9 desculpas que os homens usam para fugir do compromisso

Em algum momento das nossas vidas, cada um de nós conheceu uma pessoa com fobia ao compromisso e, provavelmente, todos nós já ouvimos algumas das suas desculpas.

Alguns de nós disseram que era treta e foram-se embora, enquanto outros já estavam tão envolvidos que esperavam que ele mudasse e ficaram.

Calling bullshit and leaving isn’t always easy, but if you heard your man say any of these, watch out, as your man could be a true commitment-phobe.

Quero concentrar-me na minha carreira

His job and career ambitions are so consuming that he can’t afford to have a distraction such as a relationship, but he’s okay with having you around for some casual rolling in the sheets.

Ele dá mais valor à sua carreira do que a uma relação.

Let’s just enjoy what we have

And what exactly do you have? You give yourself completely, but he takes only what he wants and what’s there not to enjoy?

He gets to vent to someone, he has someone who will be there for him, but he’s not there for you? I call bullshit on this; if he enjoys more than you do, leave.

I don’t deserve you

He could be saying this because he truly knows your worth and he knows he’s not good enough for you.

Or this could be something like the good ol’, “It’s not you, it’s me,” type of excuse. Either way, he really doesn’t deserve you.

I don’t want to ruin our friendship

Every great love story begins with a friendship and there’s nothing better than dating your best friend.

But if he insists on staying friends, he really doesn’t see you as anything more.

I don’t do labels

Labels come with boundaries, and that’s something he wants to avoid at all costs. It’s not labels that he hates, he just doesn’t do girlfriends.

Gosto das coisas tal como elas são

You may both be comfortable with the way you are with your situationship, but if you want something more and he doesn’t, then he has no plans on growing with you or evolving your relationship to something more.

Porquê esperar por ele if there’s someone out there who is ready to go ‘all in’ with you?

Quero fazer as coisas com calma

If he wants to take your relationship slowly, but is eager to take some other things more quickly (you know what I mean), he’s only after one thing. Is he really worth it?

O meu ex magoou-me muito

In some cases, an emotionally damaged man could be using this excuse because he doesn’t want to heal, or he’s not ready to move on; he simply needs time that you don’t have to give him.

Mas noutros casos, ele pode estar a usar esta desculpa apenas para se atirar às suas calças e fugir das partes emocionais da relação.

It’s the wrong timing

There’s no wrong time, there are only wrong people. Men who can recognize that you are worth it will make the time.

He just doesn’t know how to make room for you in his ‘busy’ life, so don’t bother making room for him in yours.