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Gli uomini sono davvero degli idioti o si comportano solo come tali?

Well, most of them who act like it are really idiots, but there are men who just pretend they don’t give a fuck because they are hiding something. 

I can’t quite figure out why they do it, but it’s true. I’ve been surrounded with men my whole life. Enough to see right through them.

I’m not saying I’m an expert on the whole male psychology thing, but I think I’ve cracked a code or two on why men act like jerks when in fact they are nothing like that. 

Most of us think that men are not so complicated, but they are—more complicated than you can imagine. 

You see, when a woman has a problem, she’ll reach out to a friend or a family member and she’ll get it out of her system.

She’ll talk it out, get a bit of advice or support, whatever she needs the most and she’ll move on.

She’s not going to keep it all bottled up, go out and get hammered to ‘deal’ with her troubles. She’s not going to turn into a repulsive jerk and hurt other innocent people. 

No. Gli uomini lo fanno. 

It’s easy for us, women because in a way we are labeled as the emotional ones, with no problems when it comes to expressing our feelings.

Mentre dall'altra parte ci si aspetta che gli uomini siano tutti macho e coraggiosi. Ci si aspetta che gestiscano tutto con facilità, senza alcun legame emotivo.

Ma ripensateci. 

Naturalmente, gli uomini sono emotivi quanto le donne. Essi SONO umani, giusto? Hanno solo uno strano modo di affrontare le loro lotte e le loro emozioni profonde.

These behaviors of theirs label them as jerks, when actually they are just grieving and trying to find a way to cope with all that’s bothering them.

Ecco alcuni segnali che ogni uomo che lotta con le sue emozioni profonde proietta, attraverso l'essere un totale idiota:

1. Vi sta escludendo completamente.

You get the feeling he’s starting to distance himself. You’re right. That is his way of dealing with his deep emotions, his inner struggle.

He will never admit he’s upset because he thinks it will make him a wuss in your eyes. And he doesn’t want to lose his ‘I’m a big macho man’ attitude—not in front of you.

When he’s feeling a bit down, he will send you a bunch of mixed signals which you are supposed to interpret.

And not to mention that you’re supposed to interpret them the right way. You’re supposed to read his mind and get that he is upset. 

2. He has a ‘bad boy’ attitude

He appears to be angry and short-tempered all the time. Everything seems to bother him, so women label him as a jerk—when he’s actually not.

You know he is not like that. You can see that he’s changed. All this behavior is triggered by trying to deal with emotions. It’s his defense mechanism.

It’s the only way he can cope with his problems. 

Utilizza questo cattivo comportamento ogni volta che si sente esposto. Ma, sotto questo aspetto, è un ‘goodie-goodie’ in attesa di spifferare tutto ciò che gli passa per la testa. 

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3. He’s partying all the time

 

Gli uomini diventano animali da festa ogni volta che qualcosa li turba, ma soprattutto se hanno rotto con qualcuno.

It’s their way of showing they don’t care, that they are better off without them, and that it’s time to move on to the next girl.

It’s their way to deal pretty much everything. They think if they get hammered, they’ll forget what is going on in their lives.

E lo fanno, ma la mattina dopo è tutto uguale. 

But, what’s really at stake is that deep inside they are hurting.

They are missing their partners or some other issue is on their minds but they won’t ever show their vulnerable sides to anyone. They won’t ever admit they’ve been hurt.

4. He’s an adrenaline junkie

He needs to dare life just to feel the excitement. He needs to dare life just to distract himself from thinking about something else—maybe a woman who broke his heart or a problem he’s facing. 

He needs his adrenaline rush to let go of the pain someone caused him—it will be either adrenaline or sorrow running through his veins.

5. Le sue battute sono inappropriate

Si spinge un po' troppo in là nel raccontare barzellette maleducate. Non ha il senso di quando raccontare una certa barzelletta sia appropriato o meno.

Sometimes, you just want to punch him right in the face because he’s being a complete asshole.

But on the other hand, you have to understand him. It’s is il suo modo di affrontare le emozioni profonde.

We all have our ways. His is rude and off-putting, but at the end of the day, it’s a simple defense mechanism.

Gli uomini hanno il loro modo di gestire le emozioni e voi dovreste rispettarlo.  

Quindi, prima di rompere con loro, cercate di capire se sono solo degli idioti o se si nascondono dietro a maschere da idioti per gestire le loro emozioni.