5 sinais indiscutíveis de que ele está a trair-te emocionalmente

Batota emocional is devastating. Probably, most of us would have preferred our partners to physically cheat on us—that is, cheating through sex.

It’s much easier to forgive a physical affair than an emotional one because we can comfort ourselves it was only a uma única vez.

É muito mais fácil perdoar a infidelidade quando apenas está envolvido o contacto físico.

Podemos dar por nós a pensar em alguém que conhecemos há pouco tempo. Talvez pensemos que essa pessoa é apenas um amigo, mas talvez queiramos secretamente que essa pessoa seja um pouco mais do que isso.

You may have never slept with that person or hugged or kissed, but you can’t stop thinking about him or her.

That’s emotional cheating.

It’s much more serious because there are emotions involved. If you emotionally cheat on someone, you will break their trust—and that is something you can’t regain so easily.

Emotional cheating doesn’t have to be intentional.

Muitas vezes, não temos consciência de que podemos estar a enganar alguém. A traição apodera-se de nós. Por outro lado, não somos culpados se o nosso coração tem vontade própria. Por vezes, as coisas simplesmente acontecem.

Sempre que pensamos ou fantasiar com outra pessoa, we are stepping on our partner’s self-esteem because he or she clearly lacks something we are looking for elsewhere.

Se acha que isto está a acontecer na sua relação com o seu parceiro, veja alguns dos sinais que lhe vão tirar todas as dúvidas.

De repente, envolvido nas redes sociais

You partner has never been a social media freak, but lately, he can’t live without checking his notifications or posting new posts.

Maybe he has just bloomed into a Social Media flower. Or maybe he is texting his new secret ‘friend’.

Quem sabe? Mas se ele se mostrar interessado de repente, deves ir ao fundo da questão.

Let’s hope he is the ‘goodie-goodie’ you think he is and not some jerk who is planning to step on your heart.

You feel like you’re chasing him all the time

You’ve got the feeling you are pursuing him all the time. Maybe he’s gotten emotionally distant and he is not engaged in your relationship so much.

Se é o único que está a investir na vossa relação, é preciso repensar as coisas.

The most probable thing that’s happening is that ele está a traí-la emocionalmente.

He is most likely not interested in you as he used to be because he has found a new ‘object’ of interest.

O tempo que ele passa consigo diminuiu

Before, you were together all the time, but now he seems to spend less and less time with you. His attention is not on you—it is elsewhere.

He may even start to shut you down from his life—bit by bit.

Pode pedir-lhe que não assista a alguns dos acontecimentos importantes da sua vida ou pode mesmo não lhe contar algumas das coisas que fez ou está a planear fazer.

These are all signs of emotional cheating and if you notice them in your partner, prepare to be dumped or act on it—quickly.

Ver também: Reality Check: 5 sinais de que ele está a perder o amor por si

Ele tem um amigo com quem pode falar

This friend of his may be just a friend or it may be someone who is waiting for the opportunity to jump into your place—and she will play rough to get there.

O seu parceiro pode realmente pensar que pode falar com ela e talvez partilhar alguma roupa suja da relação para a aconselhar.

Watch out because she may trick him into liking her—believe me, even that’s possible!

A sua intuição diz-lhe que algo está errado

Sometimes, our women’s intuition just gets it right. You have the feeling something is ‘off’. You don’t even have to have some proof to make you believe he is emotionally cheating on you.

You just know. Why do you know it?—It’s hard to explain.

Especially if you’ve been in a relationship with someone for years, you know exactly how they are reacting and what they are thinking. And if they are trair-te emocionalmente, saberá.

Watch out for these signs but don’t follow them blindly. Maybe he isn’t cheating on you after all. Maybe he has a problem which he’s not sure how to present to you.

One way or the other, confront him and listen to what he’s got to say before you make any decision.