5 señales de que no merece una segunda oportunidad

Que te rompan el corazón es uno de los peores dolores emocionales por los que puedes pasar.

Te sientes desesperanzada y todo lo que quieres es volver con ese chico que te causó todo este dolor en primer lugar.

And he behaves like he wants you back too. But you simply don’t know what to do.

Tienes miedo de que you won’t be able to move on without this man by your side but at the same time, you are terrified he’ll hurt you all over again.

You are aware that things between the two of you didn’t work out for a reason but all you want to do is let him back in your life.

You feel like you’ve found yourself in a dead-end street and you don’t know what to do.

Of course, there are situations in which people deserve a second chance. But there are also times when you shouldn’t allow them to re-enter your life, no matter what.

Here are 5 signs your ex doesn’t deserve for you to give him a second chance under any circumstances.

It’s not the first time he has done this

Una segunda oportunidad sólo se da a alguien una vez y, aun así, no es algo que se deba repartir fácilmente.

Una cosa es que tu novio siempre haya sido un buen chico que una vez cometió un error tonto.

En esta situación, su error puede considerarse una excepción y es perfectamente normal que reconsideres darle una segunda oportunidad.

But if you’ve given numerous ‘second’ chances to this guy but he keeps doing the same things that bother you over and over again, it is more than obvious that he doesn’t deserve any more of your time and attention.

He doesn’t keep his promises

One of the signs that you shouldn’t even consider taking your ex back is the fact that he never keeps his promises.

Aunque realmente quieres que cambie, en el fondo sabes que este chico no es de fiar.

For as long as you can remember, he’s been giving you false promises and telling you everything you want to hear.

But he never kept any one of those promises. You don’t know whether he intentionally lies to you just to keep you around or if he is simply not reliable.

En cualquier caso, ¿qué te hace pensar que esta vez será diferente?

Why do you think he is someone who deserves a second chance from you, when it’s probable that he’ll make you all the promises in the world but won’t keep any of them?

He isn’t really sorry

Cuando alguien está realmente arrepentido y dispuesto a cambiar, tu instinto te dice que está siendo sincero.

Del mismo modo, tu intuición te dirá si este tipo sólo te está guiando y si quiere que pienses que lo siente de verdad.

Sé que quieres creer en sus buenas intenciones hacia ti, pero ¿está mostrando realmente remordimientos y asumiendo la responsabilidad de sus actos o sólo te está diciendo lo que quieres oír?

¿Se está desviviendo por conseguir tu perdón o eres tú la que pone excusas a su comportamiento, porque quieres justificarlo?

When a man is really sorry and doesn’t want to make the same mistakes all over again, he will do whatever it takes just so you forgive him.

Let’s face it—if he wants to be with you, he’ll chase you to the end of the world just to make it happen.

But on the other hand, if a guy is not ready to be accountable for his own actions, he definitely doesn’t deserve a second chance.

It only means that he doesn’t care enough about winning you over, that he is not aware of the things he’s done to you or that he is perfectly aware of everything but just doesn’t care enough to deal with it.

He doesn’t take you seriously anymore

Si eres una de esas chicas que no paran de dar docenas de segundas oportunidades cada vez que su novio mete la pata, la cruda verdad es que hace tiempo que dejó de tomarte en serio.

If this is the case with you and your boyfriend, let me tell you that he doesn’t have any intention of changing, no matter what he says.

Él te conoce muy bien y sabe qué es lo que necesitas oír para que vuelva a tu vida.

You keep threatening that this is the last time you are letting him back in your life and that you’ll leave him for good if he doesn’t change his behavior and treatment of you but he knows very well that you won’t back your words with actions.

Siento ser yo quien te lo diga, pero este tipo te toma por tonta.

He thinks he can do whatever he wants and knows you’ll always be there waiting for him.

Your empty words don’t really scare him and you aren’t accomplishing a thing.

You can’t forget what he did

Si piensas en darle una segunda oportunidad a tu novio, debes saber que olvidar y perdonar son dos cosas completamente distintas.

Although forgiving someone for the harm he’s done to you is hard and challenging, forgetting is even more difficult.

One of the biggest mistakes you could make in a relationship is convincing yourself that you’ve forgiven or forgotten about something that still haunts you.

Sé que probablemente echas de menos a este tipo y que todavía lo amas but taking him back won’t change a lot, especially if you know that you will be holding grudges and that resentment and bitterness will become a part of you and your relationship.

In this case, it’s better not to give him another chance, because you obviously can’t move on from the things he did to you and the two of you will never have a stable, healthy relationship in those kinds of circumstances.