7 enormes sinais de alerta disfarçados de coisas "fofas" que ele faz

Ter um namorado que está sempre lá para ti, que está sempre presente na tua vida, que se interessa pelo que fazes, é praticamente como ganhar o jackpot numa relação, certo?

Wrong! It’s not always as beautiful and innocent as it sounds. Did you ever stop and think that your boyfriend, instead of being caring and honest, is actually a controlling and manipulative bastard?

He spends a lot of time with you but not because he can’t be without you for that long but because he can’t stand letting you go anywhere by yourself. It’s because he’s jealous and he doesn’t trust you.

Often, women see this but they don’t want to admit it. They keep lying to themselves and I don’t blame them, because they seek that real, true love.

They want to seal the deal and live their life as they’ve dreamed it.

Pay attention to those ‘cute’ things they do for you because sometimes they turn out to be anything but that. Don’t lie to yourself because that D-bag doesn’t deserve your love anyway.

What are the red flags they disguise as ‘cute’?

1. Está sempre a mandar-lhe mensagens

Cute? Hell no! In the beginning, you think he’s being super adorable and careful. He shows interest in you and he wants to know what you’re up to.

But this can easily turn out to be a huge red flag. This attention can grow into something really unhealthy. The truth is, he is probably just trying to control you and see what you’re doing and with whom.

Also, the people you’re surrounded with will call you less and less as time goes by because they don’t want to spend their time with someone who can’t take their eyes off their phone. And your boyfriend won’t leave you any other choice than to stare at the screen.

2. Ele finge que sabe como te sentes quando tens um problema

Ele não está genuinamente preocupado consigo. Ele só está a dizer isso para se livrar de si.

He’ll pretend he knows how you’re feeling because he doesn’t want you to bother him with your problems.

You don’t want to live with someone faking concern, you want to live with someone who’ll really hear you out and try to help you work on your issues, for real.

3. Ele está sempre numa relação

Usually, people think that only those who are single all the time have some kind of a problem. Actually, it’s the other way around.

Those who are single know what they want and they don’t want to end up in a relationship just to be in one, just to avoid loneliness.

Mas aqueles que estão sempre numa relação são uma potencial bandeira vermelha. Estas pessoas têm provavelmente medo de estar sozinhas e suportam praticamente tudo só para terem companhia.

Normalmente, estas pessoas não são honestas consigo. Fingem gostar das mesmas coisas que nós.

Fingem ser como tu. Basicamente, mentem a toda a hora só para o manter na sua vida.

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4. He compares you to other women in a ‘good way’

Achas que é bonito e adorável. Pensas que ele só te vê a ti e a mais ninguém. Mas há um outro lado desta história.

Isto pode facilmente ser psicologia inversa. Ele poderia facilmente estar a dizer-lhe isto para o pressionar subconscientemente.

Because if you loosen up and relax, if you gain a few pounds, you’ll always remember the time when he told you that you’re the prettiest one.

He’s not telling you that now. Why? Because he’s obviously bothered by the way you look or because of the fact that you’ve gained a few pounds.

5. Ele prefere-te aos seus amigos

Friends are for life. Even when you’re in a relationship, you should never give up on your friends.

Claro, há alturas em que a vossa relação é uma prioridade but if your partner chooses to be with you every time over his friends, it’s a red flag.

Imagine if you want to hang out with your friends for a while. He’s not going to be happy about it and he will guilt you into staying at home with him.

He’ll tell you that he blows his friends off all the time for you, so why can’t you do it at least once. You see? This is only another method of manipulation.

6. Está sempre a falar das suas ex-mulheres

It’s great if you’re able to talk to your boyfriend about both of your past relationships but there is no need to go over every single detail.

Well, he seems passionate while he’s telling you about his adventures. You can think, okay, he’s so cute because after all this time, he still remembers some things that happened.

But did you ever stop to think that maybe this is a red flag? Maybe he isn’t over his ex yet. Maybe you’re just a rebound or a plano de reserva até encontrar algo melhor.

7. He’s jealous of other people in your life

You know that jealousy is completely normal and a natural thing. When someone cares about you, he won’t be indifferent if you talk to some random guy you’ve met on the street. He’ll get a bit protective.

Mas se isto acontecer a toda a hora, pode tornar-se muito perigoso. Este pequeno e inocente ciúme pode transformar-se em possessividade e carência.

You can easily find yourself in situations where you won’t be able to go out with your friends without him because of his jealousy.