20 coisas que você deve ter em mente ao sair com um cara tímido

Na sua busca constante por Casanovas altas, morenas e bonitas, muitas vezes esquece-se de ver os benefícios únicos de namorar com um rapaz tímido!

O seu primeiro encontro com um homem tímido might not exactly be a walk in the park, but if you’re willing to make the primeiro passo and follow my brilliant tips, you’re in for a fun ride.

Let’s be real for a second. How many times have you been burned by a hot, mysterious, exibir-se que acabou por ser muito mais do que esperavas?

For me, the number is almost limitless. So let’s switch it up. Let’s start seeing the amazing potential of the quiet introvertido na porta ao lado.

Let’s assumir a liderança e começar a ser generoso, gajos tímidos uma oportunidade de mostrar como são verdadeiramente fixes. Porque eles podem, e muito provavelmente vontade surpreender-vos!

Primeiro, dê uma vista de olhos a estas dicas super úteis e, depois, partilho as razões pelas quais deve definitivamente dar uma rapaz tímido o benefício da dúvida!

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Don’t focus on his quietness from the get-go

Concentrar-se no seu lado introvertido desde o início é a atitude errada. Em vez disso, tente criar um ambiente confortável para conviver where he’ll feel at ease.

Pessoas com ansiedade social don’t really want to discuss it at length. Your best bet is to observe his linguagem corporal e ver como ele reage aos seus esforços.

Rapazes tímidos são realmente bons ouvintesDesde que, gradualmente, o faça sair da sua zona de conforto. Whether it’s a jantar or just coffee, don’t be discouraged if there are silêncios incómodos.

That’s perfectly normal for any date, let alone with a rapaz tímido. Assumir a liderançainiciar a conversa e fazer contacto visual.

Quanto mais fácil for para ele, maiores serão as suas hipóteses de sucesso. Frente a frente compromissos podem levar a alguns constrangimento for him, so it’s on you to break the ice.

Fazer-lhe perguntas abertas

Com extrovertidos, it’s pretty chill. The conversation is most likely to develop organically as there are no issues with autoestima em qualquer uma das partes.

Mas com um rapaz tímido, you’ll need these dicas de namoro more than you know. Even if it’s um tipo que‘ve known since escola secundária or you’re just meeting him for the primeira vezO objetivo é que a conversa seja mais bem conduzida.

Ask him open-ended questions that won’t give him the chance to just reply yes or no. That way, you’ll allow him to introduce you to his world a bit without being pushy.

Rapazes tímidos (e raparigas tímidas) têm um tempo difícil a abrir-se, por isso, dêem-lhe um desconto. Ele pode não ser a pessoa certa para perguntar tu fora, but if you do this the right way, soon you’ll be considering ideias para encontros para a segunda ronda!

Ser um pouco namoriscar, “trick” him into revealing more than he intended (oops), and watch things develop at a surprisingly great speed.

Encontrar interesses comuns e liderar com isso

Your first task is to search for common interests (perhaps you could ask his sibling, best friend, co-worker?) so that you’re prepared.

I know this sounds so robotic, but I promise you, it isn’t. With an introvertido, it’s vital to make it as comfortable as possible ASAP, or their interest will wither.

By doing some research, you’re simply ensuring that there’s enough to talk about without awkward moments of tranquilidade desde o início.

Maybe you like the same genre of music? Or maybe you’re both super into dogs? Find out, don’t be shy to introduce the topic, and things should go fine after that.

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Descubra a forma de comunicação preferida dele e mantenha-se fiel a ela

Ele prefere cara a cara conversa ou será que ele se sente mais confortável redes sociais?

If it’s the latter, perhaps you could send him a funny photo on Snapchat e ter algumas brincadeiras que se podem transformar numa conversa a sério?

But if he’s more into real-life interaction, then don’t be too overbearing with a constant barrage of texts. To you, it might be nothing, but to him, it could be a deal-breaker.

Basically, just feel it out, and once you think you’ve figured out how he prefers to communicate, stick to that.

Don’t feel the need to fill every silence

And there’s a very good reason for that. You see, when dating a rapaz tímido (ou começar a namorar com ele), é preciso ter paciência. Muita paciência.

These guys won’t just blurt stuff out and see how it goes. For him, it might take a few seconds, or more, to formulate what he wants to say. Don’t question his ways, but just give him a chance to say it.

Mesmo que isso signifique suportar alguns tranquilidade durante alguns segundos. Porque se continuar a preencher todos os silêncios, como é que ele alguma vez vai dizer alguma coisa?

If you’re willing to bear with him and take things super slow at the start, it truly might be worth your while. He could be a real romantic, you just have to let him show you at his own pace.

Don’t expect a lot of spontaneity on his part

Remember, you’re dealing with an introvertido. And they’re not exactly known for being the initiators of anything. And that’s okay.

During the first stages of dating, do most of the heavy lifting and don’t expect him to woo you off your feet with grand gestures. Is that really what you want?

Ou prefere um bom ouvinte with a kind heart who won’t constantly talk over you? Because this guy could be a real sonhar acordado. Just because he’s not flashy, doesn’t mean he’s not worthy.

A maior parte dos homens com quem costumava sair eram falinhas mansas extrovertidos, and let’s just say it never led anywhere good. 

Mas com um introvertido, there’s this peace of mind that overcomes you with time, and it simply can’t be replaced.

Seja franco quanto ao seu grande interesse

He might not exactly pick up on your subtle signals since he’s not the most extroverted guy ever. So you’re going to have to be upfront.

If you like something about him, openly tell him, don’t assume he’ll figure it out. If you keep things to yourself, he’s just going to overthink everything.

If you enjoy his company, by all means, share it with him. This guy wants to know how you feel, but he’s not exactly going to ask you, now is he?

But that’s kind of the beauty of dating a rapaz tímido. Não há jogos mentais, nem truques, nem necessidade de duvidar de si próprio. As cartas estão na mesa, o que torna tudo muito simples.

Pergunte-lhe sobre a sua família e infância

This is a wide-ranging subject that might get him talking, and it’s just the right amount of personal.

Sem esperar uma narração íntima de todos os aspectos da infância dele, vá pelo básico. Pergunte-lhe onde cresceu, se tem irmãos e como é a sua relação com eles.

Pergunte sobre os pais dele, o que fazem e se vivem longe? Cada coisa que ele partilha pode ser um prelúdio para uma nova conversa.

O truque é ouvir para compreender, não apenas para responder e seguir em frente. Para desenvolver uma conversa com sentido, é preciso ser um bom ouvinte.

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Just because he seems underwhelmed, doesn’t mean that he is

Let’s say you’re on your third date, and you’ve just got a new haircut. It’s quite a change and one would have to be blind not to notice it. But he doesn’t.

And you’re kind of perplexed. You feel good about yourself, it’s edgy, cool, and totally unexpected, yet he says nothing. 

But that’s just his way of expression. Just because he’s not lauding your new cute do, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like it. He’s just not the type of guy to proclaim it openly.

If you really care about his opinion, ask him what he thinks! Chances are he likes it but was just hesitant to say anything first. Give him a little nudge and it’ll be okay.

Nunca partilhe nada que ele lhe diga em confidência

It’s crucial that you be a woman of your word. If he has broken out of his shell and shared an intimate aspect of his life with you, safeguard it no matter what.

Significa muito mais do que se pensa. Rapazes tímidos are really difficult to crack. You seldom know what’s on his mind, and he won’t exactly jump at the opportunity to blab his mouth.

So if you’re familiar with something not a lot of his close friends are privy to, consider it an enormous privilege. This is a sign that he’s starting to feel a deep connection with you.

E se provar ser um bom confidente, a vossa ligação só se tornará mais forte com o tempo.

Don’t rush introducing him to your friends and family

Se há uma coisa que gajos tímidos don’t like, it’s big audiences. That only creates an unnecessary amount of pressure that doesn’t allow them to feel comfortable.

So hold off on the introductory parts. You want to do this the right way. Take it slow and don’t even mention such serious topics unless you feel he might be okay with it.

And remember, if he feels hesitant or seems anxious about the prospect of meeting your friends, it’s not personal. That’s just who he is.

Wait until he’s fully comfortable with you that you can broach this subject, knowing he could actually be up for it. And once this moment comes, choose a place of his liking.

Tenha o cuidado de lhe dar espaço suficiente

In any type of relationship, it’s so vital that both partners have enough breathing room. Alone time is super important for introspection and recharging.

But with an introverted individual, it’s double the amount. So be sure to let him just be. Don’t constantly text, call, or expect him to spend all of his free time with you.

This dude needs his alone time more than you know. That’s his escape from the real world and everything he has to put up with daily.

Be considerate of this and don’t crowd him when he’s clear about his need to just chill on his own. The more space you give him, the more into you he’ll be.

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If he’s into cozy nights in, there’s nothing wrong with that

Uma vez namorei com uma homem tímido who wasn’t really big on jantares em restaurantes de luxo. Sentia-se sempre ansioso e sobrecarregado quando estávamos em salas cheias de pessoas.

That just wasn’t his scene and it took me some time to accept that. It wasn’t that he was cheap or that he was ashamed to be seen with me. He simply preferred a snuggled night on the couch.

And honestly, aren’t those types of low-key nights the best? There is no pressure to look your best, and you can just totally relax, order takeout, eat your face off, then cuddle over a movie.

Na minha opinião, as noites aconchegantes são a nova moda jantar! If you can be perfectly content just spending the night together doing nothing, then you’ve got an actual shot of making it work.

Ajudá-lo a ultrapassar a sua falta de jeito para a vida social

Namorar um rapaz tímido might mean having to hold his hand in a busy street. It provides him with a sense of relief knowing you’re simply there.

I can’t possibly pretend to understand how introvertidos feel since I’m not one, but I will always do my best to be as considerate as possible.

I strongly encourage you to do the same. Be his rock. Hold him down when he’s ridden with anxiety. Show him you’ve got his back and you’re not going anywhere.

The moment you sense he’s starting to feel even slightly uncomfortable, find a good excuse to get out of that situation. Read his linguagem corporal and you’ll make life easier for him.

Silencie o seu crítico interior

After a certain amount of time with someone, we start to develop this sense of freedom to speak our minds. This means that you’ll find it easy to tell your boyfriend off for something silly.

And in most cases, that’s really good, as it shows that your relationship has significantly progressed and reached one of the ultimate stages.

Mas quando se namora com um rapaz tímido, you’re going to want to be careful with that. There will definitely be times when you’ll want to criticize him, but stop to see it from his point of view.

Reevaluate the importance of your complaint, then try to word so that he doesn’t take it personally. Ease him into this new, unique aspect of your relationship.

Estar disposto a dar passos de bebé

Rushing into things almost never amounts to anything positive. At least it doesn’t for me. So this may as well be a true blessing in disguise.

To be perfectly honest, yeah, at times, it may seem as if it’s taking forever to reach a new level of intimacy. It may seem as if he’s not as invested as you are.

But that’s just dating a rapaz tímido, you know? By now you must’ve realized that his lack of speaking up and initiating things doesn’t mean that he’s not exactly where you are.

It’s just that it might take him a bit longer to transcend your current level of romance. Clearly, he enjoys spending time with you. Just give him time to move at your desired pace.

Nunca usar a timidez dele contra ele

Sometimes, in the heat of the argument, we all say things we don’t necessarily mean. Now imagine saying something nasty to a guy with ansiedade social that you definitely don’t mean.

You’ll be arguing, throwing insults, and all of a sudden, you’ll mention how difficult it’s been for you trying to acclimate to his introverted lifestyle.

That’s not something he’ll just get over. It’ll hurt him like a thousand knives in the chest. His shyness is part of him. He doesn’t choose to be this way.

So when you use this against him (even if you don’t really mean it), to him, it’ll be soul-crushing and devastating.

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Don’t pressure him to open up

If there are still some aspects of his life that he’s unwilling to talk about with you, don’t interrogate him. Don’t be that person who just can’t leave things be.

It’s okay if you’re not privy to every excruciating detail of his life. There is still so much time to discover new things about each other. 

I bet that you haven’t exactly disclosed every single dirty secret to him, have you? So leave it be. He’ll share when he feels like it. Pressuring him will only be counterproductive.

Be chill and let him do his thing. He’ll appreciate you not being pushy, which can only be beneficial for your relationship.

Estar disposto a fazer planos por si próprio

Parte do namoro com um rapaz tímido means making arrangements and taking care of things he might feel hesitant to. It’s really not a big deal.

Na maioria das vezes, quando se conviver, you’ll be the one to suggest when or where to meet up next. It’s as simple as that.

It alleviates any unnecessary pressure off him and also allows you to surprise him with something you know he’ll like. Taking charge isn’t so bad.

Plus, with time, he’ll become more comfortable sharing the spotlight.

Apreciá-lo tal como ele é

Just to be clear, there is absolutely nothing negative about being shy. We’re talking about a personality trait that actually carries lots of positives!

A rapaz tímido can be your soulmate – you just have to let yourself see it. And how are you going to do that? By appreciating this guy exactly the way he is, of course!

Nunca esperando que ele seja alguém que você quer, mas sim dando-lhe a liberdade de viver a sua vida autêntica ao seu lado. Não há nada de estranho em ser tímido.

He’s just a normal guy who could take your breath away easily. The only thing is that it might take him a bit longer. But so what?

Ele pode acabar por ser um romântico e surpreendê-la em mais do que uma maneira. Tudo o que tem de fazer é deixá-lo ser o seu "eu" único e fixe.

Por que namorar um cara tímido é incrível

• He is an excellent listener. He won’t talk over you or interrupt you mid-sentence. You will always have his full attention and, unlike most guys, he will genuinely care about what you have to say.
• He is modest, sincere, and doesn’t need to be in the center of attention. He keeps his circle small but abundant in quality. Being kind and humble is what he is all about.
• He isn’t interested in toxic mind games. And that is the most refreshing thing in the dating world if you ask me. In a sea of superficial exibicionistasA sua sinceridade sobressairá.
• É mais provável que ele seja compreensivo com os seus problemas. E, melhor ainda, oferecerá soluções úteis e conselhos genuínos. Este tipo preocupa-se com a sua alma, não apenas com o seu corpo.
• Ele nunca se importará com os teus defeitos. Ele apreciará cada uma das suas imperfeições, peculiaridades e defeitos. Nunca dissecará a sua aparência ou fará com que se sinta indigno.
• He will always be his raw, authentic self. He’ll always tell you like it is. He isn’t interested in projecting who he’s not. With him, what you see is almost always what you get!

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