5 señales de que sólo actúa como si no le importara nada

¿Los hombres son realmente imbéciles o sólo actúan como tales?

Well, most of them who act like it are really idiots, but there are men who just pretend they don’t give a fuck because they are hiding something. 

I can’t quite figure out why they do it, but it’s true. I’ve been surrounded with men my whole life. Enough to see right through them.

I’m not saying I’m an expert on the whole male psychology thing, but I think I’ve cracked a code or two on why men act like jerks when in fact they are nothing like that. 

Most of us think that men are not so complicated, but they are—more complicated than you can imagine. 

You see, when a woman has a problem, she’ll reach out to a friend or a family member and she’ll get it out of her system.

She’ll talk it out, get a bit of advice or support, whatever she needs the most and she’ll move on.

She’s not going to keep it all bottled up, go out and get hammered to ‘deal’ with her troubles. She’s not going to turn into a repulsive jerk and hurt other innocent people. 

No. Los hombres hacen eso. 

It’s easy for us, women because in a way we are labeled as the emotional ones, with no problems when it comes to expressing our feelings.

En cambio, de los hombres se espera que sean machos y valientes. Se espera de ellos que manejen todo con soltura, sin ataduras emocionales.

Pero, piénsalo otra vez. 

Por supuesto, los hombres son tan emocionales como las mujeres. Ellos SON humanos, ¿verdad? Simplemente tienen una extraña forma de lidiar con sus luchas y emociones profundas.

These behaviors of theirs label them as jerks, when actually they are just grieving and trying to find a way to cope with all that’s bothering them.

He aquí algunas señales que todo hombre que lucha con sus emociones profundas proyecta, a través de ser un completo imbécil:

1. Te está cerrando completamente.

You get the feeling he’s starting to distance himself. You’re right. That is his way of dealing with his deep emotions, his inner struggle.

He will never admit he’s upset because he thinks it will make him a wuss in your eyes. And he doesn’t want to lose his ‘I’m a big macho man’ attitude—not in front of you.

When he’s feeling a bit down, he will send you a bunch of mixed signals which you are supposed to interpret.

And not to mention that you’re supposed to interpret them the right way. You’re supposed to read his mind and get that he is upset. 

2. He has a ‘bad boy’ attitude

He appears to be angry and short-tempered all the time. Everything seems to bother him, so women label him as a jerk—when he’s actually not.

You know he is not like that. You can see that he’s changed. All this behavior is triggered by trying to deal with emotions. It’s his defense mechanism.

It’s the only way he can cope with his problems. 

Utiliza ese mal comportamiento cada vez que se siente expuesto. Pero, debajo de todo eso es un ‘goodie-goodie’ esperando a soltar todo lo que le pasa por la cabeza. 

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3. He’s partying all the time

 

Los hombres suelen convertirse en fiesteros siempre que algo les preocupa, pero sobre todo si han roto con alguien.

It’s their way of showing they don’t care, that they are better off without them, and that it’s time to move on to the next girl.

It’s their way to deal pretty much everything. They think if they get hammered, they’ll forget what is going on in their lives.

Y lo hacen, pero a la mañana siguiente, todo sigue igual. 

But, what’s really at stake is that deep inside they are hurting.

They are missing their partners or some other issue is on their minds but they won’t ever show their vulnerable sides to anyone. They won’t ever admit they’ve been hurt.

4. He’s an adrenaline junkie

He needs to dare life just to feel the excitement. He needs to dare life just to distract himself from thinking about something else—maybe a woman who broke his heart or a problem he’s facing. 

He needs his adrenaline rush to let go of the pain someone caused him—it will be either adrenaline or sorrow running through his veins.

5. Sus bromas son inapropiadas

Se pasa un poco con los chistes groseros. No sabe cuándo un chiste es apropiado y cuándo no.

Sometimes, you just want to punch him right in the face because he’s being a complete asshole.

But on the other hand, you have to understand him. It’s is su manera de lidiar con las emociones profundas.

We all have our ways. His is rude and off-putting, but at the end of the day, it’s a simple defense mechanism.

Los hombres tienen su propia forma de gestionar las emociones y debes respetarla.  

Así que, antes de romper con ellos, fíjate en si son simplemente gilipollas o se esconden detrás de máscaras de gilipollas para sobrellevar emociones rotas.