5 sinais de que ele só está agindo como se não estivesse nem aí
Os homens são mesmo idiotas ou só se comportam como tal?
Well, most of them who act like it are really idiots, but there are men who just pretend they don’t give a fuck because they are hiding something.
I can’t quite figure out why they do it, but it’s true. I’ve been surrounded with men my whole life. Enough to see right through them.
I’m not saying I’m an expert on the whole male psychology thing, but I think I’ve cracked a code or two on why men act like jerks when in fact they are nothing like that.
Most of us think that men are not so complicated, but they are—more complicated than you can imagine.
You see, when a woman has a problem, she’ll reach out to a friend or a family member and she’ll get it out of her system.
She’ll talk it out, get a bit of advice or support, whatever she needs the most and she’ll move on.
She’s not going to keep it all bottled up, go out and get hammered to ‘deal’ with her troubles. She’s not going to turn into a repulsive jerk and hurt other innocent people.
Não. Os homens fazem-no.
It’s easy for us, women because in a way we are labeled as the emotional ones, with no problems when it comes to expressing our feelings.
Por outro lado, espera-se que os homens sejam machos e corajosos. Espera-se que lidem com tudo com facilidade, sem qualquer ligação emocional.
Mas, pense novamente.
É claro que os homens são tão emotivos como as mulheres. Eles SÃO humanos, certo? Eles apenas têm uma forma estranha de lidar com as suas lutas e emoções profundas.
These behaviors of theirs label them as jerks, when actually they are just grieving and trying to find a way to cope with all that’s bothering them.
Aqui estão alguns sinais que todos os homens que lutam com as suas emoções profundas projectam, através de um total idiota:
1. Ele está a fechar-te completamente.
You get the feeling he’s starting to distance himself. You’re right. That is his way of dealing with his deep emotions, his inner struggle.
He will never admit he’s upset because he thinks it will make him a wuss in your eyes. And he doesn’t want to lose his ‘I’m a big macho man’ attitude—not in front of you.
When he’s feeling a bit down, he will send you a bunch of mixed signals which you are supposed to interpret.
And not to mention that you’re supposed to interpret them the right way. You’re supposed to read his mind and get that he is upset.
2. He has a ‘bad boy’ attitude
He appears to be angry and short-tempered all the time. Everything seems to bother him, so women label him as a jerk—when he’s actually not.
You know he is not like that. You can see that he’s changed. All this behavior is triggered by trying to deal with emotions. It’s his defense mechanism.
It’s the only way he can cope with his problems.
Ele está a usar esse mau comportamento sempre que se sente exposto. Mas, por trás de tudo isso, ele é um ‘goodie-goodie’ à espera de dizer tudo o que lhe vai na alma.
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3. He’s partying all the time
Os homens tornam-se normalmente festeiros sempre que algo os perturba, mas especialmente se acabaram de romper com alguém.
It’s their way of showing they don’t care, that they are better off without them, and that it’s time to move on to the next girl.
It’s their way to deal pretty much everything. They think if they get hammered, they’ll forget what is going on in their lives.
E fazem-no, mas na manhã seguinte, tudo está na mesma.
But, what’s really at stake is that deep inside they are hurting.
They are missing their partners or some other issue is on their minds but they won’t ever show their vulnerable sides to anyone. They won’t ever admit they’ve been hurt.
4. He’s an adrenaline junkie
He needs to dare life just to feel the excitement. He needs to dare life just to distract himself from thinking about something else—maybe a woman who broke his heart or a problem he’s facing.
He needs his adrenaline rush to let go of the pain someone caused him—it will be either adrenaline or sorrow running through his veins.
5. As suas piadas são inapropriadas
Ele leva as piadas grosseiras um pouco longe demais. Ele não tem noção de quando contar uma determinada piada é apropriado ou não.
Sometimes, you just want to punch him right in the face because he’s being a complete asshole.
But on the other hand, you have to understand him. It’s is a sua forma de lidar com emoções profundas.
We all have our ways. His is rude and off-putting, but at the end of the day, it’s a simple defense mechanism.
Os homens têm as suas próprias formas de lidar com as emoções e deve respeitar isso.
Por isso, antes de acabar com eles, veja se são apenas idiotas ou se estão a esconder-se atrás de máscaras de idiotas para lidar com emoções destruídas.
