5 formas aterradoras en que los narcisistas traen el caos a tu vida

¿Qué es lo que todos los narcisistas tienen en común?

Sin duda, trayendo el caos total a tu vida y trastocando tu mundo tal y como lo conoces.

Antes de que apareciera tu narcisista, probablemente tenías una vida bastante relajada.

Tenías tus pequeños rituales a los que eras fiel, tu círculo de amigos con los que pasabas mucho tiempo y tu trabajo era muy satisfactorio.

Sure, you had your everyday problems like the rest of us do but nothing out of the ordinary or that couldn’t be fixed.

Pero una vez que entró en tu vida, todo cambió.

Siempre ocurre gradualmente.

Una pequeña cosa sucedió tras otra y antes de que te dieras cuenta, tomó el control total sobre tu mentecuerpo y alma y tu mundo tal y como lo conocías dejó de existir.

Todo lo bueno que tenías a tu favor se arruinó de repente.

Tus planes y hábitos cambiaron drásticamente porque ÉL tenía otros planes para ti.

Con quién pasabas la mayor parte del tiempo ya no dependía de ti.

También controlaba eso.

You still saw your friends… but not in the capacity you were used to.

Your family noticed that something was off but they didn’t know the extent of it.

Nadie lo hizo.

It wasn’t something you were ever comfortable talking about but your narcissist brought so much chaos into your life that you felt ashamed and somewhat guilty for letting him.

But it wasn’t your fault.

That’s what they do.

They can’t keep you interested in any other way, so they resort to these 5 ways that completely disrupt your world in order to keep you attached for as long as they can.

1. Deliberately provoking you until you’ve lost your mind

Los narcisistas y los sociópatas son maestros en esto.

Saben exactamente qué botones apretar y qué te hace vibrar.

Conocen el camino a tu mente y ¡vaya si lo utilizarán en su beneficio!

They’ll make up a scenario to see how you’ll react.

They’ll blame you for something you had absolutely nothing to do with, just to see how far they can push you.

Once they see that what they’re doing is working, they won’t stop.

They’ll keep digging, finding new areas to hurt you and provoking you to an extent you never knew existed.

You’ll slowly be losing your damn mind, with a little help of your narcissist’s favorite tactic of keeping you by his side.

He’ll provoke you until he’s finished with you and then, he knows you’ll feel too insane to turn to anyone else.

And that’s how he keeps his victims in check.

2. Sabotear todos tus planes y ocasiones de celebración

You didn’t think he was going to let you stay happy, did you?

Because he sure as hell won’t.

Around the holidays and on all your celebratory occasions, he’ll make sure to stir up some trouble just to keep you from being happy.

Cualquier evento que desvíe la atención de él es inaceptable.

They can’t have you remain in the spotlight and actually enjoy yourself.

This is why he’ll always make sure to keep you distracted in the worst ways possible during the moments when you should be happy.

Haven’t you noticed how your plans always somehow turn to shit when he’s around?

Presta atención a esto.

You’ll see how he never lets you enjoy your happy moments.

3. Enfrentarte a otra mujer por su atención

Darte celos como forma de darte cuenta de lo mucho que deseas de verdad estar con él (debido a sus cuidadosas manipulaciones), esto es lo que hace un narcisista una vez que nota que te alejas.

He’ll offer a comment about another woman and how attractive he finds her for the sole purpose of you having an issue with that.

He’ll be very sly and you won’t even know that he’s only doing this to pit you against her.

It’ll be someone you know or see regularly, so that you’re always reminded of it when you see her.

And that way, he’ll have you fighting for his attention without having to do so much as lift a finger.

Escurridizo, ¿eh?

4. Elegir argumentos nocturnos para no dormir

Quiere que te sientas agotado y exhausto.

Quiere que tu mente esté en su punto más débil para poder ganar fácilmente la discusión.

And he’ll make sure to pick the latest hour so that you’ll be too tired to fight with him.

He knows what he’s doing.

It’s a clever tactic and a way to keep you sleep deprived, aka too exhausted to fight him about anything he says, as you just won’t care.

All you’ll want to do is sleep and he’ll know he has won because you’ll never be able to fight fair.

He’ll get his way, you’ll be too tired to care and the cycle will go on for as long as you don’t realize what he’s doing to you.

5. Invalidar sus argumentos y evitar rendir cuentas

You’ll never win this war with him.

He knows just how to invalidate every single argument before you’ve even had a chance to speak your mind.

Piensa unos pasos por delante de ti, así que digas lo que digas, ya lo ha pensado y ha encontrado la manera de bloquearte.

It’s really disturbing how evil he can get and how badly he’ll herirte sólo para mantenerte cerca.

He’ll never be to blame for anything.

You’ll always be wrong about everything and the weird thing is, he’ll have planned it all out so carefully that you’ll actually start believing him.

Predice todos tus movimientos para contrarrestarlos.

La única forma de ganar esta guerra es marchándose, porque los narcisistas manipuladores son las personas más tóxicas con las que se puede entablar una pelea.

Hacen sus deberes y NUNCA dejan nada al azar.