5 sinais de que ele não merece uma segunda chance

Ter o coração partido é uma das piores dores emocionais por que se pode passar.

Sente-se sem esperança e tudo o que quer é voltar para o homem que lhe causou toda esta mágoa.

And he behaves like he wants you back too. But you simply don’t know what to do.

Tem medo que you won’t be able to move on without this man by your side but at the same time, you are terrified he’ll hurt you all over again.

You are aware that things between the two of you didn’t work out for a reason but all you want to do is let him back in your life.

You feel like you’ve found yourself in a dead-end street and you don’t know what to do.

Of course, there are situations in which people deserve a second chance. But there are also times when you shouldn’t allow them to re-enter your life, no matter what.

Here are 5 signs your ex doesn’t deserve for you to give him a second chance under any circumstances.

It’s not the first time he has done this

Uma segunda oportunidade só é dada a alguém uma vez e, mesmo assim, não é algo que se deva dar facilmente.

Uma coisa é o seu namorado ter sido sempre um tipo simpático que cometeu um erro estúpido uma vez.

Nesta situação, o erro dele pode ser visto como uma exceção e é perfeitamente normal que reconsidere a possibilidade de lhe dar uma segunda oportunidade.

But if you’ve given numerous ‘second’ chances to this guy but he keeps doing the same things that bother you over and over again, it is more than obvious that he doesn’t deserve any more of your time and attention.

He doesn’t keep his promises

One of the signs that you shouldn’t even consider taking your ex back is the fact that he never keeps his promises.

Embora queira muito que ele mude, no fundo sabe que este tipo não é de confiança.

For as long as you can remember, he’s been giving you false promises and telling you everything you want to hear.

But he never kept any one of those promises. You don’t know whether he intentionally lies to you just to keep you around or if he is simply not reliable.

Seja como for, o que vos faz pensar que desta vez seria diferente?

Why do you think he is someone who deserves a second chance from you, when it’s probable that he’ll make you all the promises in the world but won’t keep any of them?

He isn’t really sorry

Quando alguém está realmente arrependido e pronto para mudar, o seu instinto diz-lhe que ele está a ser sincero.

Da mesma forma, a sua intuição dir-lhe-á se este tipo está apenas a enganar-vos e se ele quer que penses que ele está mesmo arrependido.

Sei que quer acreditar nas boas intenções dele para consigo, mas será que ele está realmente a mostrar remorsos e a assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos ou está apenas a dizer-lhe o que quer ouvir?

Ele está a fazer tudo para obter o seu perdão ou é você que está a inventar desculpas para o comportamento dele, porque quer justificá-lo?

When a man is really sorry and doesn’t want to make the same mistakes all over again, he will do whatever it takes just so you forgive him.

Let’s face it—if he wants to be with you, he’ll chase you to the end of the world just to make it happen.

But on the other hand, if a guy is not ready to be accountable for his own actions, he definitely doesn’t deserve a second chance.

It only means that he doesn’t care enough about winning you over, that he is not aware of the things he’s done to you or that he is perfectly aware of everything but just doesn’t care enough to deal with it.

He doesn’t take you seriously anymore

Se é uma dessas raparigas que continuam a dar dezenas de segundas oportunidades sempre que o namorado faz asneira, a dura verdade é que ele deixou de a levar a sério há muito tempo.

If this is the case with you and your boyfriend, let me tell you that he doesn’t have any intention of changing, no matter what he says.

Ele conhece-te muito bem e sabe o que precisas de ouvir para o deixares voltar à tua vida.

You keep threatening that this is the last time you are letting him back in your life and that you’ll leave him for good if he doesn’t change his behavior and treatment of you but he knows very well that you won’t back your words with actions.

Por isso, lamento ser eu a dizer-to, mas este tipo toma-te por parva.

He thinks he can do whatever he wants and knows you’ll always be there waiting for him.

Your empty words don’t really scare him and you aren’t accomplishing a thing.

You can’t forget what he did

Se está a pensar em dar uma segunda oportunidade ao seu namorado, tem de saber que esquecer e perdoar são duas coisas completamente diferentes.

Although forgiving someone for the harm he’s done to you is hard and challenging, forgetting is even more difficult.

One of the biggest mistakes you could make in a relationship is convincing yourself that you’ve forgiven or forgotten about something that still haunts you.

Eu sei que provavelmente tens saudades deste tipo e daquele ainda o amas but taking him back won’t change a lot, especially if you know that you will be holding grudges and that resentment and bitterness will become a part of you and your relationship.

In this case, it’s better not to give him another chance, because you obviously can’t move on from the things he did to you and the two of you will never have a stable, healthy relationship in those kinds of circumstances.