7 razões pelas quais tantos homens sofrem de problemas de compromisso

Se está numa relação e parece que as coisas nunca avançam, deve estar a perguntar-se porque é que isso acontece.

You’re probably thinking it’s all your fault because you’re doing something wrong.

Maybe that’s true but maybe it’s not you at all. I know it’s not fair to blame it on men all the time but in this case, if you’re clean and not guilty for your relationship fallout, then it must be him.

E desta vez é. Ele tem medo de se comprometer para si e não só para si, mas para quase toda a gente.

No entanto, isto pode ser resolvido, mas apenas se souber qual é o verdadeiro problema e porque é que ele tem medo de investir na vossa relação e de lhe dar uma oportunidade de se tornar eterna.

E se quiser descobrir qual é o verdadeiro problema, tem de se oferecer para o ajudar, para que possa tentar resolver o problema.

O problema dele remonta ao seu passado. Ele tem medo de se comprometer porque provavelmente teve problemas no amor, com um membro da família ou com um amigo.

Once you find the cause, you’ll be able to find the solution, too. But only if he wants to cooperate and if he is honest with you.

As razões pelas quais tantos homens têm medo do compromisso podem ser:

Medo de rejeição

Muitos homens têm simplesmente medo de amar alguém porque tiveram uma má experiência amorosa no passado.

They may have loved someone but that person walked out on them or didn’t love them back, which caused them to never trust anyone again.

Foram magoados e agora é preciso tempo para se abrirem e voltarem a confiar em alguém.

Medo de falhar

Some men are scared they are not going to fulfill the other person’s expectations.

They are scared that their relationship is not going to work and since they want everything to be perfect and this relationship potentially won’t be, they will avoid it to avoid failure.

Há sempre uma escolha

Some men are just cowards. Instead of fighting and trying to work out problems, it’s easier for them to just break up and find someone who won’t object to their demands and someone who will do whatever they say.

So they won’t commit because it’s easier to find someone else who will do as they say. In this case, don’t waste your time trying to ‘fix’ him because it’s impossible.

Medo de abandono

Este medo desenvolve-se devido a uma relação passada que um homem teve. Ele apaixonou-se antes de si e talvez tenha pensado que era só isso.

Maybe he thought that he had found the right one and that ‘right one’ dumped him on his birthday, let’s say.

Whatever she has done to him, it has caused him to be scared of abandonment. That’s why he doesn’t apegam-se tão facilmente.

Tem medo de que, se o fizer, a pessoa com quem está o deixe e tenha de passar por todo o processo de cura outra vez.

They don’t want to lose their independence

Some men think that dating will take away their independence. They don’t understand that dating is basically sharing and mutual helping. It’s not about who obeys whom.

They have these independence issues because they don’t want to depend on anyone, especially a woman.

What they don’t understand is that they don’t depend on a woman but they are in a relationship where both of them are equal.

They can’t let go of the past

If a man who is in a relationship has commitment issues, it’s possible that he suffers from it because he is already committed to someone else.

Maybe he fell in love long time ago and that relationship failed and although it failed he can’t let go of the past. He can’t force himself to stop loving whoever broke his heart.

That’s why he can’t commit to you. His heart belongs to someone else who sadly rejected him.

Se tropeçar numa situação como esta, o melhor que tem a fazer é afastar-se, porque é você que vai acabar com o coração partido se ficar.

He doesn’t like you enough to commit

I know it’s hard to hear it but sometimes it’s true. Sometimes, it’s as simple as that—he doesn’t like you enough to commit.

You can’t change that and you can’t talk about this to him because you won’t be able to change his mind.

He likes you, he thinks you’re fun, your relationship is cute but it isn’t going anywhere.

It’s better to admit it to yourself and deal with it in your mind so you can move on, than to suffer and torture yourself by staying in a relationship with a man who will never love you.