7 razões pelas quais nunca deves perseguir um homem (mesmo que o queiras muito)

The usual conclusion to come to when a guy doesn’t chase you is that ele não está interessado em si.

And believe me, in most cases, this is more than true. I know that you’ve probably had enough of rejection and disappointment and you don’t even want to chase someone because a part of you thinks that you are going to get turned down.

That’s why you just give up and you know what, you’re right! I’m not a feminist and I’m not saying that you have to lie down and do absolutely nothing.

I’m just saying that you should save any dignity you’ve got left and wait for the right man to come to you.

Espera por aquele que é digno de ti. Espera por aquele que realmente gosta de ti por ti, alguém que se preocupa.

Se ele realmente se importa e está interessado, ele vai encontrar uma maneira de obter o seu atenção and one day you’re going to be happy that you did nothing to initiate the chase.

Por isso, continue a ler para saber porque deve nunca perseguir um homem mas deixa-o perseguir-te em vez disso:

1. Ocupa muito do seu tempo

So first of all, if he likes you then he has to be sure he does. He can’t like you one moment and the next be indecisive. So chasing him is out of the question.

Don’t let anyone play hard to get because you deserve someone who can’t wait to be in your presence, someone who will want to spend his free time with you.

2. Fere a sua autoestima

If you chase a man who isn’t interested in you, it can really hurt your self-esteem.

I know that it doesn’t seem like a big deal, but if you really like a guy, getting rejected and hurt is a big deal.

Chasing someone who doesn’t care makes you feel like you are worthless and you don’t deserve his attention. Well, that’s just not true. You deserve better than that.

3. He doesn’t want to be caught

OK, so if you have to chase a man, that usually means that he doesn’t want to get caught because he probably has commitment issues and you don’t want to get in the middle of that. That kind of relationship will only hurt you and nothing less.

He will give you attention at the beginning, but as your relationship becomes more serious, he will get more distant because he doesn’t want to be tied down. And yet again, you don’t need a man who needs to be chased.

4. Ele não é o único

Se tiveres de o perseguir, ele não é a pessoa certa para ti. Deveria ser o contrário.

Love shouldn’t be that complicated. Love should be simple, between two people who met and instantly fell in love.

There shouldn’t be any toying with emotions or playing games with one another, it should just be simple.

Por isso, se te apanhares a perseguir alguém, tens de te perguntar se ele realmente se preocupa o suficiente contigo quando te faz persegui-lo,

5. Esqueces-te dos teus amigos

A perseguição ocupa muito do nosso tempo e começamos a ficar obcecados com esse homem. Isso consome-nos e pode ocupar todo o nosso tempo.

So, it’s not unusual that in that process you forget about your friends—you start to ignore them because all your attention is revolved around why you can’t catch him and what’s going on inside his head.

Well, no one is more important than your friends and family and you should never neglect them, especially not for someone who probably doesn’t care that much about you.

6. Se calhar ele só quer sexo

So, there is a possibility of getting the man you chased but only because he wanted you to chase him—and why? Probably apenas para fazer sexo.

Because, let’s face it, men who don’t want to be chased are not the men who want to commit to others, so it’s only logical that when they decide to be caught, they do it only to get one thing. When it becomes boring, they leave.

7. You’re doomed to a one-sided love

Como já referi, mesmo que o apanhem, não vão ficar satisfeitos.

It will probably be a relationship in which you are going to try to solve all the problems and always be the one to blame when something doesn’t work out.

Tu vais ser a pessoa que ama e ele vai ser a pessoa que está nisso porque não tem nada melhor para fazer.

Do you really want to chase men and risk your heart getting broken? I don’t think you do.