A la valiente mujer que abandonó a su compañero maltratador

Cuando se trata de dejar una relación abusiva , everybody talks about it like it’s the easiest thing to do.

They can all talk the talk but YOU walked the walk and I’m proud of you!

I want you to know that it doesn’t matter that it took you so long to find the courage to leave.

It doesn’t matter if you went back a few times because he lured you back in with his lies that broke you and made you crumble under his vile pressure.

You’re the only one who knows how painful and humiliating it was hearing him tell you that you were ugly and unworthy.

Telling you that you couldn’t leave because you wouldn’t be able to survive without him.

Diciéndote que nadie te querría, porque temía que alguien te tratara mejor.

Burlándome de ti por pensar que podrías vivir sin él cuando en realidad era él quien tenía miedo de perderte, porque era él quien te necesitaba.

Being in an abusive relationship fundamentally changes you in ways that you can’t even tell yourself.

It takes a huge toll on you and you become a different person, without even being aware that it’s happening.

These heinous relationships and vile partners destroy you gradually from the inside out. You feel yourself slowly burning out… until one day, there is nothing left.

You’ve burned out and you’re numb.

Te vuelves insensible al mundo, insensible a las emociones y dejas de preocuparte por ti mismo y por lo que te ocurre.

What you’re going through is so unimaginably painful that you genuinely stop caring about what will happen and how it will end. You just need it to stop.

There is only so much pain one person is capable of enduring and whatever you did and however you coped with the abusive nature of your partner, it’s okay.

Sean cuales sean las decisiones difíciles que hayas tenido que tomar y de las que hoy no te sientas orgulloso, no son en absoluto un reflejo de ti como persona.

Son el resultado de los continuos abusos de un hombre despiadado que no tenía derecho a hacerte lo que te hizo.

If you’ve been there, I need you to know that it’s okay. You made it out. You’re in one piece and right now, that’s all that matters.

Whatever you had to resort to in order to get yourself here, it doesn’t matter. It got you out and that is something not a lot of people can say, so be proud of yourself.

Se necesita tiempo antes de que aprendas a olvidar por lo que te hizo pasar y lo que hizo de ti. Lleva tiempo volver a construirte a ti mismo desde los cimientos.

It’s okay to feel lost right now. It’s okay to feel weak and even miss that person at times.

Even though it was the worst kind of love… the feelings still need time to go away.

It’s going to take some time before you’re your own person again. Before you can look yourself in the mirror and recognize the woman you’re seeing.

For so long, you were leaning on the most destructive type of love, that right now you’re unsure of how to live without it.

Don’t feel like there is something wrong with you for feeling this way. There is no right way to cope with abuse.

Let yourself go at the pace you’re comfortable with.

Don’t feel bad for thinking he would change. I know that is probably why you stayed that long but know that it’s okay.

You believe in people, even when they don’t deserve it, and that is not something to be ashamed of.

Eres muy fuerte. En primer lugar, por soportar lo que hiciste y sobrevivir al abuso y sólo tú sabes exactamente lo brutal que fue, y en segundo lugar, por alejarse .

La fuerza que necesitaste para irte finalmente demuestra lo fuerte y resistente que eres.

Te quedaste tanto tiempo porque creías en algo.

Querías creer que las cosas irían mejor. Querías creer que recibiría la ayuda que necesitaba.

You desperately wanted to believe that he wouldn’t resort to abuse ever again… but when you realized your hopes were in vain, you did the hardest thing–you left.

And wherever you are right now on your road to recovery, I want you to know I’m proud of you. You did the right thing.

Has sido valiente. Y por eso te mereces todos los elogios y la tranquilidad del mundo.

There are going to be days that will be so dark, you won’t find a reason to get up. There are going to be days where you will be questioning yourself and doubting your choices.

Habrá obstáculos en tu camino hacia la curación y durante esos momentos, recuerda lo que hiciste.

Recuerda lo valiente y fuerte que fuiste y siéntete orgulloso de ti mismo.

The pain you’re feeling right now is proof that you are on your way to getting your life back together.

Y con cada paso adelante, te liberas del daño que te dejó y recuperas de nuevo el control de tu vida.