Se ele faz estas 5 coisas, ele é um manipulador emocional disfarçado

You’ve heard this story millions of times before. A girl meets a boy, the boy is perfect, the girl falls helplessly in love, the boy reveals his true face, and the girl is heartbroken.

I bet not only you’ve heard this before, but you’ve been through this shit and you got hurt. You got hurt badly.

You probably don’t want to have anything to do with men anymore. You’re disappointed and you’re angry with yourself. You’re frustrated because you let yourself fall for his tricks.

You let him deceive you and lie to you. You’re furious because you didn’t see it in time. You baixar a guarda e entrou sorrateiramente no teu coração.

I know it’s hard to move on after someone takes your heart and tears it into thousands of shreds. The pain is enormous.

You want to smile—you have to smile because you don’t want anyone to see how much you’re hurting.

Mas cada sorriso teu magoa-te ainda mais. Cada sorriso forçado no teu rosto perfura o teu coração.

Mas tens de saber que ninguém tem esse tipo de poder sobre ti. Ninguém tem o direito de o controlar e manipular.

He did, for a moment, but you’ve seen it and you got out.

This time, it was too late to save yourself from all the pain, but hopefully, by reading these signs, you won’t make the same mistake next time.

Ele vai fazer-te sentir culpado

He will make you feel like shit in anything that you do. You’ll have the constant feeling that your every move is completely wrong.

A culpa é a sua maior arma contra si para conseguir o que quer.

Se quiseres fazer algo por ti, ele deixa-te fazer, mas com olhos tristes de cachorrinho.

Ele vai fazer-se de vítima, so you feel sorry for him and once more choose to ignore your feelings to force you to be with him and take care his feelings don’t get hurt.

He would be perfectly fine if you didn’t stay with him, but his ego would be hurt because things didn’t play his way.

He will respect you – in the beginning

That’s why his act is so brilliant. He will be perfect from the beginning.

He will give you the world. He will respect you and move mountains for you. He will be the man you’ve always dreamed of being with.

Ele vai prestar atenção a tudo o que disseres, mas não porque se preocupe, mas porque é um idiota que te quer manipular para fazeres tudo o que ele quer, para te comportares como ele quer.

You’ll think he is listening to you because yes, he is that perfect of an actor, when actually, he is just a manipulator in disguise, lying and deceiving to get what he wants.

He will promise you the world and do…

Nada! Apenas palavras vazias e falsas promessas patéticas saem da sua boca.

No início, ele promete-te tudo e sabes o que recebes? Não recebes nada e, para começar, ele nunca quis dar-te nada.

He will always say one thing to get your hopes up and then he’ll walk all over his words and do whatever he was planning to do anyway.

Your feelings don’t matter—they never mattered.

His ‘help-mask’ is on

He’ll be gentle, sweet. He’ll be the stranger on the street that helps you get your things together after someone knocked you over in a hurry.

He will be your ‘Hollywood moment’ of love at first sight.

Only your story won’t have a happy ending. Your story will be heartbreaking and painful. And he?

Ele seguirá em frente, encontrará outra vítima para se armar em bom samaritano.

Ele é a vítima

O seu favorito tática para vos manipular, a sua arma mais forte. Estas pessoas são muito inteligentes e astutas.

Sabem exatamente o que dizer e quando. Sabem transformar todas as situações em seu proveito, porque sabem mentir no preciso momento em que precisam de o fazer.

He will play the victim every time he wants something and he sees he can’t have it.

Presta atenção se vires isto: sempre que estás a ganhar uma discussão em que ele está em pior posição porque está errado, de repente, dás por ti a sentir pena dele e sentes-te uma merda.

It’s because he played you and made himself a victim.

At the end of every situation similar to this one, you will feel bad because you’ve hurt him and you’ll forget why you were mad in the first place—what he’s wanted all along.

A manipulação emocional é horrível porque as feridas curam, as nódoas negras desaparecem, mas as palavras duras e os truques psicológicos deixam a nossa mente temperada e, uma vez temperada a nossa mente, toda a nossa configuração foi alterada, a nossa personalidade não é a mesma.

Essa dor fica para sempre e deixa-nos cautelosos e assustados para o resto da nossa vida.

You can heal, but you’ll never forget. You can tell yourself that you are okay, but you are not.

Não até decidires perdoar-te a ti própria e a ele. Só quando decidires seguir em frente.