5 coisas a fazer quando se está preso a uma "relação de foda
Leia isto sem julgar! A maioria das mulheres revirará os olhos à mínima menção de um amigos com benefícios também conhecido como FWB.
The main point of view of the majority of women is that an FWB relationship doesn’t benefit women, just men.
As mulheres evitam-no porque têm a sensação de que estão a ser aproveitadas por estarem numa relação que normalmente envolve apenas sexo.
Bem, o grande choque aqui é que nem todas as mulheres querem realmente uma relação, tal como os homens.
FWB relationships are not something that is restricted to a men’s club only.
Surprised? I don’t think so. No espírito deste conhecimento, passemos à ação.
Nem todas as pessoas, homens ou mulheres, querem a mesma coisa. Nem todas querem uma relação duradoura e um final feliz para sempre.
Alguns querem estar numa relação submissaalguns anseiam por um companheiro de foda.
The point is, it should be their choice. After all, it’s their life, and they should do whatever makes them happy.
So, if there is someone in your life telling you what to do and how to live it, telling you whether it’s good or bad to be in an FWB relationship, then you have a very amigo ciumento.
Nevertheless, don’t limit yourself by only thinking about relationships in an old-fashioned way, ‘the right way’.
If that is not something you’re up for at the moment, something you currently don’t want, then listen to your gut, and do whatever the hell you want. The point is to be happy.
So, if you feel that you want to be more than a fuckbuddy, that you’ve changed your mind about ‘no strings attached’ sex, if you think you have feelings for him, then you should do the following:
1. Pode sempre sair
Ninguém a está a obrigar a ter uma relação FWB. Em qualquer altura, sabe onde está a porta e pode sair.
It’s your choice that you’re in one, and if you start looking him differently like you want a relationship with him, think about what he feels about that before you make a move.
If you think that’s not a good idea, then leave him because staying his fuckbuddy while having deeper feelings is torture, and it’s not going to end well.
2. Desprender-se lentamente
Start distancing yourself. Spend less and less time with him. This can be his indicator that you’re not up for it anymore. He can take a hint, so he might play along and stop calling you.
You don’t want to be desperate and beg him for attention when your relationship has been defined as nothing serious from the start.
Don’t try to talk to him about your feelings if he didn’t do that first. If he saw that you’re distancing yourself, he would have tried to keep you if he is more serious about you.
But if he did nothing and let you go, then you can be sure you’re just a fling.
3. Don’t turn it into a one-sided relationship
Don’t be the one who initiates things. Don’t try to talk him into doing something you want and he doesn’t. This way you’re turning your relationship into a one-way street.
He has no deeper feelings for you, and if you develop some for him, it’s not going to end up good for you.
The more you try and the more you get rejected, the more you’ll hurt. Your anxiety will grow, and you’ll become vulnerable.
You won’t be able to control your actions and your behavior, and you’ll probably do something you’ll regret later.
4. Provocar uma reação
Tal como pode provocar ansiedade em si, pode provocar uma reação nele.
Faça com que ele se dê ao trabalho de gostar mais de si. Faça-o tentar ganhar-te como um prémio, tentar seduzir-te.
Se ele morder o isco e se se deixar levar, pode ser que o leve para onde quer que ele vá.
You just might provoke him to react. If he has the slightest romantic feelings for you, he will react and try to win you over. If he likes you, he won’t risk losing you.
5. Ama-te a ti próprio
Pensa em ti, sê egoísta. Seja o criador da sua própria felicidade.
You don’t need a man to be happy; you know that. If the relationship is not going in the direction you want it to, don’t adjust to it. Do your own thing, and leave.
As I’ve already said, a man won’t define your happiness. Moreover, if a man sees that you are one dominant and independent woman happy all by herself, he will want you even more.
He knows that if he gets together with you, he won’t be responsible for making you happy.
He won’t be the one who’ll run around you in circles or walk on eggshells making sure he doesn’t say something that’ll hurt you.
O facto de se amar o suficiente para cuidar de si é incrivelmente sexy e atraente para qualquer homem.
If you look at it right, it’s a win-win situation. You love and respect yourself if you leave a relationship that doesn’t suit you, and you’ll be attractive as hell to all men out there if you do so.
Do what makes you happy. Stay or leave. It’s up to you.
