5 maneiras aterrorizantes de os narcisistas trazerem o caos para a sua vida

O que é que todos os narcisistas têm em comum?

Sem dúvida, trazendo o caos absoluto para a sua vida e perturbando o seu mundo tal como o conhece.

Antes do seu narcisista aparecer, provavelmente tinha uma vida bastante tranquila.

Tinha os seus pequenos rituais aos quais era fiel, o seu círculo de amigos com quem passava muito tempo e o seu trabalho era muito gratificante.

Sure, you had your everyday problems like the rest of us do but nothing out of the ordinary or that couldn’t be fixed.

Mas quando ele entrou na tua vida, tudo mudou.

Acontece sempre de forma gradual.

Aconteceu uma coisinha atrás da outra e, sem darmos por isso, ele assumiu o controlo total sobre sua menteO corpo e a alma e o vosso mundo, tal como o conheciam, deixaram de existir.

Todas as coisas boas que tinhas para ti foram de repente arruinadas.

Os seus planos e hábitos mudaram drasticamente porque ELE tinha outros planos para si.

A pessoa com quem passava a maior parte do seu tempo já não depende de si.

Ele também controlava isso.

You still saw your friends… but not in the capacity you were used to.

Your family noticed that something was off but they didn’t know the extent of it.

Ninguém o fez.

It wasn’t something you were ever comfortable talking about but your narcissist brought so much chaos into your life that you felt ashamed and somewhat guilty for letting him.

But it wasn’t your fault.

That’s what they do.

They can’t keep you interested in any other way, so they resort to these 5 ways that completely disrupt your world in order to keep you attached for as long as they can.

1. Deliberately provoking you until you’ve lost your mind

Os narcisistas e os sociopatas são mestres nisto.

Eles sabem exatamente quais os botões a premir e o que o faz vibrar.

Eles conhecem o caminho para a sua mente e vão usá-lo para sua vantagem!

They’ll make up a scenario to see how you’ll react.

They’ll blame you for something you had absolutely nothing to do with, just to see how far they can push you.

Once they see that what they’re doing is working, they won’t stop.

They’ll keep digging, finding new areas to hurt you and provoking you to an extent you never knew existed.

You’ll slowly be losing your damn mind, with a little help of your narcissist’s favorite tactic of keeping you by his side.

He’ll provoke you until he’s finished with you and then, he knows you’ll feel too insane to turn to anyone else.

And that’s how he keeps his victims in check.

2. Sabotar todos os seus planos e ocasiões de celebração

You didn’t think he was going to let you stay happy, did you?

Because he sure as hell won’t.

Around the holidays and on all your celebratory occasions, he’ll make sure to stir up some trouble just to keep you from being happy.

Qualquer acontecimento que lhe retire a atenção é proibido.

They can’t have you remain in the spotlight and actually enjoy yourself.

This is why he’ll always make sure to keep you distracted in the worst ways possible during the moments when you should be happy.

Haven’t you noticed how your plans always somehow turn to shit when he’s around?

Preste atenção a isto.

You’ll see how he never lets you enjoy your happy moments.

3. Pôr-te contra outra mulher para obter a atenção dele

Fazer-te ciúmes como forma de perceberes o quanto queres realmente estar com ele (devido às suas manipulações cuidadosas), é isto que um narcisista faz quando se apercebe de que estamos a recuar.

He’ll offer a comment about another woman and how attractive he finds her for the sole purpose of you having an issue with that.

He’ll be very sly and you won’t even know that he’s only doing this to pit you against her.

It’ll be someone you know or see regularly, so that you’re always reminded of it when you see her.

And that way, he’ll have you fighting for his attention without having to do so much as lift a finger.

Esperto, não é?

4. Escolher argumentos noturnos que o privam de sono

Ele quer que te sintas esgotado e exausto.

Ele quer que a tua mente esteja no seu ponto mais fraco para poder ganhar facilmente a discussão.

And he’ll make sure to pick the latest hour so that you’ll be too tired to fight with him.

He knows what he’s doing.

It’s a clever tactic and a way to keep you sleep deprived, aka too exhausted to fight him about anything he says, as you just won’t care.

All you’ll want to do is sleep and he’ll know he has won because you’ll never be able to fight fair.

He’ll get his way, you’ll be too tired to care and the cycle will go on for as long as you don’t realize what he’s doing to you.

5. Invalidar os seus argumentos e evitar a responsabilização

You’ll never win this war with him.

He knows just how to invalidate every single argument before you’ve even had a chance to speak your mind.

Ele pensa alguns passos à sua frente, por isso, independentemente do que possa dizer, ele já pensou nisso e encontrou uma forma de o impedir.

It’s really disturbing how evil he can get and how badly he’ll magoar-vos só para te manter por perto.

He’ll never be to blame for anything.

You’ll always be wrong about everything and the weird thing is, he’ll have planned it all out so carefully that you’ll actually start believing him.

Ele prevê todos os teus movimentos para os contrariar.

A única forma de ganhar esta guerra é ir-se embora, porque os narcisistas manipuladores são as pessoas mais tóxicas com quem se pode lutar.

Fazem os seus trabalhos de casa e NUNCA deixam nada ao acaso.