Si hace estas 5 cosas, es un manipulador emocional disfrazado
You’ve heard this story millions of times before. A girl meets a boy, the boy is perfect, the girl falls helplessly in love, the boy reveals his true face, and the girl is heartbroken.
I bet not only you’ve heard this before, but you’ve been through this shit and you got hurt. You got hurt badly.
You probably don’t want to have anything to do with men anymore. You’re disappointed and you’re angry with yourself. You’re frustrated because you let yourself fall for his tricks.
You let him deceive you and lie to you. You’re furious because you didn’t see it in time. You baje la guardia y se coló en tu corazón.
I know it’s hard to move on after someone takes your heart and tears it into thousands of shreds. The pain is enormous.
You want to smile—you have to smile because you don’t want anyone to see how much you’re hurting.
Pero cada sonrisa tuya te duele aún más. Cada sonrisa forzada en tu cara atraviesa tu corazón.
Pero tienes que saber que nadie tiene ese poder sobre ti. Nadie tiene derecho a controlarte y manipularte.
He did, for a moment, but you’ve seen it and you got out.
This time, it was too late to save yourself from all the pain, but hopefully, by reading these signs, you won’t make the same mistake next time.
Te hará sentir culpable
He will make you feel like shit in anything that you do. You’ll have the constant feeling that your every move is completely wrong.
La culpa es su mayor arma contra ti para conseguir lo que quiere.
Si quieres hacer algo por ti mismo, te dejará, pero con ojos de cachorro triste.
Se hará la víctima, so you feel sorry for him and once more choose to ignore your feelings to force you to be with him and take care his feelings don’t get hurt.
He would be perfectly fine if you didn’t stay with him, but his ego would be hurt because things didn’t play his way.
He will respect you – in the beginning
That’s why his act is so brilliant. He will be perfect from the beginning.
He will give you the world. He will respect you and move mountains for you. He will be the man you’ve always dreamed of being with.
Prestará atención a todo lo que digas, pero no porque le importe, sino porque es un gilipollas que quiere manipularte para que hagas todo lo que él quiere, para que te comportes como él quiere.
You’ll think he is listening to you because yes, he is that perfect of an actor, when actually, he is just a manipulator in disguise, lying and deceiving to get what he wants.
He will promise you the world and do…
Nada. De su boca sólo salen palabras vacías y patéticas falsas promesas.
Al principio, te promete todo y ¿sabes lo que obtienes? No consigues nada y, para empezar, nunca quiso darte nada.
He will always say one thing to get your hopes up and then he’ll walk all over his words and do whatever he was planning to do anyway.
Your feelings don’t matter—they never mattered.
His ‘help-mask’ is on
He’ll be gentle, sweet. He’ll be the stranger on the street that helps you get your things together after someone knocked you over in a hurry.
He will be your ‘Hollywood moment’ of love at first sight.
Only your story won’t have a happy ending. Your story will be heartbreaking and painful. And he?
Seguirá adelante, encontrará otra víctima con la que jugar al bienhechor.
Él es la víctima
Su favorito táctica para manipularte, su arma más fuerte. Estas personas son muy inteligentes y astutas.
Saben exactamente qué decir y cuándo. Saben sacar provecho de cada situación porque saben mentir justo en el momento en que lo necesitan.
He will play the victim every time he wants something and he sees he can’t have it.
Presta atención si ves esto: cada vez que estás ganando una discusión en la que él tiene la peor posición porque está equivocado, de repente, te encuentras sintiendo pena por él y te sientes como una mierda.
It’s because he played you and made himself a victim.
At the end of every situation similar to this one, you will feel bad because you’ve hurt him and you’ll forget why you were mad in the first place—what he’s wanted all along.
La manipulación emocional es horrible porque las heridas se curan, los moratones se desvanecen, pero las palabras duras y los trucos psicológicos dejan tu mente templada y una vez que tu mente está templada, toda tu configuración ha cambiado, tu personalidad no es la misma.
Ese dolor se queda para siempre y te deja cauteloso y asustado para el resto de tu vida.
You can heal, but you’ll never forget. You can tell yourself that you are okay, but you are not.
No hasta que decidas perdonarte a ti misma y perdonarle a él. No hasta que decidas seguir adelante.
