Para a mulher corajosa que deixou o seu parceiro abusivo

Quando se trata de deixar uma relação abusiva , everybody talks about it like it’s the easiest thing to do.

They can all talk the talk but YOU walked the walk and I’m proud of you!

I want you to know that it doesn’t matter that it took you so long to find the courage to leave.

It doesn’t matter if you went back a few times because he lured you back in with his lies that broke you and made you crumble under his vile pressure.

You’re the only one who knows how painful and humiliating it was hearing him tell you that you were ugly and unworthy.

Telling you that you couldn’t leave because you wouldn’t be able to survive without him.

Dizer-te que ninguém te quereria, porque temia que alguém te tratasse melhor.

Gozar contigo por pensares que podias viver sem ele quando, na verdade, era ele que tinha medo de a perder, porque era ele que precisava de si.

Being in an abusive relationship fundamentally changes you in ways that you can’t even tell yourself.

It takes a huge toll on you and you become a different person, without even being aware that it’s happening.

These heinous relationships and vile partners destroy you gradually from the inside out. You feel yourself slowly burning out… until one day, there is nothing left.

You’ve burned out and you’re numb.

Ficamos entorpecidos pelo mundo, entorpecidos pelas emoções e deixamos de nos preocupar connosco e com o que nos acontece.

What you’re going through is so unimaginably painful that you genuinely stop caring about what will happen and how it will end. You just need it to stop.

There is only so much pain one person is capable of enduring and whatever you did and however you coped with the abusive nature of your partner, it’s okay.

Quaisquer que sejam as escolhas difíceis que teve de fazer, das quais pode não se orgulhar hoje, elas não são de modo algum um reflexo de si como pessoa.

São o resultado de maus tratos contínuos por parte de um homem cruel que não tinha o direito de fazer o que lhe fez.

If you’ve been there, I need you to know that it’s okay. You made it out. You’re in one piece and right now, that’s all that matters.

Whatever you had to resort to in order to get yourself here, it doesn’t matter. It got you out and that is something not a lot of people can say, so be proud of yourself.

Leva tempo até aprendermos a esquecer o que ele nos fez passar e o que fez de nós. É preciso tempo para nos construirmos de novo a partir do zero.

It’s okay to feel lost right now. It’s okay to feel weak and even miss that person at times.

Even though it was the worst kind of love… the feelings still need time to go away.

It’s going to take some time before you’re your own person again. Before you can look yourself in the mirror and recognize the woman you’re seeing.

For so long, you were leaning on the most destructive type of love, that right now you’re unsure of how to live without it.

Don’t feel like there is something wrong with you for feeling this way. There is no right way to cope with abuse.

Let yourself go at the pace you’re comfortable with.

Don’t feel bad for thinking he would change. I know that is probably why you stayed that long but know that it’s okay.

You believe in people, even when they don’t deserve it, and that is not something to be ashamed of.

És muito forte. Em primeiro lugar, por teres suportado o que fizeste e sobrevivido aos abusos, e só tu sabes exatamente quão brutal foi, e em segundo lugar, por afastar-se .

A força que precisou para finalmente partir mostra o quanto é resistente e resiliente.

Ficou o tempo que ficou porque acreditava em algo.

Querias acreditar que as coisas iam melhorar. Querias acreditar que ele ia ter a ajuda que precisava.

You desperately wanted to believe that he wouldn’t resort to abuse ever again… but when you realized your hopes were in vain, you did the hardest thing–you left.

And wherever you are right now on your road to recovery, I want you to know I’m proud of you. You did the right thing.

Fizeste a coisa mais corajosa. E por isso, merece todos os elogios e garantias do mundo.

There are going to be days that will be so dark, you won’t find a reason to get up. There are going to be days where you will be questioning yourself and doubting your choices.

Haverá obstáculos no seu caminho para a cura e, durante esses momentos, lembre-se do que fez.

Lembre-se de como foi corajosa e forte e orgulhe-se de si mesma!

The pain you’re feeling right now is proof that you are on your way to getting your life back together.

E a cada passo em frente, está a livrar-se da mágoa que ele lhe deixou e a recuperar o controlo da sua vida.