7 enormi segnali di allarme mascherati da cose "carine" che lui fa

Avere un fidanzato che è sempre lì per te, che è sempre presente nella tua vita, che si interessa a ciò che fai, è praticamente come colpire il jackpot in una relazione, giusto?

Wrong! It’s not always as beautiful and innocent as it sounds. Did you ever stop and think that your boyfriend, instead of being caring and honest, is actually a controlling and manipulative bastard?

He spends a lot of time with you but not because he can’t be without you for that long but because he can’t stand letting you go anywhere by yourself. It’s because he’s jealous and he doesn’t trust you.

Often, women see this but they don’t want to admit it. They keep lying to themselves and I don’t blame them, because they seek that real, true love.

They want to seal the deal and live their life as they’ve dreamed it.

Pay attention to those ‘cute’ things they do for you because sometimes they turn out to be anything but that. Don’t lie to yourself because that D-bag doesn’t deserve your love anyway.

What are the red flags they disguise as ‘cute’?

1. Ti manda continuamente messaggi

Cute? Hell no! In the beginning, you think he’s being super adorable and careful. He shows interest in you and he wants to know what you’re up to.

But this can easily turn out to be a huge red flag. This attention can grow into something really unhealthy. The truth is, he is probably just trying to control you and see what you’re doing and with whom.

Also, the people you’re surrounded with will call you less and less as time goes by because they don’t want to spend their time with someone who can’t take their eyes off their phone. And your boyfriend won’t leave you any other choice than to stare at the screen.

2. Finge di sapere come vi sentite quando avete un problema.

Non è sinceramente preoccupato per te. Te lo dice solo per liberarsi di te.

He’ll pretend he knows how you’re feeling because he doesn’t want you to bother him with your problems.

You don’t want to live with someone faking concern, you want to live with someone who’ll really hear you out and try to help you work on your issues, for real.

3. È sempre in relazione

Usually, people think that only those who are single all the time have some kind of a problem. Actually, it’s the other way around.

Those who are single know what they want and they don’t want to end up in a relationship just to be in one, just to avoid loneliness.

Ma coloro che hanno sempre una relazione sono un potenziale segnale di allarme. Probabilmente queste persone hanno paura di stare da sole e sopportano praticamente tutto pur di avere compagnia.

Di solito queste persone non sono oneste con voi. Fingono di amare le stesse cose che amate voi.

Fanno finta di essere come voi. In pratica, mentono in continuazione solo per tenervi nella loro vita.

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4. He compares you to other women in a ‘good way’

Pensate che sia carino e adorabile. Pensate che lui veda solo voi e nessun altro. Ma c'è un altro lato di questa storia.

Potrebbe trattarsi di psicologia inversa. Potrebbe facilmente dirle questo per farle inconsciamente pressione.

Because if you loosen up and relax, if you gain a few pounds, you’ll always remember the time when he told you that you’re the prettiest one.

He’s not telling you that now. Why? Because he’s obviously bothered by the way you look or because of the fact that you’ve gained a few pounds.

5. Sceglie voi al posto dei suoi amici

Friends are for life. Even when you’re in a relationship, you should never give up on your friends.

Certo, ci sono momenti in cui la vostra relazione è una priorità but if your partner chooses to be with you every time over his friends, it’s a red flag.

Imagine if you want to hang out with your friends for a while. He’s not going to be happy about it and he will guilt you into staying at home with him.

He’ll tell you that he blows his friends off all the time for you, so why can’t you do it at least once. You see? This is only another method of manipulation.

6. Parla sempre delle sue ex

It’s great if you’re able to talk to your boyfriend about both of your past relationships but there is no need to go over every single detail.

Well, he seems passionate while he’s telling you about his adventures. You can think, okay, he’s so cute because after all this time, he still remembers some things that happened.

But did you ever stop to think that maybe this is a red flag? Maybe he isn’t over his ex yet. Maybe you’re just a rebound or a piano di backup finché non troverà qualcosa di meglio.

7. He’s jealous of other people in your life

You know that jealousy is completely normal and a natural thing. When someone cares about you, he won’t be indifferent if you talk to some random guy you’ve met on the street. He’ll get a bit protective.

Ma se questo accade di continuo, può diventare seriamente pericoloso. Questa piccola e innocente gelosia può trasformarsi in possessività e bisogno.

You can easily find yourself in situations where you won’t be able to go out with your friends without him because of his jealousy.