A compatibilidade da sua relação é tão impressionante como pensa?
Embora haja muitas coisas que afectam a força da sua relação, a compatibilidade da relação é o fator mais importante para tentar calcular as suas hipóteses de sucesso.
Este artigo dar-lhe-á algumas informações úteis sobre como saber se você e o seu parceiro têm o que é preciso para se considerarem compatíveis.
Check out these 12 signs you do, and 10 that say you absolutely don’t.
12 sinais de que a compatibilidade de relacionamento entre você e seu parceiro é forte
1. You’re both certain you love each other
You never wonder if the other person loves you or not. They are also completely certain you love them. Between compatible partners, love is something that’s not questioned.
This applies to long-term relationships though. If you’re at the very beginning of a new relationship, this doesn’t have to be true for you.
I’d say that, if it’s your first date or you’re not very far into the relationship, look for attraction, chemistry, and understanding – those will be your cues that you’re on the right path to forming a strong, healthy relationship. If you don’t succeed in it, then don’t shy away from deciding to sair de uma relação.
2. Partilham os mesmos valores fundamentais
Embora os parceiros compatíveis possam parecer pessoas totalmente diferentes, partilham os mesmos valores fundamentais, como a honestidade, a lealdade, o empenho, a abertura de espírito, a compaixão ou a positividade.
Not all of your values have to be the same – one partner may lean towards optimism and one can be a pessimist, or something similar – but in order to have a successful relationship, it’s necessary to share a lot of the same values.
Se você e o seu parceiro acreditam na honestidade, na moralidade e na bondade (por exemplo), torna-se mais fácil decidir sobre as coisas grandes e pequenas que vos envolvem a ambos e à vossa relação.
3. You don’t mind arguing to solve your problems
É aberto em relação às suas atitudes e opiniões e apresenta-as de forma calma e saudável ao seu parceiro, que, por sua vez, tem tempo para as considerar.
They, of course, do the same. You’re not afraid of fighting and what’s most important it gets you somewhere.
When you make up after a fight, you both learn new things about the other’s stance on the contentious topic, and are willing to solve them.
You don’t feel attacked by your partner. You know they have your best interest at heart at all times, even when you disagree on something.
4. Pode imaginem o vosso futuro juntos
The image of your future you have in your mind involves your significant other. When you think about where you’ll be in 5, 10, 30 years, you can always see them there with you.
This shows your romantic relationship has reached a level where you two are completely integrated into each other’s lives and into each other’s dreams.
Queremos viver a nossa vida com eles, e eles vivem-na connosco. Mesmo quando lutamos ou temos dificuldades, continuamos a vê-los ao nosso lado, aconteça o que acontecer. Para o bem e para o mal, ele é a sua pessoa.
5. Tem interesses comuns
You don’t have to do everything together, but having interests that overlap at least gives you an opportunity to have fun together, which is really important.
It’s vital to have your own hobbies and interests too, but sharing something, such as cooking together or watching the same TV show, can mean a lot.
Em primeiro lugar, prova que as vossas formas de pensar e o vosso estilo de vida se sobrepõem em alguns aspectos. Em segundo lugar, dá-vos uma enorme oportunidade de criar laços ainda maiores.
6. Pode ser você mesmo perto do seu parceiro
Your partner is a part of your comfort zone. You’re able to be who you are around them. You’re not afraid they won’t like you if you’re being yourself.
O mesmo acontece com eles. Quando estão consigo, vê-se que partilham mais de si próprios e da sua personalidade do que quando estão com outras pessoas.
They might have seemed like an introvert when you just met them, but when the two of you are alone, they are like an open-book extrovert – communicating, sharing, totally open for everything.
Ser capaz de ser você mesmo sem medo e aceitar a outra pessoa como ela é prova a sua compatibilidade amorosa como nada mais faz.
7. Eles gostam das coisas estranhas em ti e tu gostas das deles
When you’re being yourself, sure enough, some quirks come out in the open. Your partner doesn’t even mind them.
It’s like they love you more for them. This is something that not only shows your relationship compatibility but probably even means you’re absolute soulmates.
Liking things in your partner that other people consider flaws is adorable. It proves you both have what it takes to deal with the other person’s weaknesses and not only adore them for their strengths.
8. Partilhar boas e más notícias com eles
Quando algo de extraordinário acontece a qualquer um de vós, corremos imediatamente para o outro para partilhar as novidades.
Quando algo derruba um de vós, o vosso parceiro é o vosso ombro número um para chorar.
This proves you’re so deeply connected and happy to have each other in your lives that you always want to keep them in the loop, but also rely on them to be your partner in crime when something thrilling and fun happens, and your rock when things aren’t great.
Numa relação forte e compatível, os parceiros gostam de partilhar as suas experiências da vida quotidiana um com o outro.
9. Sentem-se atraídos um pelo outro
There’s a physical attraction between you and your partner. Physical compatibility is an important part of romantic relationships.
Usually, you feel this kind of attraction and chemistry before you feel anything else for your new partner. It’s not the most important one, but bedroom compatibility is a big part of every relationship.
10. Ambos fazem um esforço para se fazerem felizes um ao outro
Em todas as relações românticas, há alturas em que uma pessoa se sente desvalorizada ou como se estivesse a esforçar-se mais na relação do que a outra.
In a compatible relationship, this happens rarely, and if it does, it’s quickly resolved by conversation.
Ambos os parceiros fazem esforços conscientes para que o outro se sinta melhor consigo próprio, com a relação e com a vida em geral.
This means that if you’re truly compatible with your partner, you will always try to consider their needs and treat them with the respect they deserve, and they will do the same for you.
11. You’re able to enjoy spending time apart
You both value your free time. You don’t have to be together all the time to feel loved and like everything is going perfectly.
It’s okay for you to take a trip with your friends or do whatever else it is that causes you to be separated from your partner for an extended period of time.
Não só não se importam de estar separados, como também gostam de passar algum tempo sozinhos de vez em quando.
Being able to be apart and still feel that your relationship is strong is a huge factor that proves you’re compatible partners who have a healthy, successful relationship.
12. Têm opiniões semelhantes sobre coisas importantes da vida
When it comes to the most important things in life – health, religion, politics, having children, money – you two share many opinions.
Even though it’s possible to maintain a relationship with someone who has different views about politics or having kids, it’s super hard to make it work.
Não só é difícil fazer com que a relação funcione, como também prova que dificilmente se pode chamar compatível com o seu parceiro.
Discordar sobre assuntos menos importantes é completamente normal em relações bem sucedidas, mas as pessoas compatíveis partilham opiniões sobre as coisas mais importantes.
10 sinais de alerta que Show You’re Incompatible With Your Partner
1. Querem coisas completamente diferentes na vida
Your goals are completely different. You can hardly imagine your partner in your future because your plans for the future don’t overlap.
Ele quer fazer algo com a vida dele, ou você quer fazer algo com a sua, que de modo algum podem ser combinados para criar um plano para o futuro que vos faça felizes a ambos.
Infelizmente, isto mostra que não são compatíveis.
Claro que um de vós pode sacrificar os seus sonhos para fazer o outro feliz, ou podem ambos tentar chegar a um compromisso, mas nenhum de vós ficará perfeitamente satisfeito.
Pode ser que não têm qualquer futuro juntos.
2. Your friends and family think you’re not right for each other
I’m not saying that your family or your friends get to decide who you date, but when more than one person that’s close to you seems to notice that you and your partner aren’t right for each other, they’re usually onto something there.
Sometimes we’re too subjective to see the things that a person looking from the outside can easily notice.
You probably feel the chemistry between you and your partner and it’s clouding your judgment.
Preste atenção ao que as pessoas que lhe são próximas dizem sobre a compatibilidade da sua relação, porque normalmente faz muito sentido, visto que a sua família e amigos são pessoas normais que normalmente têm em mente o seu melhor interesse.
3. Está sempre a lutar
A vossa relação está cheia de discussões e brigas, tanto por coisas insignificantes como por coisas importantes. Parece que tudo o que fazem é discutir e que isso se tornou uma experiência quotidiana normal.
People around you have started giving you relationship advice because everyone has noticed that something is up – everyone except you, that is.
As discussões são uma parte saudável de qualquer relação, mas se o fizerem constantemente, tornam-se um padrão stressante e pouco saudável que deixa muito pouco espaço para que você e o seu parceiro criem laços e comuniquem de uma forma calma.
If you can’t spend a day with your partner or even a couple of hours without having such a strong disagreement that it causes you to fight, this means that you two are indeed not compatible.
4. You don’t fight, ever
On the other hand, never fighting also means that there’s something weird about you two. Compatible partners fight in a healthy way because they have issues that they want to resolve.
They care deeply about clearing the air between them and also about their partner’s opinions and viewpoints.
If you avoid confrontation or have achieved that sad level of indifference in your relationship, you and your significant other probably weren’t compatible to begin with.
When there’s a good level of love compatibility between two people, they are not indifferent towards each other and they’ll definitely have a fight now and then.
5. Os vossos valores são completamente diferentes
Yes, having differences is okay, but if you and your partner have different opinions about fundamental, core values, this means you aren’t compatible with each other.
If your partner cares a lot about honesty and you don’t, it’s very hard for you two to relate on other levels as well.
If you are super excited to have kids and they already know they never want to have children, this not only means you two are incompatible, but also that you’ll have an incredibly hard time making your relationship work.
Some basic level of compatibility is necessary for every relationship to function, and having different core values means you’re as incompatible as it gets.
Decidir o que fazer em situações importantes da vida é um bom teste de compatibilidade para qualquer casal.
While the two of you are allowed to have your ways of living, if they don’t match up, you won’t be able to get through things life will put you through as a couple.
6. Tens medo de ser quem és com eles
You’ve noticed that you hide your true personality in front of your partner. It seems like you don’t want them to know everything about you, especially those things you consider to be your flaws.
Teme que eles possam gostar menos de si ou até deixá-lo se virem o seu verdadeiro eu.
Não é assim que as pessoas compatíveis funcionam nas suas relações.
If you aren’t certain that your partner would accept you for whoever you are, then there’s a lot of deeper issues that need to be resolved before you start thinking that he’s the one.
7. There are many things about your partner you’d like to change
Gosta do seu parceiro, mais ou menos. Pode dizer-se que gosta mais da imagem que tem dele do que dele próprio.
Há algumas coisas fantásticas no seu parceiro que o fizeram apaixonar-se por ele, mas há muitas outras coisas gostaria de mudar em relação a eles.
You keep thinking that your relationship would be so much better if those things changed but…
Having a lot of things you hate about your partner sadly is your cue to realize that your relationship compatibility level isn’t really high.
8. Nunca se chega a acordo sobre o que fazer em conjunto
Parece que sempre que querem sair juntos, discordam sobre o que fazer. O seu parceiro quer ver um filme e você quer sair e divertir-se.
Your partner’s thinking about inviting friends over for dinner and you really don’t want any company.
Sure, these things happen even in the most compatible relationships, but they are a rare occurrence – not an everyday thing.
If it seems like you and your partner can never agree to do something that satisfies you both, this can be a red flag that says you’re incompatible with each other.
9. You don’t get each other’s jokes
O humor é importante. Ter um sentido de humor semelhante significa ter uma forma semelhante de pensar e compreender o mundo.
If you and your partner not only don’t have the same sense of humor but don’t even understand each other’s jokes, this basically means you don’t understand where they’re coming from.
If you do get their jokes just don’t find them funny, this is slightly less of a red flag – at least there’s at least a little bit of understanding going on between the two of you.
10. You don’t care about sharing important news with them
When something super important happens to you, your partner isn’t the first person to share your news with. Not only are they not the first, they sometimes don’t even make the list.
Not wanting to share stuff with each other means your interests in each other’s lives are low.
Compatible partners are keenly interested in whatever is happening in their loved one’s life. So if that’s not the case, sadly, you don’t have what it takes to call yourselves compatible.
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