7 razones por las que tantos hombres sufren problemas de compromiso

Si estás en una relación y parece que las cosas nunca avanzan, probablemente te preguntes por qué ocurre eso.

You’re probably thinking it’s all your fault because you’re doing something wrong.

Maybe that’s true but maybe it’s not you at all. I know it’s not fair to blame it on men all the time but in this case, if you’re clean and not guilty for your relationship fallout, then it must be him.

Y esta vez sí. Tiene miedo de cometer y no sólo a ti, sino a casi todo el mundo.

Sin embargo, esto se puede arreglar, pero sólo si sabes cuál es el verdadero problema y por qué él tiene miedo de invertir en vuestra relación y darle una oportunidad para que sea duradera.

Y si quieres averiguar cuál es el verdadero problema, tienes que ofrecerte a ayudarle para intentar resolverlo.

Su problema se remonta a su pasado. Tiene miedo a comprometerse porque probablemente tuvo problemas en el amor, con un familiar o con un amigo.

Once you find the cause, you’ll be able to find the solution, too. But only if he wants to cooperate and if he is honest with you.

Las razones por las que tantos hombres tienen miedo al compromiso pueden ser:

Miedo al rechazo

Muchos hombres simplemente tienen miedo de amar a alguien porque han tenido una mala experiencia con el amor en su pasado.

They may have loved someone but that person walked out on them or didn’t love them back, which caused them to never trust anyone again.

Les hirieron y ahora les lleva tiempo abrirse y volver a confiar en alguien.

Miedo al fracaso

Some men are scared they are not going to fulfill the other person’s expectations.

They are scared that their relationship is not going to work and since they want everything to be perfect and this relationship potentially won’t be, they will avoid it to avoid failure.

Siempre hay elección

Some men are just cowards. Instead of fighting and trying to work out problems, it’s easier for them to just break up and find someone who won’t object to their demands and someone who will do whatever they say.

So they won’t commit because it’s easier to find someone else who will do as they say. In this case, don’t waste your time trying to ‘fix’ him because it’s impossible.

Miedo al abandono

Este miedo se desarrolla debido a una relación pasada que un hombre ha tenido. Se enamoró antes que tú y tal vez pensó que eso era todo.

Maybe he thought that he had found the right one and that ‘right one’ dumped him on his birthday, let’s say.

Whatever she has done to him, it has caused him to be scared of abandonment. That’s why he doesn’t se encariñan tan fácilmente.

Tiene miedo de que, si lo hace, la persona con la que está le deje, por lo que tendrá que volver a pasar por el proceso de curación.

They don’t want to lose their independence

Some men think that dating will take away their independence. They don’t understand that dating is basically sharing and mutual helping. It’s not about who obeys whom.

They have these independence issues because they don’t want to depend on anyone, especially a woman.

What they don’t understand is that they don’t depend on a woman but they are in a relationship where both of them are equal.

They can’t let go of the past

If a man who is in a relationship has commitment issues, it’s possible that he suffers from it because he is already committed to someone else.

Maybe he fell in love long time ago and that relationship failed and although it failed he can’t let go of the past. He can’t force himself to stop loving whoever broke his heart.

That’s why he can’t commit to you. His heart belongs to someone else who sadly rejected him.

Si tropiezas con una situación así, lo mejor que puedes hacer es marcharte porque eres tú quien va a acabar con el corazón roto si te quedas.

He doesn’t like you enough to commit

I know it’s hard to hear it but sometimes it’s true. Sometimes, it’s as simple as that—he doesn’t like you enough to commit.

You can’t change that and you can’t talk about this to him because you won’t be able to change his mind.

He likes you, he thinks you’re fun, your relationship is cute but it isn’t going anywhere.

It’s better to admit it to yourself and deal with it in your mind so you can move on, than to suffer and torture yourself by staying in a relationship with a man who will never love you.