5 sinais de que está a sofrer de perturbação de stress pós-narcisista

A Perturbação de Stress Pós-Narcísico (PSPN) ocorre depois de se ter vivido com um narcisista. Os narcisistas mudam-nos a nós e a forma como percebemos o mundo.

Eles intimidam-nos e manipulam-nos para que nos tornemos na pessoa que nunca quisemos ser.

O seu comportamento tóxico consome-o e transforma-o numa pessoa insegura e assustada.

Depois de libertar-se de um narcisista, your life doesn’t get better right away. There is a long journey and a lot of healing stages ahead of you before you return to being your old self.

You’re still going to be scared, you’re still going to wonder if he’s coming back or how to shut him out of your life for good.

You’re going to be depressed and anxious. You’re going to feel helpless, like you’re losing control over your life instead of getting it back.

É isto que um trauma nos faz. Isto é o que uma quantidade substancial de abuso pode fazer a alguém.

1. You’re haunted by the memory of him

Basta um estímulo para voltar ao passado. Pode ver ou ouvir algo que a faça lembrar-se dele e a sua mente regressará instantaneamente a uma altura em que estava com ele.

O trauma que ele te causou é demasiado grande para esqueceres.

You can try to repress it but something will trigger you back, something will remind you of all the pain you’ve been through.

You’ll dream of him and those dreams will seem like reality. You’ll wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night because you’ve dreamed of him molesting you and it seemed like it was really happening.

These dreams won’t go away that easily because your mind isn’t ready to let go just yet. You’ve been traumatized and you need to let time go by for things to settle down.

If someone gets upset or angry with you, that will probably trigger you to have a flashback of narcissistic abuse. When you fall into that state, you’ll lose common sense.

You’ll start panicking and the paranoia you’ll be feeling will be overwhelming.

You’ll start questioning the authenticity of the people around you because after sobreviver ao abuso narcísicoTudo parecerá uma ameaça potencial.

Cada pessoa na sua vida será, aos seus olhos, um potencial manipulador.

2. You can’t trust anyone

Lidar com um narcisista pode destruí-lo até ao âmago. Pode corroer a sua personalidade e transformá-lo numa pessoa superficial e vazia, ideal para ser manipulada.

Leva-nos a um estado de extrema vulnerabilidade, o que é perfeito para as pessoas que se querem aproveitar de nós.

You are aware of the fact that now, after you’ve survived a narcissist, you are an easy target. And that’s why you simply can’t trust anyone.

Nothing can assure you that you won’t go through the same kind of abuse all over again from the start. No one can convince you that they are only trying to help you.

Every new person in your life will be a potential manipulator in your eyes. This is what happens after narcissistic abuse but remember that it’s not your fault.

It’s normal that you don’t trust anyone because you trusted him and look what you got—insecurity, pain and an emotional fallout.

3. Está a ficar escondido

You don’t want to see anybody and you don’t want to talk to anyone. You’re hiding from people and from your own emotions.

You’ve learned in your relationship with a narcissist that you’re not supposed to feel anything. Because every time you felt something, he would suck those emotions dry and refill his energy, leaving you empty and broken.

So, in order to survive him, you’ve learned not to feel anything. You’ve learned to become completely uninteresting.

The thing is, as long as you are interesting to a narcissist and as long as you show that you’re hurting, he will keep coming back to exploit that.

Once you become boring, he won’t have any reason to come back to you. Once you become uninteresting and indifferent, he’ll lose interest.

You’ve done it and you’ve chased him away. But now, you have to get back in touch with your feelings.

You have to let your emotions back in. For now, you’re hiding from them, like you’re hiding from everything else.

4. Sente-se perdido

Durante muito tempo, ele esteve ao volante da tua vida. Durante tanto tempo, ele decidiu o que ias fazer e como ias agir.

Nada dependia de si.

Mas agora, de repente, és livre de fazer o que quiseres. És livre de agir como quiseres e isso assusta-te.

You’re constantly looking around, to see if he is there to tell you to stop and do what he says.

You still can’t take control over your life. You’ve been manipulated for so long that you aren’t even sure how to get your life back.

That’s why some women disobey the regra de não contacto e voltam para um narcisista, porque se sentem perdidos.

Então eles voltam para a única coisa que conhecem. Ele.

Isto também há-de passar. Tem de compreender que tem de passar algum tempo, tem de deixar o seu corpo e a sua mente sararem.

Then, you’ll get back the control over your life. Just nunca cometer o erro de voltar para o homem que abusou de si.

5. A vida normal parece um conto de fadas

You’re experiencing all kinds of different emotions. You’re happy, sad, depressed and anxious. Your feelings are mixed and they change quickly.

After he gaslighted you, you’ll keep doubting yourself and that’s why you’ll have difficulties getting back to your normal life.

You’ll question yourself about if you are good enough and if you’re sane and capable of living on your own.

He’s been feeding you with toxicity and now that he’s gone, you’re lost but most importantly, you’re free.

Utilize o apoio e o amor que recebe dos seus entes queridos e passe pelo fases de cura depois de escapar a um abuso narcísico um a um.