Uma carta para a mulher que escolhe entre o amor e a sua independência

Strong, independent, fierce and confident – you are all these things! But somewhere throughout these years, you have learned that you should apenas seja isso.

Aprendeste que o amor só existe para te enfraquecer, para vos tornar vulneráveis e inseguros, quando na verdade, o amor é algo de belo, e tu, tal como todos nós, precisas de o deixar entrar na tua vida.

You don’t have to choose! There is no need for you to sit down, write all the pros and cons of both sides and see if it’s fine for you to let a guy pay for your dinner for once.

But you are not the only one feeling this way! Women have learned that it’s either one or the other, never both at the same time. If you want to be strong yourself, men aren’t allowed into your life – right?

It’s this constant battle inside you because you believe that from the moment you fall in love and start to depend on someone, the fact that you were capable of taking care of yourself just disappears.

E se encontrar um homem forte e independente para estar ao seu lado? Um homem forte saberá que precisa do seu tempo sozinho e do seu espaço para se tornar uma melhor versão de si mesmo.

You know that you don’t need him and that you would never go out with him if you weren’t truly interested. But if you fall in love, if you are fighting it and trying not to think about love as the most beautiful feeling we all experience, than it’s you against yourself.

You aren’t fighting a weird power that is trying to convince you to fall in love and become dependent. This time, the force you’re fighting is yourself, and you are walking away from the most natural thing out there. You want to rid yourself of love, even though it’s overwhelming your body.

Why not have both? That’s my question for you. Why not have the pleasure of being yourself, having your own beautiful mind and body and not letting anyone tell you what to think or what to feel? Why not have yourself and ama-te a ti próprio?

Also, why not have him? Do you really think that the only way to love a man is if you give up the love you have for yourself? Is it that hard to believe that as a woman who doesn’t require attention to live, you can’t fall in love and give yourself to someone unconditionally?

You have been trying to choose for so long, but you never could because it always felt wrong. Both of those sides made you think ‘what if’?

You can make your own choices, do your own taxes, live your own life. You won’t be throwing this away if you fall in love.

Está a lutar tanto para tomar uma decisão entre duas coisas que lhe são tão naturais.

Não é a única com esta mentalidade, tentando proteger a sua força e independência atrás de uma fachada inacessível. Mas continua a ser o mesmo tipo de mulher que acredita no amor e acha que estar com alguém seria lindo.

Be honest about all those times you cried alone in your apartment, wishing and hoping someone would come around and be there for you, show you that you are special and needed. All those times you wanted him to be there, but you couldn’t bring yourself to ask.

Serei o primeiro a dizer que se pode ser independente e ainda assim encontrar momentos em que se depende de outra pessoa, especialmente do parceiro.

Podes ser independente e forte, cuidar de ti própria e todas essas coisas fantásticas e ainda assim andar ao lado de um homem que cuida de si próprio e que só te torna mais forte por causa disso.

Podes ser todas estas coisas fantásticas e ainda assim apaixonares-te. Podes voltar a apaixonar-te e nunca ter medo de ter de abdicar de tudo o que és por isso.

És tu próprio. És uma pessoa forte e independente woman who doesn’t need a man.

But love never asks you about that. Love just happens, and it shows you that life beside a man isn’t that bad after all.

That’s why you don’t have to choose. You can be strong by yourself and even stronger by the side of a man who adores you for everything you are.