Mesmo que não o supere completamente, aprenderá a viver sem ele

Tenho a certeza de que isto não é algo que queira ouvir nesta altura, mas a verdade é que há alturas em que nunca se consegue ultrapassar a pessoa que se amou. Ela guarda sempre uma pequena parte de nós e, por vezes, nunca voltamos a ser a pessoa que éramos.

No, this doesn’t mean that this person was a sua alma gémea. It doesn’t mean that you won’t find a man you’ll love more than you loved him and it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ll spend the rest of your life missing him the way you miss him now.

Mas a verdade é que, por vezes, a pessoa de quem gostávamos tanto muda-nos para sempre. De certa forma, lembramo-nos sempre dela, por muito que tentemos apagar da nossa memória o facto de ela ter existido.

E mesmo quando pensamos que esse homem faz parte do passado e que está há muito esquecido, a sua imagem aparece mesmo à frente dos nossos olhos, do nada. Sente-se a sua colónia algures ao longe ou vê-se alguém parecido com ele e todas as borboletas voltam.

Há alguns desgostos que ficam sempre presos algures no fundo de nós e não há nada que possamos fazer. Quando se trata de alguns homens, ficamos para sempre a pensar no que poderia ter sido de vocês os dois e nunca os ultrapassamos completamente.

But one thing is for sure—you learn to live without them, sooner or later. And this is exactly what will happen with this guy as well.

I won’t lie to you—there is a possibility that you never forget all about him. But before you know it, he’ll no longer be the first or the last thing that goes through your mind every single day.

Before you know it, you’ll get used to his absence and you won’t crave his presence anymore. You’ll get used to this person not being a part of your life. And you’ll be OK without him.

One of these days, you’ll start smiling without any particular reason. You’ll hear his name and your heart won’t skip a beat the way it used to.

You’ll stop looking for him on the other side of the bed and your sheets will lose his scent. You won’t think he is calling you every time your phone rings and you’ll stop expecting his text every minute of every day. You’ll accept the fact that ele bloqueou-o e vêem-no como a melhor coisa que vos aconteceu desde há algum tempo.

One of these nights, you won’t even notice that you didn’t cry yourself to sleep. You’ll look forward to a new day, even though you’ll know that he won’t be in it.

One of these days, you’ll take off your rose-tinted glasses and you’ll see this man for who he’s really been all of this time. You’ll stop idealizing him and you’ll finally see all of his flaws and imperfections.

You’ll accept that it was for the better that things turned out the way they did. You’ll accept that you would probably never be happy around this guy, you’ll see all of your incompatibilities and differences and you’ll realize that you weren’t meant to last forever.

One of these days, you’ll accept the fact that he’s gone and that he isn’t coming back. You won’t expect to see him on your doorstep, asking for forgiveness and just like that—you’ll stop waiting for him.

Just like that, you’ll stop counting the days which have passed since his departure. You’ll stop measuring the time before and after him and you won’t feel like a part of you is missing just because he is not there by your side.

Pode pensar nele no dia do seu aniversário ou no dia do vosso aniversário. Poderá ficar triste quando souber que ele se casou, pensando em como deveria ter sido o vosso casamento.

You’ll probably spend the next few hours replaying your relationship in your head every time you see him pass by you.

Mas vais curar-te. Vais sobreviver e vais seguir em frente. The pain won’t be all-consuming the way it is now and your heart won’t ache forever—I promise you that.