5 sinais de que você é a mãe dele, não a namorada

As mulheres têm esse instinto maternal natural que é suposto ser uma coisa boa, mas por vezes as coisas descontrolam-se.

Em qualquer relação, os parceiros devem cuidar do seu parceiro, but if instead of nurturing your relationship, you start nurturing your partner—you have a problem! If you are not sure whether you’re crossing the line already, read these certain signs:

Limpar depois dele

Always running after him and picking up his shirts and socks all over the apartment will make the term “hot mama” too literal.

Além disso, limpar-lhe a casa sempre que ele comeu ou entornou a cerveja é apenas mimá-lo.

He is a grown man—he can do all these things on his own!

Deixa argumentos por resolver

Every relationship has fights but it’s crucial to solve and not bury them. If you leave an argument unresolved, the only thing you’re gonna feel is anger.

Lembra-se de como costumávamos discutir com os nossos pais quando éramos crianças? Agora tudo faz sentido, certo?

Nas relações, resolver as brigas deve ser o oposto de quando eram crianças, porque os papéis que desempenham agora são iguais.

Está sempre a chateá-lo para fazer alguma coisa

You don’t need to give him a list of chores to do like a child—do the dishes, take out the garbage, clean up your stuff.

Nagging him won’t get him to do what you want him to do, it’ll only make him feel more like he’s back living with his mom.

If he can’t do those things on his own, if he is so irresponsible, do yourself a favor—dump him.

Controlo absoluto

Algumas pessoas gostam simplesmente de estar no comando.

There are limits, but if your partner expects you to be in control of everything, or if you’re doing that precisely because you don’t trust him, then you have a problem.

Para que a relação seja duradoura, os dois devem ter responsabilidades iguais.

You personally feel like he’s more your child than your partner

Stop for a second, and ask yourself: Is this guy really someone to whom you’re emotionally and passionately attached?

Is he really someone who you want to be next to you when you need him the most? Or is he just a needy child who can’t stand on his own feet?

One day, you’ll have your own child, and caring for two babies at once is something you have to think about very carefully.

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