6 sinais de que está a perder o amor

Giving in to a relationship is hard. But giving up on one is even harder. It’s unimaginable to think that the person that was once our whole world is now as annoying to us as a pebble in a shoe.

Everything our partner does is getting on our nerves. We are feeling trapped and there are times when we just want to run away. Anywhere and nowhere, it doesn’t really matter. Just run away.

Those are signs that we are falling out of love and sometimes we mistake them with being overstressed or having some troubles in our work or in our lives, but by doing so, we only prolong the suffering—both ours and the person we are in a relationship with.

While it’s completely up to you to decide what to do with these signs, whether you are going to give your relationship another chance, take a break or completely break it off, it’s up to us to give you the list of the six most common and scientifically proven signs that you are falling out of love.

1. As suas imperfeições estão a começar a sobressair

Dizem que sabemos que o nosso amor é verdadeiro quando amamos a pessoa pelos seus defeitos e não apesar deles. Amas todas as suas peculiaridades e essas peculiaridades podem até ser a razão pela qual te apaixonaste tanto loucamente e profundamente apaixonados com eles em primeiro lugar.

Mas no momento em que essas peculiaridades começam a incomodá-lo é o momento em que precisa de parar por um segundo e analisar a sua relação e os seus sentimentos.

A coisa mais difícil de fazer é olhar para dentro de si e ver se ainda existe algum amor, mas deve-o ao seu parceiro e deve-o a si próprio. Conduzir alguém é a pior coisa que se pode fazer a si próprio e a essa pessoa.

Are the quirks of your partner the reason why you can’t be around them anymore? Or is there something deeper than that?

2. Já não está interessado em ter intimidade

Sometimes we feel like we can’t get our hands off of our partners and sometimes we don’t feel like even looking at them. Ups and downs in our sex lives are completely normal because life is tough, life is stressful and it all affects our libido.

But if you can’t even force yourself to look at your partner or you’re already running out of excuses why not to have sex with him, there could be something more than just stress draining you.

3. Pensa cada vez mais em ficar sozinho

When you think about your future and any of your future plans, your partner is not part of them. When you are thinking about possibilities where you could be happy in the future, your partner is not by your side. That is the biggest sign that you’ve fallen out of love.

O próximo passo é ter um olhar errante ou até imaginar-se com outra pessoa. Pode sentir-se culpado por isso, pode até tentar suprimir tudo isso porque está a dizer a si próprio que ama o seu parceiro.

But are you really? Maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you something you don’t want to admit.

4. As suas prioridades mudam

Quando se está numa relação, a relação é o seu foco. A sua relação é a sua prioridade. Mas quando se começa a apaixonar, deixa-se de colocar a relação em primeiro lugar. O primeiro pensamento da manhã não é o seu parceiro, mas o seu trabalho, a sua liberdade, você mesmo.

Your last thought of the day is not your relationship. It’s your daydreaming about your future but without your partner. The moment you stop making your relationship uma prioridade é o momento em que essa relação está condenada.

5. A sua comunicação já não é correcta

Every functional and healthy relationship is built upon communication. It’s important to create a bond between you and to nourish your love, but what if your communication is not what it used to be?

E se as suas conversas estiverem completamente em piloto automático, sempre as mesmas coisas e sempre a mesma conversa fiada? Nesse caso, perdeu a ligação ao perder a comunicação.

You can either work on it together or see if there are any more signs from the list that are unfortunately screaming you don’t belong together.

6. Sente-se preso

You feel like running away all the time. You feel like there is not enough oxygen around your partner. You feel like if your partner hugs you one more time you will die in his or her arms—your freedom will die.

For too long, I thought that there was something wrong with me because in every single relationship, I felt trapped. In every single relationship, I felt like I couldn’t breathe, like I couldn’t dream, like there would be no tomorrow if I didn’t leave.

But all it took for me to feel free in a relationship was the right person. And the same will happen to you. Just please don’t force yourself to stay with someone who makes you unhappy, to stay in a relationship where you feel trapped. Mereces muito mais do que isso.