4 razões para voltares para ele quando sabes que mereces melhor

Já alguma vez se viu numa situação em que continua a voltar para o mesmo homem que a magoou mais do que uma vez?

Quando se continua a ficar preso numa relação que se sabe estar condenada ao fracasso e que não tem qualquer futuro?

The worst part is that you don’t know why you’re doing this. You don’t know how you manage to drag yourself into this endless circle without a way out every single time.

Well, we’re here to give you answers to your questions. Here is exactly why you’re going back to him, even when you know you deserve better and why you shouldn’t continue doing so.

You’re afraid you’ll end up alone

Even though this is the last thing you’d probably ever admit, the truth is that you’re probably stuck in this toxic relationship because you’re used to having a man next to you, even if that man is giving you a bad headache.

You’re terrified that you’ll end up alone for the rest of your life if you cut all ties with him and that is not something you’re ready to do.

Single life might look scary for someone who’s been in a relationship for a long time but trust me—it’s way better than it sounds. More importantly, it’s way better than a crappy relationship.

Além disso, ser solteiro e ser solitário são duas coisas diferentes.

Even if you leave this guy’s sorry ass, you’ll still have your job, friends, hobbies and family. And most importantly—you’ll still have yourself.

Têm uma história em comum

The number one reason why people constantly go back to their toxic partner is the fact that they’ve been together for ages. And this is exactly what’s happening to you—you’re sorry for all the years wasted next to this guy but you don’t want all of your time or efforts to be in vain.

Well, let me tell you something: you don’t have to be with a guy just because têm uma história em comum.

Lembre-se de que o seu presente e o seu futuro são sempre muito mais importantes do que o seu passado.

You can’t live off memories forever and it’s time you stop hoping that things will go back the way they were in the beginning because they obviously won’t.

Pensas que todos os próximos homens vão ser iguais ao teu ex

Outra razão pela qual pode estar voltar para o seu ex even though you know you shouldn’t is the fact that he has managed to persuade you that you’ll never find someone better.

É exatamente isto que os manipuladores emocionais fazem—they don’t give up until they convince you that you’re não foi feito para ser amado and that you’ll never find anyone else.

Ensinou-lhe isto durante a sua horrível relação e assume que todos os homens que conhece são iguais ao seu ex.

So why bother even trying to look for someone new, if you’re just going to go through the same shit you’re already going through?

Well, let me tell you that none of this is true. Not everyone is like your ex and if you constantly go back to this guy, you’ll never have a chance to meet someone more suited to you.

You’re afraid of the unknown

Despite all of his misdeeds and everything you’ve been through next to this guy, we have to admit one thing—ele é-vos familiar.

With time, all of these hot and cold games, all of these break-ups and getting back together, have become your comfort zone and you don’t have the strength to abandon that.

You’re anxious about getting de volta à piscina dos encontros and you’d rather stay next to an old enemy than look for someone new.

Se mais não for, sabe o que esperar deste homem, conhece os seus defeitos e aspectos negativos e nada o pode surpreender.

You don’t think that you’re mentally strong enough to put up with someone new and to put the effort into getting to know him.

Big mistake! With this attitude, you’re only hurting yourself.

After all, what do you plan on doing? Keep on living like this forever just because you don’t have what it takes to jump out of your comfort zone?

Em vez de ser um cobarde, tome a sua vida nas suas próprias mãos e faça o que é corajoso e correto!