20 coisas que deve saber para se ajudar a curar um coração partido

1. Um coração partido não é algo de que uma pessoa se recupere num instante.

Antes de se curar, tem de perceber que foi gravemente ferido. Foi emocionalmente traído e usado.

Your trust was violated and no matter how hard you try, for some time, you’re not going to be the same person as before.

A cura leva tempo. Período. 

2. A tristeza é a chave para uma felicidade duradoura.

Heartbreak hurts like hell, but you’re in for a surprise after it’s done.

Life is kind of fair and it can reward you if you stay persistent and don’t give up. 

3. Deixar o luto em paz.

The tears that want to burst out – let them. The pain that desperately wants to see the light of the day – let it.

Don’t hold anything in, because if you do, it will sit inside you until it rots and corrupts the person you once were.

Transformá-lo-á numa sombra amarga e cínica da pessoa que já foi. 

4. Pode escolher-se uma vida sem amor como resultado de um desgosto.

Pode viver sozinho durante todos os anos que virão.

You can choose to look at happy couples and reassure yourself that you’re happy, that it’s your choice to be solteiro para sempre, and that it’s the best thing you’ve ever done.

Deep down, you know that’s a lie. Stop it! Face the truth. 

5. Embrace the negative thoughts, don’t fight them.

Quanto mais lutar contra eles, quanto mais os ignorar, mais infeliz será. Aceite os sentimentos negativos e encontre uma forma de lidar com eles.

Make them your friends – help them if you need to. In that way, you help yourself. 

6. Informe os seus amigos sobre as suas necessidades.

Don’t hide anything from anyone.If you feel like shit today and you’re not up for company or hanging out, don’t pretend you are.

Os amigos estão lá para ti, aconteça o que acontecer.

If you need space, if you need company, if you need a shoulder to cry on, a real friend will give everything you’re asking for without thinking twice about it. 

7. O acomodamento nunca é uma boa opção.

Ficar em uma relação infeliz Ficar e ignorar o futuro inevitável não o vai tornar menos doloroso.

If nothing, it’s going to be even worse in the end.

8. Cuidado para não cair na armadilha da depressão.

A linha que separa o luto da depressão é muito ténue e é preciso estar atento se a ultrapassámos.

But, it’s not that hard to see the difference after all.

The first and the most important sign telling you something more than just grieving is happening to you is if you simply don’t care about anything.

If you don’t have the strength to get out of bed for anyone, if you’ve lost the reason to live, that is depression.

And if you let yourself get stuck in that state, you’re not going to find your way out that easily. 

9. Arranja espaço para ti.

You’ve been putting others before yourself for a while now.It’s about time to put that poor self-treatment to an end.

It’s about time you start asking yourself what it is that you want and what ultimately makes you happy.

Arranje espaço na sua vida para si e o desgosto será muito mais fácil de suportar. 

10. I know that you’ve put yourself in “protection mode.”

You’re being extra careful not to fall into another heartbreaking trap.But, a vida não pode ser jogada em segurança.

The line of life you’re supposed to walk on is not straight all the time.You can’t see what’s next and it’s foolish to even assume.

Dito isto, não há forma de jogar pelo seguro.

É preciso correr riscos, é preciso voltar a confiar em alguém se se quiser voltar a sentir o gosto do amor.

Even if you think you don’t, that’s just anger and denial talking out of you for now. 

11. A vingança é infantil.

You’re not going to feel better if you get back at your ex.Nothing will change and your heart will remain broken.

Em vez de se transformar numa cabra vingativa, tente perdoar-lhe. Pensando bem, tenta até ser simpática com ele.

Let him know that you don’t hold any grudges and go through your heartbreak in a dignified manner. 

12. O luto vem em ondas.

Prepare yourself for the days when you’re going to feel extraordinary and the next morning you’re going to feel like shit like your whole world has come crumbling down.

Isso é completamente normal e não há nada com que se preocupar. Não há nada de errado consigo.

It’s how the human mind works. But, the thing you can truly take from your behavior is that you’re on the right road to “Healville.” 

13. In this excruciating pain and agony you’re going through, you’ll see something inside of you that you never knew existed.

You’re going to see a new side to yourself.You’re going to see that when things get rough, you know how to keep yourself standing.

You’ll see the strength you never knew you had.In short, you’re going to surprise yourself. 

14. If you’re feeling pain, give love in return.

Don’t unleash the pain you’re feeling onto others.That won’t affect you positively. Give love to anyone, anywhere.Love is never enough to give or receive.

Be the one to spread it despite that you’re hurting.You’ll be paid back with interest. 

15. Aceitar o que aconteceu e seguir em frente.

Não fizeste nada de mal. Tiveste uma péssima mão e tinhas de perder.

Não havia nada que pudesses fazer para evitar que o teu desgosto acontecesse.

Era o destino e talvez até uma boa lição a aprender. 

16. You’ve been to the bottom and you know how it feels down there.

That’s why you’ll always be grateful in your life for everything you get.

You’ll have loss and deep despair to compare everything positive happening.

The bottom line is, you’ll apreciar a vida e o seu papel nela.

17. You can’t predict when the pain will come or how long it will last.

You can’t time the pain, so you can’t feel it only when you’re alone in your room.

No… the cannonball of sadness can hit you in the middle of the street, in a crowd of people.

Don’t try to stop it or put it off for another time, because… you simply can’t. 

18. Heartbreak isn’t just reserved for the ones who’ve been in a relationship.

O amor unilateral também causa desgosto.

Recovering from being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back is as awful as being dumped.

It’s a process that lasts as long as any other recovery.

It’s something you need to sort out in your head and deal with like with everything else. 

19. Quando alguém te parte o coração, tudo fica diferente.

You’re going to look at the world around you differently.You’re going to see people in a different way.

You’re going to think differently.Heartbreak is going to change you, but it’s going to change you for the better. 

20. Não se pode excluir o coração e pensar de forma racional.

That’s impossible because you’re not a machine.No matter how hurt you are, you’re always going to let your emotions run wild.

The catch is, don’t let them overrule, but don’t exclude them either.Find the balance and you’ll find the peace.