás a fazer porque se preocupa muito contigo.
11. Ele enche-te de elogios
Ele está sempre a elogiá-la, mesmo nos dias em que não há nada para elogiar. Esses elogios podem parecer-lhe estranhos às vezes, mas são apenas dicas claras ele gosta de si.
Okay, it’s your melhor amigo‘s duty to compliment you whenever they see that you’re feeling down, but showering you with compliments isn’t part of a bom amigo‘s job.
O seu amigo está a elogiá-lo simplesmente porque está a expressar o que lhe vai no coração e na mente. In his eyes, you’re perfect, and he’s trying to convey that admiration he has for you through compliments.
12. He’s already introduced you to his best friends
And, this is IMPORTANT – he hasn’t only met up with you and just any friends, but his amigos homens. A regra tácita é que quando um tipo te apresenta à família e aos amigos, he’s serious about you.
Isto significa que ele está orgulhoso de a ter na sua vida e que está pronto para a exibir a qualquer pessoa; o seu grupo de amigos é o teste mais importante que ele acredita que vai passar.
He doesn’t want to keep you a secret because he wants everyone to know he cares about you.
13. Ele é super curioso e interessado na sua vida amorosa
It’s true that your friends need to be included in your love life. However, and I think you’ll agree with me, we always talk about it more with our female friends than we do our guy friends.
Guys often don’t like to be included in those things because they’re afraid you might ask them for conselhos sobre relações, e têm consciência de que não prestam mesmo para nada.
Yet, if you have noticed he’s been curious about your dating life, I’m sure it’s not because he’s just being a good friend. It’s clear that he likes you in a romantic way as soon as he’s interested in that part of your life.
Ele quer ter uma ideia das coisas que gosta ou não gosta numa relação românticapara que ele possa usá-la para te conquistar. Of course, he also wants to find out whether you’re seeing someone or not.
14. He’s jealous of all the other guys around you
If he’s uncontrollably jealous of all the other male friends you have and all the other guys who approach you, it’s a huge sign he likes you.
It also means he won’t be able to hide it any longer. He’s coming apart at the seams, and one day, when he sees another rapaz a namoriscar consigo, he’ll explode, and all of his sentimentos românticos sairá.
O seu ciúme é outro grande sinal da fraqueza que ele tem por vós. He isn’t brave enough to admit that ele quer estar consigomas também o irrita quando vê outros homens a tentarem conquistá-la.
15. Fazer com que se sinta seguro e confortável é a sua principal prioridade
Sempre que saem juntos, ele leva-a a casa ou insiste em que volte a contactá-lo para se certificar de que chegou bem a casa.
Ele é protetor de si simplesmente porque ele gosta de si. Ele quer ter a certeza de que está em segurança e fará o seu melhor para que assim seja.
Don’t get me wrong, a friend should care for you in a similar way too. However, I’m sure you’ll notice how the level of your amigo‘s protectiveness changes and increases once his feelings for you start changing too.
16. In your times of need, he’s always the first one to come
Does he not stop calling you when he knows you’re sad? Will he not leave you alone when you feel down until he is positive that you are feeling better? It’s legit – ele tem sentimentos profundos por ti!
Também sabe que ele é a primeira pessoa a quem pode e deve telefonar sempre que precisa de conselhos ou se mete em sarilhos, porque sabe que ele estará lá num piscar de olhos.
Parece que os seus problemas também são problemas dele. Ele dedica-se de corpo e alma a descobrir como resolvê-los, porque tudo o que ele quer é que se sinta feliz e segura.
17. He makes it loud and clear: you’re his #1 priority
Se houver uma situação em que ele tenha de escolher entre si e outra coisa, ele escolherá a si. He always chooses you over everything and everyone else because you’re the most important person in his life.
You will always be his first choice in everything – a sua principal e mais importante prioridade.
Além disso, ele vai sempre encaixá-la na sua agenda, mesmo nos dias mais ocupados. Ele simplesmente gosta de passar tempo consigo mais do que qualquer outra coisa e quer deixar claro que está e estará sempre disponível para si, aconteça o que acontecer.
18. Ele respeita-te em todos os sentidos possíveis
Respeita a sua opinião, mesmo que seja diferente da dele. Nunca tentará rebaixá-la ou fazê-la sentir-se desconfortável.
He will always hear what you’ve got to say and take it into consideration, even if he doesn’t completely agree with you.
Ele apoia-te em tudo o que fazes. Celebra os seus êxitos como se fossem seus. Conhece os seus limites e esforça-se por os respeitar. Are there any bigger signs of respect? I don’t think so either.
E, para que saibas, o respeito é uma das mais belas e honestas expressões de amor.
19. He’s never broken the honesty code
He will always tell you what he thinks. Even if you don’t like it, he will tell you if he thinks you are making a mistake.
He cares about you, and he doesn’t want to see you get hurt. Even if it means that his truth may hurt your feelings a bit… He knows you’ll eventually understand that he did it for your own well-being because he wanted to protect you.
Ele quer ser honesto consigo porque quer que você o ame de verdade e não apenas a sua imagem exterior.
Ele diz-lhe sempre que algo o está a incomodar porque quer que vocês os dois resolvam o problema juntos e sigam em frente.
20. He clearly shows it, and you certainly know it: he’s your hero
I’m sure his behavior confuses you and makes you wonder if he’s your boyfriend or if you’re still just friends. Se o seu amigo is showing most of these signs above, I think I don’t even have to say that it’s more than obvious he has some kind of burning desire to estar convosco.
He starts spending a lot of time with you because he wants to get to know you – the real and raw you.
He wants you to allow him to get close to you, closer than you’ve ever allowed qualquer outra pessoa para vir até si. E se gosta dele back, you should allow him to enter that zone. I’m sure that the more he gets to know all of your flaws and perfections, the more he’ll fall in love with you.
You also know that he isn’t only your melhor amigo, he’s your hero – the person who is always there, even after you try to push him away. Mesmo depois de tentar afastá-loele encontra sempre uma maneira de voltar para si.
That man accepts, respects, and loves you in every possible sense and under every possible condition. That’s a rarity nowadays, and you should definitely do whatever is in your power to mantenham-no na vossa vida para sempre.
Como é que se pode saber se ele só gosta de si como amiga?
Well, one thing is for sure: you definitely shouldn’t blindly believe his words. Ele pode dizer que é apenas um amigo, mas ele pode estar a esconder os seus sentimentos por causa de o medo da rejeição or because he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend.
Se ele gosta de si only as a friend, he’ll definitely behave only as a friend. That means flirting and intimate contacto físico estão fora dos limites.
He’ll behave the same when you’re alone and when you’re hanging out with your friends. He doesn’t hide anything, so there is no need to treat you differently when alone and when in public.
He’ll also date other women, which wouldn’t be the case if he had romantic feelings for you. And he’ll even share details from his dating life or seek relationship advice from you because he sees you plainly as one of his bros.
Confie em mim, saberá se o seu amigo se o vê apenas como um amigo ou se gosta de si in a romantic way… Basta observar o seu comportamento e linguagem corporal when he’s around you. And, of course, his eyes. If he’s into youos seus olhos brilharão sempre que ele olhar para si.
Um homem pode ser apenas um amigo?
To be completely honest, maybe I’m not the right person to answer this question because my opinion regarding this topic is definitely divided.
Tenho vários amigos rapazes, e todas essas amizades são fortes e duradouras. I’ve never felt any romantic interests or tensão sexual between us or anything similar during the time we’ve been such close friends.
I see all of them as my brothers, not ones by blood but by heart. They’re my protectors, my greatest supporters, and my biggest fans. Honestly, I can not and never could imagine my life without them in it.
Também tenho amigas e adoro as minhas duas melhores amigas. However, those ‘broships’ are really something special and wholesome.
On the other hand, I’ve also experienced the other possible scenario of this story – the not-so-great and truly painful one.
Um dos rapazes I always considered my best pal admitted that he didn’t see me as just a friend. We sair como amigos há mais de um ano e, durante todo esse tempo, não fazia ideia do que realmente se estava a passar.
In his defense, there were so many little things and hints that were pointing to what was really happening, but it was my mistake that I didn’t realize them in time.
Para resumir a história, acabámos ambos magoados. Ele, porque o seu amor não foi correspondido, e eu, porque perdi uma bom amigo.
I simply couldn’t allow myself to lead him on because I honestly thought and still think he deserves someone who’ll be able to reciprocate his love.
I know you hoped for a relationship expert opinion regarding this topic, but all I have to say is that it’s possible. Homens e mulheres podem ser apenas amigosNo entanto, a possibilidade de um deles começar a apanhar sentimentos românticos está sempre algures no ar.
No encerramento
Some people say that if a guy likes you, he’ll admit it directly. However, I say that you shouldn’t believe in that kind of, excuse my French, crap.
A man isn’t any less of a man if he hasn’t got the courage to come clean about his feelings. That is the wrong perception we all have of true masculine bravery.
Também, sentimentos românticos shouldn’t be expressed through words. It’s a person’s deeds that really count when it comes to love.
That’s the main reason I don’t agree with those ‘some people.’ If you’re unsure whether o teu amigo está interessado em ti, if you can’t stop asking yourself, ‘Is he just a friend, or is he trying to get out of the friend zone?’ you should only focus on his actions.
As respostas a todas as vossas perguntas estão escondidas por detrás dos seus actos. E, claro, dos seus olhos. Afinal, os olhos nunca mentem, nem podem esconder a verdade real.
