Una lettera alla donna che sceglie tra l'amore e la sua indipendenza

Strong, independent, fierce and confident – you are all these things! But somewhere throughout these years, you have learned that you should solo sia quello.

Avete imparato che l'amore serve solo a indebolirvi, per rendervi vulnerabili e insicuro, mentre in realtà l'amore è qualcosa di bello e voi, proprio come tutti noi, avete bisogno di lasciarlo entrare nella vostra vita.

You don’t have to choose! There is no need for you to sit down, write all the pros and cons of both sides and see if it’s fine for you to let a guy pay for your dinner for once.

But you are not the only one feeling this way! Women have learned that it’s either one or the other, never both at the same time. If you want to be strong yourself, men aren’t allowed into your life – right?

It’s this constant battle inside you because you believe that from the moment you fall in love and start to depend on someone, the fact that you were capable of taking care of yourself just disappears.

E se si trova un uomo forte e indipendente di stare al vostro fianco? Un uomo forte sa che avete bisogno del vostro tempo libero e dei vostri spazi per diventare una versione migliore di voi stesse.

You know that you don’t need him and that you would never go out with him if you weren’t truly interested. But if you fall in love, if you are fighting it and trying not to think about love as the most beautiful feeling we all experience, than it’s you against yourself.

You aren’t fighting a weird power that is trying to convince you to fall in love and become dependent. This time, the force you’re fighting is yourself, and you are walking away from the most natural thing out there. You want to rid yourself of love, even though it’s overwhelming your body.

Why not have both? That’s my question for you. Why not have the pleasure of being yourself, having your own beautiful mind and body and not letting anyone tell you what to think or what to feel? Why not have yourself and amare se stessi?

Also, why not have him? Do you really think that the only way to love a man is if you give up the love you have for yourself? Is it that hard to believe that as a woman who doesn’t require attention to live, you can’t fall in love and give yourself to someone unconditionally?

You have been trying to choose for so long, but you never could because it always felt wrong. Both of those sides made you think ‘what if’?

You can make your own choices, do your own taxes, live your own life. You won’t be throwing this away if you fall in love.

State lottando duramente per prendere una decisione tra due cose che vi vengono così naturali.

Non siete sole in questa mentalità, che cerca di proteggere la vostra forza e indipendenza dietro una facciata inavvicinabile. Ma sei sempre lo stesso tipo di donna che crede nell'amore e trova che stare con qualcuno sia bellissimo.

Be honest about all those times you cried alone in your apartment, wishing and hoping someone would come around and be there for you, show you that you are special and needed. All those times you wanted him to be there, but you couldn’t bring yourself to ask.

Sarò la prima a dire che si può essere indipendenti e trovare comunque momenti in cui dipendere da qualcun altro, soprattutto dal proprio partner.

Potete essere indipendenti e forti, prendervi cura di voi stesse e tutte le altre cose straordinarie, e comunque camminare accanto a un uomo che si prende cura di se stesso e che vi rende più forti solo per questo.

Potete essere tutte queste cose straordinarie e innamorarvi lo stesso. Potete innamorarvi di nuovo e non avere mai paura di dover rinunciare a tutto ciò che siete per questo.

Siete voi stessi. Siete una persona forte e indipendente woman who doesn’t need a man.

But love never asks you about that. Love just happens, and it shows you that life beside a man isn’t that bad after all.

That’s why you don’t have to choose. You can be strong by yourself and even stronger by the side of a man who adores you for everything you are.